We keep fighting and I am convinced he doesn't understand me. He is unwilling to try to talk to me because he says I drive him crazy when I try to talk to him. In my mind I fill as though if we could only talk and really connect I would fill better and less confused. Do you have any suggestions? I could really use some advice about now.
2007-07-22 04:54:29 · 13 answers · asked by Friend 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
How involved has he been in your treatment of your disorder?
I would get him involved in counseling before you make such a decision. Spouses who take their vows seriously are supposed to support one another and be together in sickness and in health.
Unless he's abusing you, the divorce isn't worth it. You have to remember what brought you both together in the first place.
2007-07-22 05:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!! the reason your rethinking youre decision is because its 25 years not because your bi polar just calm down go out tonight with some friends a sister a girl get some wine and sweets and a box of tissues rent sex and the city and youll be laughing and crying one big mess and then talk with youre friend and say to youre each day im okay every thing is alright and one day maybe not today tommorow or next week but one day you wont have to tell yourself that any more youll just know! and btw any break up is hard just let yourself have youre time to cry and feel shitty dont rush youre natural stages i hope this helps and you feel better take care hun! youll be alrite!
2007-07-22 05:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you did not do the right thing. When you said your vows I know that you ment them. You guys need to get counseling or something. You don't just give up because of some arguing. Get help. I am bi polar and trust me I know I drive my husband crazy and we argue but we love each other and at the end of the day want to be together and cannot live without each other.
2007-07-22 05:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many alternatives to helping you out there right now. First, find a good therapist to talk to, second, try a bi-polar prescription...I recommend Seroquol it's not prone to so many side effects as others, and you can regulate the dosage as you feel....
Don't ask for a divorce, you just are having a rough time. And you might be hard to understand right now if you aren't getting any help for your disorder. Bi-polars go through major extremes and have a hard time relating to people. What ever you do, do NOT drink alcohol with this. Alcohol can make your episodes explode and cloud your thinking even more.
There is hope, and you need him to be there for you. Sit him down and explain you do love him, but you need help. It takes time, but the support of a loved one is well worth it.
good luck and try your local mental clinic...they usually have loving and supportive therapists.....
2007-07-22 05:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by jaimi b 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, you did not do the right thing.
Marriage is for a lifetime.
Tell him you asked for a divorce in haste, and that what you really want is to IMPROVE your marriage.
Sit down together and find a marriage therapist.
Don't scrap 25 years of marriage just because you're having trouble communicating. That's a copout. Address the problem, don't run from it. If you don't address the problem, it will just happen again in your next marriage.
2007-07-22 04:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by michele 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about taking your spouse with you to see your psychiatrist? Tell him or her about the problem in advance, and ask them to talk to your husband about the situation. You could also ask your psychiatrist to recommend a good marriage counselor. I'm sorry you're going through this. Bipolar disorder is so difficult. You really need your spouse to be supportive. Maybe your spouse doesn't really understand bipolar? Good luck.
2007-07-22 04:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by TeriR 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
25 years is really along time to just through out the window....BUT marriage is a two way street and if he isn't willing to work with you on it maybe a break is a good idea, maybe he doesn't take you seriously and a test is what he needs
2007-07-22 04:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I broke up with my girlfriend when I was having a manic episode and now I really regret it.
Make sure you take plenty of time to make the decision (months, not days) to make sure it REALLY is what you want to do. Because it is a big decision, and you don't get to change your mind later.
Please take time, lots of time...don't make a quick decision that you will regret.
2007-07-22 06:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this may be a question for you to figure out on your own, afterall we don't know your husband. Do you imagine yourself living without him? If you can't maybe you should try and resolve things, try couple counseling? It may sound a bit naeve but you never know. Ask yourself if your marriage is worth fighting for.
2007-07-22 05:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him if he cares if you are bi polar. Tell him you will try harder to be uni-polar. Does he want a divorce or you or neither? Hope you can work it out. 25 years is a long time to be together. Good luck.
2007-07-22 04:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋