I've heard from guys that most guys are just nice because they want to get with you.
So how are girls meant to figure out which guys are worth their time and which guys are just acting?
How do we find the "nice guys" out there?
2007-07-22 05:32:01 · 16 answers · asked by T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow guys thanks. this is really helpful.
and there are some pretty nice answers by guys, so its gives me hope that the whole entire male gender arnt jerks.
thank you thank you thank you.
2007-07-22 06:04:25 · update #1
You let relationships develop slowly and deliberately. Speed and good choices don't go in the same sentence AT ALL. Next, you require respect and look for give and take from potential guys. Be VERY suspicious if a guy assures you he's great and in love with you even before he knows you. Look for guys who respect waitresses, other drivers, clerks, or others such folks. Avoid those who are quick to criticize you or anyone else in their life. Don't let things that bother you about a guy slide--those things will never get any better--you get a gold-plated, gilt-edged guarantee on that one.
2007-07-22 05:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to have a standard to measure against. I'm a Christian so the only real standard that works for me to measure against is if the qualities of that person are of someone who is godly or worth knowing.
#1 if that person is not saved then they already have a different heart then me and we aren't going to be unified in heart, possibly a physical attraction at best
#2 What does the person talk about? It says in Proverbs out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks and also
Matthew 6:21
For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
I can tell that when all someone talks about is their drinking habits, their money or job or gossips about someone else, then that's all there is to them. That means you will never experience a deeper context in that relationship. When people start only saying bad things and talking about useless crap, then that tells you that is what is in their heart. If someone is interesting, thoughtful, loving, respectful, patient, etc.... you can hear this in their words
#3 How do they act or what is their lifestyle like. After having talked to them you have to figure out if your lifestyle is in sync with theirs. If it's not but you choose to stay with them then your lifestyle will change to be in sync with theirs. If they are in a lot of junk then they will pull you into a pit so to speak. To be honest and I don't mean to pick on women, but because many women are so caring and sweet they will stay with a guy, because they are so sweet or because he is a "fixer-upper". This isn't always the best plan. So test out some of these things and see if the guy's worth your time....
2007-07-22 12:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sinister-6000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, that is a fair question...however today that cuts both ways.I am a widower at 45. I just met a nice gal via yahoo took her to dinner/the park. Had a great time(both of us) however a few days later she stopped calling me.No explanation. I was a gentleman. Even asked her if I could kiss her...settled for a hug (still nice). A lot of times a gal wants a nice guy but really wants the bad boy. Wish you luck. This young lady really needs to learn manners. Jim
2007-07-22 12:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by gamma424 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only way u will know it time. Time will tell u whether he is the nice guy or the bad guy. U won't know until u get to know them better. But let me tell u something, u don't see that many nice guys out there anymore because nice guys finish last. They get played and dumped so most guys don't want to be nice guys. They want to be bad guys cause most girls love bad guys. If u do find a nice guy, don't let him go. Trust me on this!!!!
2007-07-22 12:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by sad guy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The easy way is to trust you gut...and it's quite simple. If you think he is a good guy..he IS NOT one.
Most guys are nice because they just want to get with a girl.
Nice guys are easy to spot....but you won't like what you see. They are the guys that are NOT driving hot sports cars, the ones that DON"T have fancy clothes, the ones that DON"T have a string of ex-girlfriends.
These guys are the geeks, nerds, and such..of course. and you'd never go out with one of them...right. So just go out with the other guys..and look for one who is slightly less a jerk then the rest.
2007-07-22 12:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most women I know have gravitated toward bad boys, it's the lowest common denominator. It has to do with issues of self-worth, integrity, honesty, self-image. Bad boys have an edge, even a mean streak that makes them exciting and brutal. That kind of of charisma is narcotic. Bad boys have yet to fully evolve.
Listen to what they say and how they say it. Bad boys have low attention spans, True nice guys are strong, of good character, and into romance. They are true gentlemen, but not wooses. They are articulate and confident with who they are and they have distinctive values that make they attractive and sexy. They will never intentionally hurt you.
2007-07-22 13:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell....that is why you don't want to jump into bed with any man to fast cause they will say anything to try and get you there as quickly as they can....and for the bad ones, its off to their next conquest....the good ones will be patient and wait for you....the true colors of a man come out when you turn them down sexually.
2007-07-22 12:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by katrenarocks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't want nice guys. They want the alpha males who will take them where they want to go.
2007-07-22 12:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly its all trial and error,
we guys do get hurt 2! nice guys are the single ones!
"nice guys finish last"
2007-07-22 12:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
PERSEVERENCE!!! + tons&tons&tons of patience...+ its always good to talk w/ one of their exes (generally they hate this- i personally think its lots of fun). Also, i have yet to have an ex give me bad info + i've gained some new friends. It's a win-win situation! lots of luck(i think you require a certain amount of that also). NEVER NEVER lose sight of who YOU are...happy hunting...
2007-07-22 12:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by BOGUSCHARGED 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋