how did you meet your real love and are you still happy?

Question

I envy those couples who really respect and understand each other.

Are they really happy as they look?

I used be a cynic about love telling "love is just an illusion made by our own fantasy and hope.sooner or later we r gonna be tired and bored"

recently I came to work with a lady, she is a real nice one.I can find in her eyes the genuine kindness.

I had my left foot hurt 3days ago, she everyday asked me about this, I was so moved.

I have now big crush on her I found the beauty in her kindness , I guess this kind of beauty will never be bored. Her kind eyes and smile are really attractive.

I even wrote a ballade thinking of her, nobody knows.

Are you still happy with the love that you found ?

Answer 1

I met my wife in High School. We have been together for 16 years, married for twelve of those years. We are very happy together, and I cannot predict the future but I don't see us ever separating. What you have to realize is that a relationship is work. You have to get up every day and actively work on it. It never gets to a point where you can just ride the wave so to speak. The minute one person stops working at it things start falling apart. I have experienced this several times in my own relationship. The difference between a lasting relationship and one that is short-time is the commitmnet of each person to work at it constantly.

The bottom line for me is know the person you're with. Is this the kind of person who is commited to making it work or are they looking for fairy tale romance?

Good luck and remember the basis for any relationship is communication. Tell her how you feel and everything will be as it should.

With love,
Shane K.

Answer 2

I'm not sure why this is in the religion and spirituality forum, but I suppose for a lot of people love is a very spiritual experience. Even for me, and I'm a hard-core atheist.

I met the love of my life when I was still in high school. We had a European history class together. We liked each other immediately, but then were separated for a while. When we saw each other again, about a year later, we started going out.

That was two years ago, and I am still very much in love, and just as happy as I look.

(This is not meant to give the impression that love is easy - it's not. But the struggle makes all the more worthwhile.)

Answer 3

Your story is very touching. I hope things go well for you, but from the little information you give, it may not turn into anything. This woman is obviously kind and thoughtful, and when you've been lonely for a while a kind word can seem like heaven.

If you have the strength to just worship her from a distance, then everything will be fine, but it's human nature to want more. Sadly, compassionate and thoughtful people have to keep their kindness to themselves in case it's taken as interest rather than simple thoughtfulness.

Think of this: if her concern for your comfort had an ulterior motive because she fancied you, would that make her kindness less than it seemed?

At any rate, I hope your dreams come true, but you should be careful not to make things worse for yourself.

Good luck.

CD

Answer 4

My husband and I met at a friends house who we all were involved in certain recreational stuff and we just hit it off and had fun together and married after 6 months. Our anniversay is July 27th- 10 Years! He is the love of my life. If He is hurting I hurt.
Make sure its right. Go on dates in my experiences if you don't know who she is and get married it could be bad later. Make sure you both are ready. It seems your extremely in love.
I had a High School crush and it ripped my heart cause he didn't have the same feelings for me. We were great friends and just the charm he had I was was so attractive to but I was not his type.

Answer 5

I met my love over the course of many years...we were just good friends, and talked all the time. It was also his kindness that got to me....he is a wonderful person. We walked home one day and sat on a bench, and we just kissed, everything was so sunny and perfect outside. =) That was a long time ago...but we still feel the same as we did back then, maybe even more so. He is my other half. You should tell the girl how you feel.

Answer 6

After many years of looking I found my Soul Mate about 10 years ago - it's the most wonderful thing you can imagine. Genuine love and acceptance with no requirements. We let each other be whatever we wish and do not allow stupid differences like politics or religion influence our commitment.

Answer 7

My husband was my ex boyfriends best friend. We've been married 25 years and have two of the worlds greatest kids, one grandbaby and one on the way. We've had more than a couple bumps in the road but I am still in love with him and he tells me he loves me everyday. Still happy! Can't imagine life without him. God bless!!

Answer 8

I am not certain how one defines "love', but I have lived with many girls. We have had pleasing relationships. My current #1 gal is Miyuki from Japan. I was involved with her room-mate, and Miyuki flirted with me when the roomie returned to Japan for some modelling work there. The roomie complained about high rents, so I pointed out bulletin boards in Japantown advertising for roomies.

Answer 9

I met my husband through one of his best friends (who, coincidentally, I used to date a few years ago, and who is now married to one of my friends from high school) almost five years ago. We've been married for almost four years now.

I can honestly say...that my feelings towards him have changed. I was so in love with him the first year we were together...now, I'm even MORE in love with him. I couldn't imagine living without him...not permanently, anyway.

Answer 10

I met my wife in 1999 and the Lord told me that there is the one I have prepared for you. I asked her to marry me one week later, she said yes, got married 3 months later and it's the second best decision I have ever made. I will give you one guess as to my 1st best decision.