How can I overcome the need to have sex?

Question

I am trying to live right with God. But it seems like I easily fall into temptations of the flesh. I would be good for several months, then the urges come 10 times stronger. I truly to find my soulmate and wait until marriage, but I really like having sex, especially if she is my girlfriend. I have not had sex in awhile, but if I cannot deal with it now, six months from now, I will be in the bed with some girl. What can I do?

Answer 1

You need to have sex whenever you can. This is the best way to control your sexual urges.

Really . . . waiting for marriage is a noble gesture but you're human, not saint. If you have a loving relationship, sex is a natural part of this adult give and take.

On the other hand, lying your *** off just to get in some girl's pants would be the other, and wrong, opposite extreme. If you're between relationships then, what can I say? Tough it out. You're a man, no?

Chastity: The most unnatural of the sexual perversions. ~Aldous Huxley

Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand. ~Woody Allen

Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go it's one of the best. ~Woody Allen

Sex relieves tension - love causes it. ~Woody Allen

Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions. ~Woody Allen

Answer 2

Well, I think you are on the right track!
You have the desire in your heart to do good!
Fantastic!!!!!
I think it is especially difficult for people once
they have been intimate once!
When I was single, the thought that stayed in my mind
was my conviction that sex is not just a physical connection,
it creates a spiritual connection as well. I remained a
virgin until I got married at the age of 30! I did not
want to wait that long! It was long, yet the more I
said "no" the easier it was to say "no." It also helps to
not be alone much or too long with your date - one thing leads to another pretty quickly! Play tennis or something instead! Keep a physical distance and tell your girlfriend when you are having trouble and she will understand!
Limit to hand holding, hugging, and quick kisses goodnight mostly - especially before being engaged! Think "old fashioned." I hope this helps!

Answer 3

The whole goal of man is to gain control of our wants and desires but it is important to realize that suppression isn't the correct action. The more spiritual that you become, the more you see a unity, a oneness but this isn't over night or something you can do. What you resist will persist. Sex is natural to all life yet the human has turned it into an obsession. Unlike other species man has taken sex out of a natural context. All other species have sex only at certain seasonal times, most conducive to procreation. It is recreation to the human animal. The closer you get to spirit the less you will desire union with the opposite sex for it is only a reflection of mans Union with Spirit.

Answer 4

WHAT? Why would you even try to overcome the most fundamental instinct that perpetuates our species? Just use protection.
We don't practice slavery any more because we've matured morally since the time the bible was written and now realize it is wrong. We know how to care for and properly cook pork, so the proscription on it is no longer necessary.
Likewise, we now have disease protection, contraception, and DNA testing should the father of a child be in question. There is no longer any reason to practice the silly rules of sexual repression found in the bible.

Answer 5

I think that we are all set on our own level as to how we feel about sex.

This is what I see in what you wrote that maybe I could give some insight to.

1) You are all wrapped up in yourself. It might not be your fault, I find that a lot of Christianity is like that. You were trained to judge your walk by what you see yourself doing. While some inflective examination is warranted, the focus of what you ought to be looking at is whether or not you are in FAITH!

2) Since you focused on yourself, you see sin. Good. I see sin in me too. And isn't that the reason why we know we need Christ in the first place? Isn't the realization that we need Christ because we do not want to be that way and believe that we would suffer the wrath of God without Christ the reason why we started trusting Him in the first place?

So yes, you love sex. I love sex too, especially with the right person. But as we focus on God we displace that fleshly nature with the life of God's Spirit and we (from my experience ), are preoccupied by what He would have us do.

So there is the answer to what we all must do; Trust in God. Look to Him. Take your eyes off yourself now that you see yourself plainly and get on with your life of Faith.

That's my advice to myself as well.

Answer 6

what a man think in his heart
his mouth speaks..and god is not mocked..man reaps what he sown.
so..what words and thoughts are you meditating on?
when we meditate..that is what come forth.
if you mediate on sex...it will come forth.
now that you are resisting to think about it.
then come a thought..WHO IS THE BRINGER OF THESE THOGUHTS..yours or satan?
i rest my case..satan want you to sin..so that..what he has plans for you..will do you evil.
and wisdom..whatever spiritual state that girl is ..you get some of it TOO!
if she a coward..it will add to yourself..if she is a liar..it will add to you..ect.
when we human unite..it's more than just physical fitting..it is a spiritual and emontional fitting.

that why laying down with whores..male or female..each of them..will have a whoring spirit in them..and the lust of the flesh..can never be satitfied..NEVER.it just demands MORE..of whatever addiction the body get into.

fasting KILL the addiction.
fast from the thoughts and vision and the talk
will help you..fully conquer.

you do have grace of GOD..just don't abuse it.
again..what a man thinks..so he is.
a loser? a horny toad..a jerk..or..a conquer..and overcomer..ect..GOD will empower you>>IF? you call on him..in the beginning of the battle...demons hate the blood of JESUS..they hate praises and songs of GOD...so these are goos spiritual weapons..2chroncile 20 is a good faith and victory story..i think it is book 2..not one of chronicle.cpahter 20 is a sure thing..

Answer 7

It's a chemical that your brain produces, its what makes you chase women, the trick is to marry one so you have it on tap. some people's brains don't produce much and they can resist but if you can't, marry any chick, why does she need to be a soul mate if you get a ugly one at lest you will know she will be faithful hell get a fat one that cooks good as a bonus, why be picky there just for sex, if you could resist it you wouldn't bother with them, they all give you grief you should know that by now, but it's the price you pay if you can not resist the flesh

Answer 8

Religions try to make people feel guilty for these urges, but these urges are natural. All animals, including us humans, want to have sex and reproduce. Don't worry about the unnatural teachings from religious leaders. Have sex and be happy. Just remember to use condoms and contraception.

Answer 9

We don't know your age but here it goes:

Find a nice girl who you are compatible with and get married. It sounds like you have a normal to above average sex drive but you feel bad when you go outside of your value system and have sex with a lady you are not married to right now. The solution to that is to marry.

Answer 10

Have a W A N K . What's God got to do with draining your spuds ???