i've been dating a girl for two years now and i REALLY do love her. but for the past few months we've been agruing a lot and im tired of it. but her grandpa just died who she was really close to and her parents got divorsed so im wondering if that has a lot to do with her short temper. then there is another girl who i've had my eye on for about 4 years and now she has a boy friend but he is moving out of state and she doesnt know if she loves him any more and she doesnt want a long distance relationship. lately she has been calling me a lot and flirting with me and im thinkin more about her than my girlfriend. i know i love my girlfriend a lot but im wondering if the "fire" is gone from our relationship. give me ur input please =)
2007-07-22 05:03:27 · 25 answers · asked by Curly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well just try to count up all the good parts of your relationship with your girlfriend and all the good parts of the other girl and then the reasons explaining the bad parts and then you might get a larger look over of the situation and think who you can see yourself with in the future! Good luck!
xox
2007-07-22 05:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curly, it sounds like your girl friend has a lot on her emotional plate right now. Talk to her and see if her heart is really into your relationship right now. Maybe she needs some alone time to deal with her losses (some people need that). If she does need a break, the best thing you can do is be there for her when she needs it - be her friend. All in all, your mind needs to be on her and what she is going through right now. This is life and every relationship is different. If you truely love her than you wouldn't be thinking of another girl. Don't be so quick to leave her high and dry when things aren't going your way. Remember to think with the head on your shoulders NOT the little one in your pants!!! Just because you argue and don't get a long some times doesn't mean it's time to end the relationship, the fire has died out, or it's time to replace her with the slutty-ho that is flirting with you on the phone. Think about it!!!
2007-07-22 12:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, a couple of things here buddy.
1. the fire isn't gone from your relationship, your 2 year long relationship with your girlfriend is going through somethign serious because your 2 year girlfriend is going through some serious sh^% in life yet you can't be patient and understand and supportive in all of this.
2. the other girl you had your eyes on is flirting with you and showing you signs of interest and it has you sprung. man oh man.
this is what you need to do.
i know you say you love your girlfriend, but think again my brother. you do not love her. if you love her, you would be there for her at this time, because she needs you now more than ever. but for you to be thinking about someone else instead and not be considerate of your girlfriend is just cold to me. leave your girlfriend because she deserves better. you are no good ma friend. no disrespect though, it's just the way it is.
peace
2007-07-22 12:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by mama2be 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You really want advice? All of you should stop trying to be exclusive with your "soul mate" and date around. There are plenty of years ahead to settle down with one person. The person you are "in love with for all time" right now probably won't even like you in 5 more years because you will both grow in different ways, and most "forever" relationships in school don't last past the end of school. Love is something that doesn't have to be restricted to just one other person, it is the only thing that grows the more you give it away. Trust me , you can certainly love more than one person. But just because you don't "love" someone, doesn't mean you can't enjoy being in their company. Have fun, don't try to be so serious about life.
2007-07-22 12:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current girlfriend has a lot to deal with recently and really needs you to be there for her right now. The stress seems to dividing you two right now.
The other woman is probably looking for love on the rebound. You say you love your girlfriend. You are thrilled with the attention that you're getting from this other woman as your girlfriend is too preoccupied right now to give you any.
Don't be fooled by this other woman. She's probably aware that you've had this major crush on her and is taking advantage of the situation.
If you are contemplating getting together with her tell your current girlfriend as cheating on her is the worst thing that can happen to her right now....
Also, don't remain in a relationship out of obligation.
2007-07-22 12:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ash23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you love your girlfriend. You said you had been with her for 2 years and you have known the other girl for 4 years. The one girl you have known the longest, has a man in her life who is moving away. It sounds to me like you got with your girlfriend for the time being. You were waiting for the other girl to end her relationship.
The girl doesn't know if she loves her man just cause he is moving and she doesn't want a long distance relationship. So basically she is wanting you now. She is flirting with you and you are her second choice. Why would you wanna be someone's second choice?!?
Your girlfriend is going through hell and you aren't being very nice to her and you are not being understanding. You are thinking about the other girl cause she is about to be free and she has no drama in her life like your girlfriend does at the moment.
If you truly loved your girlfriend, you wouldn't think about the other girl and you'd try to help her through the hell she's been through. You are being unfair. If you really love your girlfriend then concentrate on her, forget the other girl. If you don't love your girlfriend, then let her go cause she deserves better.
Think hard about who you really want and why. Good Luck!
2007-07-22 12:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oddly enough I'm in the same situation. I have been dating my guy for about two years now and we argue all the time about dumb things and I wonder if that is how the rest of my life is going to be, meanwhile my ex has come back into the picture and is finally ready for commitment like i wanted him to be three years ago. Anyway enough about my story, my strategy for handling that situation was to step back for about a week, minimize the contact with both people and think about what I wanted more. I know it sounds cheesy but I also made a pro and con list. After I figured out that I wanted to keep things going with my current boyfriend, I decided to look at myself and what was going on in my life and his as well and figure out where all the stress was coming from. I am 100% sure that she has a lot of frustration from her parents' recent divorce and the death of her grandfather because I have been down that road too. If you choose to stay with her, you need to help her down her path to recovery. Things do get better, I promise. If something is good enough and worth it, then it is worth putting more effort into. I hope everything smoothes itself out for you.
2007-07-22 12:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't say you love your gf if you're thinking such thoughts. Your gf is just going through a rough time. Can you imagine yourself in her position? Wouldn't you want her to care for you and be understanding? This might even make your relationship stronger than ever. Of course it's easy to let go and find anyone else. The hard part is staying together and making things work for the better. Just make sure you make the right decision and think it through. Mistakes are unforgivable sometimes. =)
2007-07-22 12:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend could be short tempered because of all of her personal losses. That aside it sounds like you're almost ready to move on. If you've had your eye on this girl for four years it seems like you've been kind of waiting for a clear field to persue something with her. You can wait for your present girlfriend time to get through her grieving period and see where your relationship stands or move on now. You could suggest grief counselling to hurry the process along.
2007-07-22 12:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love this girl, so could you really leave her in her time of need? i think u need to view up the pros and cons say u left your current girl friend for girl number 2 what happens if in the future she decides 2 chuck u in just like she has the last 1 would u be ok with that ??? well i should hope so because that is exactly what u are doing to your current girlfriend if u decide to go for girl number 2
i hope this helps you see sense stay with your girl friend through her time of need shes been through alot things can only get better x
2007-07-22 12:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋