we'll be getting married in 2weeks time.but the way he's treating me is as if i've been out and about .he's also 14 yrs older than me.tell me if i am making amistake
2007-07-22 04:09:56 · 14 answers · asked by sai w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I believe your are entering the "freak out zone". It's the span of time just before we guys get married. 3-4 days before the big day it will subside and he will be resolved to live with the decision he has made. I would still tell the guy little things like your a lucky man at your age to get to make love to a girl my age. And you're a great father.
2007-07-22 04:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19, and he is 33? I know there are people out there who are married and have a big difference in their ages, but I don't know if those marriages ended in divorce.
Your first mistake was having sex with him and having a baby. If he is treating you badly before you are married, I would think twice (and maybe 3 times) about actually letting him put a ring on your finger. If it were up to me, I would find a way to raise the baby myself and dump this guy. The right guy will come along for you some day, but for now, give all of your love and attention to your baby, and give him the boot. But that is just my opinion. Good luck.
2007-07-22 11:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Paul L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry this guy if he is treating you like a hoe!
Even if he is your baby father. Trust me, you will do better without him in the long run.
Do you even love this guy? Even if you do, he does not love you in a good way. He should show you respect and treasure you. Especially when you had his child!
Tell him how unjust he is, and how badly he treats you, emotionally. You cannot go through with this wedding if this is how it will be for all time to come.
So, hon, please think hard about the future marriage. I have serious doubts about this going the right way. You do not have any reason to believe it will get any better after you are married. I think it will get worse.
Please consider it :(
*hugs*
2007-07-22 11:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by Chiquita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you could benefit from taking a deep breath and taking a step back. You need some time. What is the big hurry? It you are having all these doubts now, marriage will only intensify them. Forever is a long time. Give it some more time until you are confident you are making the right decision. Good luck, dear!
2007-07-22 11:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by KatieBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're marrying each other because you two have a child together than that is a mistake and the way he is acting now will only get worse after you two are stuck together forever. it's not right for you to be treated that way if you did nothing to get him to act like that. and if you are having any doubts what so ever then just don't get married. not yet at least.
2007-07-22 11:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by killer_romance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being with someone older is hard because they can be controlling (im with someone 11 years older). remember that marriage doesnt solve any problems you may have now they only get worse. talk to someone who you can trust and if you need to postpone the marriage and study you relationship to see if your fiance is really the right one for you and if marriage is the best thing right now. one way to do this is to make a list of eveything you like and dont like about him and the relationship. good luck1
2007-07-22 11:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by bilkmilk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think u have made a mistake by having a child with him, but i dont think it would be a good idea to be married to someone who does not trust u and obviously treats u like ****..... call the wedding off and find a guy that you feel deserves u.
2007-07-22 11:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by marrying to soon. Postpone the wedding as you need more time to make up your mind.
2007-07-22 11:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by Peter V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously since your fiancee thinks your out and about he might not trust you at all. If he's gonna treat you like this then maybe you shouldnt even be with him.
2007-07-22 11:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE TEACH YOUR CHILD--children, boys AND girls--to use BIRTH CONTROL methods!!! So that they can have a life free to develop themselves and to be FREE to choose their own right partners for life!!! I DO hope that you've taken the father to court and are REQUIRING him to give you and his child CHILD-SUPPORT!!! It's your life, to marry him or not--BUT MAKE him take responsibilty for his CHILD!! He doesn't sound like someone who will be a good responsible father and husband!!!
2007-07-22 11:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋