Should i be worried??

Question

right well i met this girl in the bar 2 weeks ago we exchanged numbers and nothing happened not a kiss nout anyway i went out with ehr again last night. i got pretty drunk and she wasent drinking because she was working today i wasent you know that drunk i meen tipsy is probably a better word. (i still had my head on my shoulders)

anyway she kissed me last night just before i left we were with other people it was only a peck on lips but u know more than a freindly peck

anyway she text me this morning really early and said she really liked me and couldent stop thinking of me and she really cared about me. i dont know what i feel for her at the moment ive only known her 2 weeks i know i like her and i jsut text her back saying i like her too and she hasent text me back that was 6 hours ago.

you dont think i hurt her feelings or anything do you i meen she opened up 2 me and i was kind of blunt in my feelings back.

please serious answers

o and btw im a bit worried that she's gunna be clingy im not ready for a really serious relationship but i really like her so i dont know what to do i just need advice. btw i shud probably metion im 20 she is 25

Answer 1

It does sound like she's looking for a serious relationship. Especially at 25, many women are ready to settle down. Just be open and honest with her, and let what happens, happen.


And for the record: Drinking on a first date when your lady isn't? Bad form.

Answer 2

I doubt it. While she would probably have preferred you to be more sentimental in your answer, she'd probably see it as a good thing that you said you liked her.

There are several things it could be, in my opinion. She could be playing games. Like if you took what she considers too long to respond to her message, she might have been insulted and wants you to feel how she feels.

Or she could just be trying not to seem desperate. Sometimes women are afraid men will think that they are clingy if they text back right away so she might be trying to avoid that. Women and men tend to see new relationships differently.

And then theres always the easiest answer, maybe she's preoccupied, at work, with friends, etc. and hasn't had time to read/answer your text.

But if she didn't want to hear you tell her that you liked her, she wouldn't have told you that she felt that way. I wouldn't worry if I were you.

Answer 3

You need to put the cards out on the table from the very beginning.
You need to tell her that you are not looking for a committed relationship right now.
You're just looking for someone to go out and have fun with.
Tell her if it develops into more, then you'll cross that bridge when you come to it, but right now you just want to have fun.
Then she will either accept that or decide that she is looking for a "relationship".
Then as the friendship continues and she develops and you don't. Atleast you were honest with her from the very beginning.
But you never know, this could turn into a long, loving relationship.
It usually happens when you're not looking ;)

Answer 4

Hi i'm Jack P....Advice for you....Well from the sound of it..you already answered your own question...you said that you are not ready for a relationship right?...even though she might be thinking you are the one...2 ways you can go about this...tell her that you have not known each other for very long...and you really want to evaluate your feelings for her before you tell her that you want to take it to the next level....or you could just say you are not looking for a major commitment right now ....let her know that you do like her and maybe in time you would want things go to the next level but for now lets just keep things the way they are and if it what happens ....happens....and if it dosen't well we tried....

Answer 5

i think it could go 1 of 3 ways
1 she will end up real clingy and weird
2 she was already awake (for work) and thought she would say something nice to make you feel better about being sloppy last nite. and she may want to give u another chance to impress her
she may not be done working and stuff and that is why u havent heard from her.
3 she was giving u the kiss off with the text.
i guess that it will be a combo of 1 & 2
gd luck tho

Answer 6

Dude, what the hell do you mean by you " I like her but don't want a serious relationship"? Do you just want her as a **** buddy? It sounds like she wants you guys to date. Nothing clingy about that unless you just wanna sleep around with other girls at the same time. To me, that's just creepy but then again, I'm 31 so it could be an age related factor.

Anyway, I hate to tell ya pal but if you like someone, the next logical and mature thing is to have a relationship. Doesn't mean you have to get married but be with ONE girl. Just act like a gentleman and don't sleep around...lots of STDs out there, man!

Answer 7

If you do not text her relatively soon, she will get hurt. If you like her and she likes you, I`d text her! When you meet, if she gets all "aww...I want to get married soon and get kids and I am looking for the love of my life etc", then you tell her gently that you like her, but that you are not ready for a serious relationship right now.

Answer 8

if ur not ready yet, then don't rush!! the least you could do not to hurt her feelings is to be honest to her. and besides, are u really sure that this girl is serious..i mean, u 2 know each other for weeks only..watch out..she might just be playing games..

Answer 9

U two r playing dating games. I don't think u hurt her feelings. In end u might be the one who get hurt, cuz she seems she is not that serious anyway. So be careful.

Answer 10

No offense dude, but from the looks of your letter you're still a bit drunk! I hope she has the good sense to stay away from an immature kid who can't control himself. Good luck and grow up!