belong anywhere or to anyone and who isolate you and try to make you feel on your own, belittle you and make you feel inadequate?
in alot of my bullying past, alot of the bullies were like this towards me, in high school. im 30 now and have borderline personality disorder.
but id love to no how to deal with this problem
2007-07-22 07:57:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
By realising that even if everybody hates you (as cynical as this sounds) that you are still acceptable as a person and capable of happiness. By also realising that you tend to "awfulize" and "catastrophize" and panic about how "awful" dislike and rejection is. By realizing that maybe you see others in terms of black and white instead of seeing that others too are highly fallible and entitled to their opinion not to like you, as wrong as they may be. Sure, its not pretty, its very bad and uncomfortable to be disliked, but there will always be someone who could potentially like you, and getting so angry and anxious wont help you. Your intense fear may aslo contribute to you "making" people leave you becuase you get so clingy. Have you thought about seeing your doctor again and discussing treatment?
2007-07-22 08:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by RadicalReason 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not your past. Your past just got you here.
How you think is important. You can spend all your life looking back at what happened. Or you can plan what you want to do in the future and move toward it day by day.
Focus on what you are doing today, looking forward to the goals you set yourself. Be happy by doing exactly what you want to get to your goal. Don't let anyone stand in your way.
Don't allow yourself to be told that you are a disease or a victim. You are unique with your own beliefs, attitudes and habits. You are your own person.
Go for it!
2007-07-22 15:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by HJG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you also might be a very sensitive person too. People are mean at times and do not realize the pain they cause others emotionally.
Try to think about it this way. It is a reflection on them and who they are! It in no way has anything to do with you. They are doing this because they think that putting others down makes them better. They prey upon people who are sensitive and take things to heart.
you need to separate their behavior though and realize it is on them, not you.
I think you isolate yourself in order to protect yourself from this kind of treatment. Not everybody is like this though. There are nice people around too. Sometimes it is hard to know though.
2007-07-22 15:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remeber those people have their own insecurites thats why they make u feel bad and fool you because it takes the spotlight away from their own lives...dont ever let anyone ruin yur chances of having a happy life u deserve it...its gods gift to u and dnt let losers like that mess it up for you!think to urself and believe ur the most important person on the world and dnt let any1 get in the way what they thin or feel is unnecassary aslong as ur happy and the way u are!!!
just be proud and confident and if life throws **** at u just miss it and move on with life its nt worth the bother
2007-07-22 15:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had that for years, now I miss it for that person is not in my life. I loved him but at times I did not like him, he was my father. He died several years ago. As for bullies they are not a live, I out lived them. Ain't that great. All you have is the future and it will be an adventure, for you only live it once. Sorry I did not write earlier but had to work.
2007-07-22 21:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Professional counselling would benefit you enormously- its a shame you let it get this far into your life before you decided to deal with it. You need to learn to have some self esteem and a counseller would help you work through that.
2007-07-22 15:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from these power nuts who want to degrade and humiliate you for the sake of thier joy.Find new friends that support truth and the correct way to live.
2007-07-22 15:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by (A) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got a friend a job' working at my employment,
.We started OK then he wanted attention from other colleagues.
And to my amazement he was belittling me' and forming an army to bait me..
Now I keep a distance from him, and he knows it..
they are insecure people.
2007-07-22 15:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by denis9705 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to build up your own self belief, write a list of everything about you thats good and everything you've achieved, also counselling would surely help.
These bullies were nothing more than arseh@les who cares what they think about you, do you need them in your life? no f@ck them.
2007-07-22 15:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋