I am finding it really hard! My boyfriend broke up with me in March.. but since then he was contacting me, telling me that it's hard for him, he even got angry when I said to him that I will try to move on.. basically he has made me believe that he does not really want to loose me or let me go. About 3 weeks ago, he even said to me that we should try to meet up next month or so.. He is on holidays now with his friends and before he left, we had a discussion because I wanted to know where I stand in the situation as I am really unclear. He told me that for now we are broken up but if he accepts a job in my country, we can try again.. and then he said to let him enjoy his holidays without any worry. I have not contacted him since and he has not contacted me at all. I am hurting so much, missing him, wanting to see him. Should I contact him? But why hasn't he contacted me? I really want to talk to him? Should I? We are supposed to meet in August?
2007-07-22 01:35:45 · 14 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look you need to face the facts. You are okay when he is in need of sex, but he is looking for someone better.
2007-07-22 01:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god, what a horrible situation to be in, I sympathise! At the moment he's got you exactly where he wants you - he's off on his holiday enjoying himself and having a great time, while you're sat at home tearing your hair out as to what is going on! At the end of the day HE dumped YOU!! I think you should occupy yourself with as many distractions as possible while he is away - after all, he's having a good time so why shouldn't you? If it were me, and I know it would be hard, I wouldn't contact him and would wait for him to get in touch with me. Then when he comes back, it's up to you if you meet him but you should let him know that he can't keep you dangling on a string - you're either getting back together or your not. There are too many "ifs" with him - he says you MIGHT get back together IF he accepts a job in your country...it's so unfair on you - he's calling all the shots.
I think you should ultimately stick to your original plan and try to move on - you deserve a guy who is devoted to you and knows that he wants to be with you. Life's too short! Good luck x
2007-07-22 08:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by long_luscious_lashes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, the man wants some time apart. However, if you feel that you want to contact him, then do so. Lay all the cards on the table. If he's not ready to try again, don't worry. Sometimes love hurts but it's a lesson learned and a mistake that won't be made again. There are plenty of other guys that would love to take you out and get to know you.
2007-07-22 08:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by delightful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to let go. I just had to let someone go, who I really believed was my soul mate. However; you must consider why you broke up, don't let him string you along with false hope. That could be his way, to keep you from meeting someone else. I would also advise you to heal properly, do not jump from one relationship to the next in effort to get over your friend. Allow yourself time to heal. and find out who you really are, so you can know what your really want in a mate. Love yourself first, be a complete person, two halves don't make a whole. And don't get bitter, get better, Time heals all wounds, Get a hobbies, work out. You will be so proud of yourself, when you get over this, because you did what most people don't do, you did not settle for less. wait for God's best.
2007-07-22 08:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's stringing you along. He might like you but he's made up his mind there's no hope for a long term relationship.
He's a rat to make suggestions that can put your life on hold.
Even if he were to move to your country, you would just be a temporary stepping stone til he finds someone new.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you would be doing yourself a favor to ban him f/ your life until you get over him. You WILL get over him as hard as it sounds now. The human heart is astoundingly resilient this way, especially for the female.
Forget that meeting in August, avoid his calls ... if he is sincere and I've misjudged this situation, he will put his feelings in text.
Don't wait for that correspondence, but if it comes, reevaluate his potential based upon that info.
2007-07-22 08:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like nothing more than a booty call to me. The guy knows that sex is safe with you...that you are "clean" and that he will have a really good chance of hooking up.
Don't give this guy another thought. If you do, then you are a FOOL. He dumped you, remember? If you were not good enough then, what has changed that makes you good enough now?
See the forest DESPITE the trees, darling. MOVE ON. There is more than one guy out there. Life is too short to waste on losers.
2007-07-22 08:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't seem like a good guy. You're letting him call all the shots and that gives him power over you and your feelings. Use this time when you're apart to really figure out what you and only you want. You are the boss of your life!
2007-07-22 08:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lose Him Permanently, don't try again. He's made it obvious that his only concern is Him. You deserve better than that. Move on sweetie there will be more guys out there, who will treat you the way you deserve,...with respect and consideration for your feelings.
2007-07-22 08:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by Patio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is keeping you dangling....until he decides what he want...don't be a fool STAY AWAY...you must have some self respect left.....leave me to enjoy his holiday with no worries>>>>>>>>>>ha ha this guy will be enjoying his holiday believe me...move on this guy is a ar*ehole .....his is treating you like a fool.......kick him to the curb and find some one better........good luck
2007-07-22 08:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by missnicedell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has obviously moved on but wants to keep u dangling for his affection. Get on with ur life and dont let him rule it for u. Good luck hun.
2007-07-22 08:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋