nothing yet. I've come to this place the other day looking for advices or opinion or both. the point is I was just feeling a bit confused. some of you said that my confusion about saying yes to my bf b/c of his diabetes does make me look bad, some said how I could live with myself. Should I sacrifice my happiness by marrying him. I do love him but the of taking care of someone with this sort of illness is scarey. what if he ends with ED, looses a leg or eye sight. Like I said, I've had a rough life, he is great, I do love him, just that I don't want to worry anymore......I don't think I should feel forced to marry him out of guilt or what people might say about me.
2007-07-22 02:38:08 · 29 answers · asked by ?????? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one can answer this question but yourself...
Diabetes is not a death threat. As long as he takes care of himself he will live with it forever.
You asked, "What if ends with ED, looses a leg or eye sight"...well...what if he doesn't?
If you say no because you are too afraid that something may happen...and nothing ever happens...then you just missed out on a possible great life.
I don't think this is the place to be getting advice about it. Consult a physician and tell them your worries.
Bottom line, as long as he takes care of his diabetes then he should live a long, happy life.
The shame here isn't that he has diabetes...the shame is that you revolve your love for him around it.
EDIT: I can NOT believe some of the answers you are getting. I hope to God, that all of these people, especially bilbo, gets a debilitating injury and they have to have someone care for them. I bet they sing a different tune then.
EDIT part deux: Ever heard wedding vows? There is a part in most of them that says..."I promise to love, honor, and cherish...through sickness and in health....till death do us part." Maybe taking these vows just isnt for you. Of course...if thats the case...then marriage isnt for you. God help you when/if you get married and something happens to your husband, (like a car wreck). Better yet...God help you if it happens to you.
2007-07-22 02:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Vol 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-17 06:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could find another man who is completely healthy & be worry free for a few years, only to have something drastic happen to him. Diabetes can be controlled and maintained with a proper diet & exercise. You act like he has the black plague or an STD. Marriage is a sacrafice, like being in a relationship is a sacrafice. It's for better or for worse 'til death do you part. You will never be happy with anyone at this rate b/c people get sick. What if the next man you meet or marry, should you not marry this one, gets Cancer..what will you do? Divorce him? If you are feeling forced to marry him then say no...
2007-07-22 02:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving somebody means you accept all that is wrong with that person. If you really loved him, you wouldnt have a problem with any of his health issues. There is a chance that I could lose a leg in a traffic accident, or my eyesight for whatever reason. Does that mean I shouldnt get married? If you dont want to marry the guy than leave him and find somebody else who is healthy and he can find somebody who will love him and accept him for who he is and not what somebody wants him to be. Dont say that you love the guy and than complain about his problems. You shouldnt feel forced to marry the guy, especially since it sounds like you wont be happy anyway. You have to decide what you want to do. Either break it off now if you feel that you are being "forced" to marry him, or marry the guy because you love him and you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
2007-07-22 02:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by matty1075 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your boyfriend? If he is young I really don't see a problem. Diabetes is manageable. Yes those things could happen but if he controls it he should be fine. I don't see why you are worried about this. These problems could happen to any one not just people with diabetes. Life is too short to be worrying about stuff like that..Just go for it! If he loves you and you love him nothing else should really matter.
If you are not happy with him get out. Don't worry about what could happen, you will drive your self nuts. Just take one day at a time. Do remember Marriage is sickness and in health!
2007-07-22 02:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by sexxy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have really answered your own question...you think you love him, but you don't...so give him a break and be honest with him and tell him you do not love him that way that a person should if they were to marry someone. He deserves something better in a relationship. If a person were in love, then they wouldn't care what illness the other person had and they would want to do everything in their power to assist, love and cherish that person forever and I do not feel that you love this man and if you think you do then you are mistaken..deep inside I believe you know that you don't love him and I hope that you will tell him and not just simply marry him for the sake of getting married as you will both end of miserable. I am sorry to say that you are thinking of yourself and that is not true love!
2007-07-22 02:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by angel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'll tell you this right now: You have every reason and every right to be concerned about the possibility of eventually taking care of a disabled spouse. Don't worry about what people will say about you...those people won't be the ones dealing with it. Frankly, I don't think you should marry him unless you are prepared for all eventualities. Do NOT sacrifice your happiness and peace of mind just because someone may say ugly things about you. Caring for someone with an incurable illness is hard work, and it never ends. As bizarre as it sounds, many people with chronic, life-altering diseases and conditions often sabotage their own care by refusing to follow diets, take meds, etc. It makes you feel guilty and inadequate in your attempts to care for them. I would advise you to remove yourself from this situation. Someday, you may meet someone whom you love so much that nothing else matters, but this does not seem to be that man.
2007-07-22 02:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my answer is long but please read it all
diabetes is in my family rapid i don't have it but you do look a little bad if you say no to someone that you do love is diabetes 1 or 2 he has i am sending you site on diabetes he can live a very normal live like everyone is diabetes isn't really a killer like a lot of other disease out there in my opinion if you love him go for it and if you so worried talk to him. he can take care of himself he has been living with the disease now longer then he knew you. he know how to take care of himself. let me also tell you this none of my family has every lost a leg or arm my aunt is in her late 60's and has worn glasses are her life and she is the one that has the diabetes and she is surviving with everything she has'. read this sites before you tell him no let me ask you this could you live without him if you say no your relationship will mostly likely fall apart and he will be there no longer for you. or if someone said that had it and for you talk with them do that.
2007-07-22 02:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should never marry someone that you dont want to!!!
first off someone with diabetes is not all that bad... My best
friend has diabetes... as long as she takes care of her insulin and eats right she is a normal person. losing eye sight happens to alot of people when they get older and not just diabetics. Marry him if you love him, but only if you really love him... If you really love him you will look past the condition....
2007-07-22 02:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by latricia 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋