My whole life my dad has been nasty, cruel, and abusive. Last year my dad, step mom, brother and I went on vacation. My dads got a screw loose, and made us go home really early. I was at his house (which is 82 miles from mine and my moms house) and he put a gun to our heads. I was scared to death, but my step mom, had a plan, and got us out. We jumped i nthe car, and went to her moms house. Then we called my g-ma, because my mom has no car, and told my g-ma what happened. She came to get me,and everyone got in her car. We all went to the police but they said it was in a different jericdiction and there was nothing they could do. So then everyone got back in my g-mas car and went back to the city my ddad lives in. When we told the police what happened they went to his house. At first his car was gone, and he didn't answer the door. So the police left and came back. For the second time they knocked, and he answered. He had his hat on and a beer in his hand and said he had been sleeping.
2007-07-22 04:36:17 · 16 answers · asked by young and broken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When the cops went in the house the gun was on the couch. They arrested him, and a while later he went to the sike ward, for being suicidal and homicidal. A month later he was let out. Now its a year later and he wants me to see him again. I refuse. My step mom left but took him back, and now they all live together in the middle of noware. He came to see me awhile back, in the car, he hid. Our theory is he waited for us to come back to shoot us, and he his the car to make it seem like he wasn't there. My question is should i forgive and forget like he says, or stick to what i say and stay far away. im 13 years old, and live with my g-ma and sometimes my mom. What should i say next time he contacts me??
2007-07-22 04:42:23 · update #1
I do not live with my dad. I live with my mother, who is not involved with my dad, and hasn't been since i was 9 months old. But he keeps showing up.
2007-07-22 04:52:22 · update #2
I am really sorry. He will probably have cover-up stories for a long time to escape punishment. What i would do is stay away from him and whenever you have to meet him bring a recorder or a camera. Next time catch him in the act so you don't have to live like that.
2007-07-22 04:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by lauren(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that you need more time and if he pushes the subject, you will "again" call the police in his jurisdiction. If you do that, they throw his buns in the psych ward for another couple months, this time watching him carefully. You see they didn't watch him last time. The act of being put in a psych ward usually is enough trauma to clear up even the weirdest minds. So the first visit is just standard policy leave them alone and send them home. If you turn him in again, they will actually watch his buns and give him the meds he needs. He needs to know this!
2007-07-22 04:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father obviously has serious issues, whether he is mentally ill or not. He is drinking which is not good since he has anger management problems. You cannot force him to get help; he has to admit he needs help. I don't know how old you are but you should not have to EVER be around a dangerous person, even if (especially) it's your father. This is an issue for Child Protective Services; policement are for the "clean up" after a crime has been committed. If the victim is dead, it's too late.
2007-07-22 04:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is both a serious and scary situation. Your grandmother and your mother need to contact the police, and the courts if custody and visitation is an issue. They should take a copy of the police report from the first incident and get an order of protection for you and themselves.
2007-07-22 05:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel there is a chance that he will hurt you, then stay away from him. Instead of thinking about stuff like that, have fun - listen to the radio and dance. Think about all the good things like graduating and going to college/ getting a job. Take all the computer classes that they offer. You already type very well.
2007-07-22 10:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a life-threatening situation which you cannot remain in anymore. If the police won't listen to you, find someone who will take you seriously and get you the help you need. Your father either belongs in prison or a mental hospital. Also, what in the world is your mother doing about this? She sounds as helpless as you are. Get help now!
2007-07-22 04:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from him.Tell your mom to get a restraining order.It is not about love and forgiveness right now it is about yOUR SAFETY.I cannot understand why your mom has not done this.Make her get a restraining order and tell him if he EVER comes around again you will have him arrested and you have permission from the Sheriff's DEPT. to shoot him on sight(not really but he won't know that).When you get older you can call him and talk to him.I hope he learns from his mistakes and changes.
2007-07-22 07:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say stay away. If you have caller ID, don't answer when he calls. If you are genuinely concerned about your safety, which I would be, contact your local police department and ask for advice and council.
2007-07-22 05:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your grandma that he is showing up alot.write down when and where.have her contact the law and see what you can do.have them let him know that you dont need or want anything to do with him.watch over your back and stay close to home.if you need to get a ride from school so he cant follow you ,then do that too.be careful,dont let down your guard ,and never underestimate what he can do.
2007-07-22 05:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are.You are not safe in his house.Stay away until he gets help or until you are older.Everyday in the news there are stories about men killing his children and then himself.So stay away and keep yourself safe.Your mother needs to get busy and start calling social workers,the courts,who ever will listen. tell her not to stop until she gets someone to listen.
2007-07-22 04:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋