me and my guy dont share a gud sexual relationship?

Question

# i love him very much and i don wanna lose him and he loves me a lot too.. he takes a very gud care of me..
# But i CANT tolorate the way he makes love.. lik..there is no romance in our sex.. and he behaves lik a gal sometimes in bed.. asks me to do things i don like and i cant deny.. he jus doesnt gimme a feel of being a gal..
# and now i hate him even when i think of it..

# i dont want him to be my sexual partner but i love him and want him to be with me 4 a life time..
wat shud i do?
# i love him a lot and cant afford to lose him..

i did told him and he was ready to change but its not working becas he acts stupid.. like some robot.. there is no romance at all....
# but its been a long time lik 6 or 7 months since we had sex becas i refused him a couple of times and he never asked it again...

Answer 1

Well you need to be honest with him and tell him how he makes you feel. Tell him that you dont want to do these things, he wont know unless you tell him. You need to tell him what you like and want. If he doesnt care what you want then its time to move on.

Answer 2

If I were you I'd be careful about using the words "can't afford to lose him" as that might be misconstrued.
First of all you didn't say if you two were married or not. You didn't say if he's alergic to marriage. You didn't say if he has a male sexual partner on the side (or maybe he hasn't told you...have you asked?). Marriage has a lot of "toleration" in it but since you appear not to be married neither of you (or even in a marriage) have to tolerate anything. Either teach the guy or move on. If he says he's too old to learn and that's just him, is just the way it is an either like it or lump it, well then that's the time to consider it two counts against you, and determine if you want to leave or not. Many women hang on in sexless "marriages" because it's difficult for them to find someone else (not because they aren't charming but because of lack or resources, lack of males in the area, lack of places to meet them, etc. Generally when you ask men what's most important in a marriage they will say sex. So I'd be curious to know (literally) if he is satisfied with how you present your sex...maybe he's hanging on by a thread as well. Men will take sex any way they can get it and still smile thru it all, and usually it's up to the woman to leave. So there it is, the whole story. Now it's your choice...either like it, you both decide not to have it, or move on. But, living without being married doesn't count anyway. You've heard the story about the cow, haven't you? (I mean no offense).

Answer 3

First of all, you CAN afford to lose him, and you most likely will not be together very long. This really sounds like an abusive relationship, not because he hurts you physically, but because you are being self-destructive in your attachment to him. From your description, you should not even be in a sexual relationship with him. Why would you subject yourself to something you find so repulsive? By the way, if you don't like what he asks you to do, you CAN, and should deny him. It sounds like you should really think about what you think "Love" is. It is NOT submerging yourself to the will of another. Trust me, if you have a sexual relationship you don't like, you will (as you stated above) find that "love" turning into hate. It would be much better to end your relationship with this person until you can build a more healthy self-respect. Perhaps counseling would help.

Answer 4

Well I think that in a relationship the two most important things are sex and trust. U say u love him very much than the sex should be great when i first started going out with my first everything was wonderful because i was so much in love that nothen mattered. Now that I'm older i tried and its trash its not as it used to be because I'm not in love with him i love him though. See being in love with someone in totally different than loving someone. Why stay with someone who doesn't satisfy you i couldn't do it.Yeah he takes good care of u but u should be able to do that and if that's what is keeping u with. Because hes taking care of u that not fair to him or you.To say that u hate him just because he cant **** good is bad and u say u love him hate is not a feeling when love is around so i hope u get this confusion together for the sake of the both of you.

Answer 5

Hi. Sounds like your head and your heart are at odds with one another. It's easier said than done, but I'd spend some time thinking about what I expected and what I needed. If I expected good sex, didn't get it, but didn't need it, that would be one thing. The converse could also be true. If you love him and want to make it work, tell him what you need when you make love. Men (I'm one of 'em) do better when there's less guess work.

Do you genuinely like each other? That's a real key to long term success in a relationship. Good luck.

Answer 6

please elaborate!! what does he do in bed?? how does he behave like a gal??

if it bothers you that much, you need to have an open talk with him about it. it's the only thing you can do!! to some people sex isn't that important in a relationship but if it's really important to YOU and it's affecting YOUR happiness in the relationship, you need to address it. if you lose him over it...you will move on and find someone who makes you happy.

but bear in mind some happily married people have always said "no one will ever satisfy every need you have in a relationship".

Answer 7

tell him how you really feel and what you want in bed and how he should act see if you can get him to 4 play befor sex and ask him if there is anyone else because most of the time when they dont want sex from you anymore it means they are getting it somewere else good luck.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

u r not in love in love all his acction s are ok,he is ur life partner explain him how u enjoy the best ,its how much pleasure u give to him is to be understood. u both have to explore how best u can make the other love what u r doing and combine ur acts as holy and reach nirvana, rather than making it public

Answer 10

Tell him what's bothering you. If you can be honest with him and tell him what you really want and need I'm sure you could work it out.
If he loves you he would do anything to make you feel good, trust me. Good luck!