Should I say yes to a threesome?

Question

My man suggested we invite another guy to join us in bed. Well, of course I've always fantasized about two guys at once. The possibilities seem VERY exciting! But I wonder if he will feel weird afterward, or if I will. Anybody with experience? Was it good or bad/? Would you do it again? Did you do it again?

Answer 1

I can't add too much to what everyone else has said, although I'll add to the recommendations to use safe sex and set some ground rules ahead of time.

I've tried most combinations, and I've found that two girls and a guy usually works better than two guys and a girl. Guys are just too competitive and homophobic to really relax in a situation like that, and it makes it hard for the girl to relax and enjoy herself. Go ahead and try it, but if you think you might like it the other way, suggest it to your man. He'll probably jump at the chance, and I bet you'll like it better too.

Answer 2

I assume you two have talked about this enough for you to be confident that it's just for fun and not a threat to your relationship, right? Given that, the next concern is saftey. Be careful about this. And pick the right guy. You don't want to get attached, you don't want your guy getting jealous, and you don't want any weird vibes in the bedroom.

The last issue is physical. I'm sure you've thought (probably a lot - lol!) about the physical possibilities. It would be good to decide ahead of time what you are ok with. Are you going to do them one at a time or together? Will you suck them both or is that off-limits? Think about the come- will that gross out you or your boyfriend? Will he be ok kissing you with another man's come in your mouth? What about anal sex? With two guys, this is likely to come up. If you already enjoy this, then fine, but if not, decide beforehand whether it's ok. Keep some lubricants handy. Will you be comfortable if they do you at the same time, front and back?
Be prepared for surprises. I didn't expect them to both put their penises in my vagina at the same time. It was exciting and I came like crazy, but it stretched me so much I was sore for days. Be careful, and have fun.

Answer 3

if this is something that you are not sure of then don't do it. in most incidents a threesome can make or break a relationship. this usually depends on how long you guys been together and whether you guys have done other outrageously hot things in the bedroom. if you haven't i would suggest this not be the first. another thing to consider before doing this is make sure that both parties are not insecure. Otherwise then that all i can say is that both of you pick out the third party and have fun and be safe doing it. no pun intended.

Answer 4

Be careful with this. Do some soul searching and see if this is something you really want. Don't do it because he wants it, you have to do it because you want it. Threesomes most times change a relationship, and it's never the same again. Threesomes have also been known to ruin a relationship after the fact. Just think before you act.

Answer 5

Just think about how many guys get into bar fights because of another guy approaching their girlfriends.
He may be trying to see if he'll enjoy being with another man.
I would never want to see my lady being touched or kissed in a sexual manner by another guy ever...especially not a woman I cared about. I've known of a few of my friends that have tried this and it failed. The guys always thought they could handle it but once their females started doing certain act with the other guys they lost it.

Be very careful who you invite into your bedroom, you may be the one asked to leave!

Answer 6

First I have had a 3some 5 times. All with the same guy and girl. We did have fun but the first thing is the RULES. As in the things I would not do and the things I would do. If it is another guy then your b/f would have to know what the other guy will do and not do. Will he have oral sex with you after the other guy has had sex with you. Would he let the other guy do oral on him or have him do it to him. The big thing is do you know the other guy. If not then the STD thing comes in play. If you do know him then what if he likes it and would like more. It took us a few weeks of talking then we did it.
On a one to ten. I would give it a 9 the first time then after that 7 or 8's.

Answer 7

Um, no. You should not say yes. Do you know what having a threesome with two guys means? You will have "something" going in and out of two holes on your body. I don't think that sounds exciting. I will never do that. You should also keep an eye out for your guy, make sure he is not gay. A lot of guys I know who want to have threesomes have them with 2 girls, they say there is no way they would ever have one with a girl. Just be careful.

Answer 8

I think it would affect him more in the end he might resent you for going through it and call you a slut or the other guy might be bigger than him causing him to feel inferior and then might accuse you of liking the other guy more. I guess you will have to know the person you are with but I can say this If he cared enough about you he wouldnt want to share you with anybody else.

Answer 9

For cryin' out loud... do a search. This question comes up multiple times a day. The majority of the answers will tell you that it may be fun, but it destroys the relationship.

It opens a door that should have remained shut... some things are better left to fantasy. Maybe you should get some self-respect instead of trying so hard to please someone else.

been there, done that

Answer 10

Ive never done it and even though have fantasized too, I would never try it. I actually know a couple who tried it and now they are headed for divorce b/c it just completely ruined the relationship. Even though he was the one wanting it, he couldnt get over the sight of the other man fondling her and her with him. So yea while 3somes are hott on porn and ppl love it for hookup dates. Ive never known an actual relationship to survive after one.