The guy who knows I want a relationship with him but says he wants to be friends as a result of my nagging called me when he was drunk the other night and said straight off "I'm wondering why you call me hun and babes and darling in your text messages".
Why do you think he's even wondering or asking me this if he wants to remain friends?....He calls me alot & wants me to go see him for the weekend. But this question is playing on my mind as it makes me wonder why he's even asking me this question?!.....
2007-07-22 03:07:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he wants you to be even more explicit so that it will boost his self-esteem
2007-07-22 03:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by hansblix222 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I don’t think it should be a matter of dispute and anger, those titles are usually reserved for amorous relationships (if you name him that way, what would you say when you are really engaged in a serious relationship? – to differ from a friendship)
Now, he knows you like him and the fact that you are using ‘lovely’ titles may be a interpreted as a persistence to engage into a undesired relationship. If he allows you to carry on, it might actually sink in and ‘normalise’, in which case may acknowledge the existence of ‘something more than friends.’
I would refrain from this as if this causes irritation as it is causing a contra-effect and let time tell; otherwise, you may lose him altogether.
2007-07-22 10:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by terminator_two 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question but just are too close to see it.
He only wants to be your friend as a result of your nagging?
He called you when he was drunk (and horny) and was giving you a mixed signal and wants you to spend the weekend with him?
I hate to tell you but he's trying to do a booty call and when you have sex with him he will "change his mind" and not want to date you anymore.
Sorry, but that's the reality of it. I used to be that way but grew up and realized how hurtful it is.
Find someone else that will treat you like you deserve to be treated. It may take a bit but you will find that person.
2007-07-22 10:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be more than friends. He may not be willing to admit it, or he may just not want to lose the friendship that you have, but he wants more. Keep plugging away. He'll give in eventually. Or what you can do is when the 2 of you are together, grab him and kiss him on the lips. If he really only wants to be friends, you may or may not put your friendship ion jeopardy, but if he wants more, you'll find out then.
2007-07-22 10:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cluster B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We men sometimes (probably always) are afraid of any kind of relationship that has the little smell of commitment. So, probably He actually wants to have a relatioship with you but maybe he is to afraid to accept it or maybe he is just insecure of your true intentions (evan if you have told them) and he is afraid of been hurt at some moment... Then, He could be trying to be sure of you in order to decide...
2007-07-22 10:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by blackgriffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for the first point, he was drunk, right? You do anything when you're drunk. XD
Second point, it doesn't have to mean anything. Maybe he just likes your company.
I think it's best not to take it too seriously yet until something rather noticable happens.
2007-07-22 10:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Aoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to know if you still have feelings for him. Maybe he wants to make something clear. I say next time you talk to him tell him why! Maybe he changed his mind, he likes you now or he wants you to stop. Best of luck!
2007-07-22 10:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by fine00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he wants to be your friend, not your darling, hun, or babe.
2007-07-22 10:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause maybe you he wants you to stop calling him that! He must be one of us folks who thinks if we're just friends then we should just use normal names and stuff. So if you KNOW he just wants to be friends maybe you should stop using those phrases around him.
2007-07-22 10:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lonely and needs company. but may not want anything more than friend with you. If you hv not say "No" to his request before, try it and see what happen.
My advice is leave him and find someone better.
2007-07-22 10:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by Miko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes drunk
if he can only call you on the phone when hes drunk hes not worth thinking about and i bet you could do better:]]
2007-07-22 10:10:53 · answer #11 · answered by lizardklutzz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋