Just found out my boyfriend has been cheating on me, is my revenge too harsh?

Question

My boyfriend of 2 n half years finished wi me by text on tuesday saying he wanted to be by himself and didn't want a relationship anymore. We used to work together and there was a work reunion on friday night. But when i got there he was with some woman who he'd been texting behind my back when we were together cos when i asked him about it he said she was just a work friend. Anyway as the night went on they were more touchy and were snogging all the time and had their hands all over each other. I was nearly sick cos i still love him. never thought he would do anything like this. Anyway i told him i want his xbox 360 back as i spent £460 on it and accessories at xmas n dint think he deserved it now, plus i knew that was the only way i could hurt him. As a result he took my wii off me. But i went on the xbox this mornin and hes recovered his name onto another console, so i've took it back on to this and changed the password, he can have it when i get some answers. Am i been 2 harsh? X

I can't believe I have to use materialistic items to get to him, surely seeing me distraught and heartbropken the other day would have been enough, but hes changed completely

Answer 1

Are you kidding me???He is the harsh one!He wasnt honest at you, he lied,thats the worst thing. Asking the x-box back was the smoothest thing you could do to hurt him. You r too good for him.there are thousend of ways, much harsher to take your revenge but this would make you feels worse. You should take some days off work,and try to be with family members or close friends to calm down and try to focus on yourself. Sometimes its better to be on our own, and you will see that many great things are out there waiting for you. Time is the best medicin to get him over.Now your too emotional to think clearly but im sure that this break up is your salvation!You r lucky to be free and live your life!(watch some episodes of sex&the city and you will get what i mean ;-)

Answer 2

If you gave this to him at xmas, then it was a present. You should not take it back. If you are going to give it back after some answers , why take it. My point is he broke off the relationship, to be with another woman, why would you want him back. 2 1/2 years is a long time to be in a relationship, to be pushed to the side, and I can imagine how it hurts, but he wasn't in the there the same way you where. Maybe he is a user, and will only be using the other woman the same way he used you. Dump him in the toilet and flush him for what he is. Move on and be a better person than he is. He'll be sorry in the long run that he let a good one get away.

Answer 3

Your ex-boyfriend is a real jerk. I think it's great that you've put a password on the system and there is no way you should tell him what it is. If he asks you just play stupid and say you don't know why it's not working. He is the dirty one here and lets remember that, after all to display his feelings with this other woman so quickly and in front of you is totally inconsiderate of your feelings. Forget him and move on. The best revenge ever is to let him think you're not bothered and you'll soon be over him and glad that you'll have another chance with someone else in the future. Good luck babes

Answer 4

Anyone who ends a relationship via text message is a gutless wimp as far as I'm concerned and not even worth your time. Revenge is sweet but Karma is so much sweeter. He couldn't even lie straight in bed by the sounds of it. Believe me, he will wake up a very lonely person one day and that will be defining moment. He's not worth your tears because I'm sure he's not shedding any for you. Get on with your life, there's no point in loving a loser that's going to continually hurt you and not give a damn. I hope your life is a lot more rewarding without him in it. :) Good Luck Hon :)

Answer 5

.Love hurts and not being condescending but you sound quite young and all I tell you from experience is, this is a learning process, for goodness sake if he is all over someone, he as little regard for you, I would go so far as to say none. You will learn from this experience and it will make you stronger and in time you will look back and think, what a w'kr he was. For God sakes he has not even got the balls to tell you face to face, he is a coward, a waster a waste of your time and I know you are feeling c'p but why would you want to be second best to anyone, you may even be third fourth, and as for those who say you are materialistc, absolutely not, you are generous and thought of him in the first place, please don't let him take advantage of you anymore, please move on, this is blunt but he could not give two s'ts about you. take care from Ann

Answer 6

Revenge may be sweet.... but after a certain point it's petty & doesn't really matter. As this is a recent breakup you're still feeling upset about it which is completely understandable... but I always think its best to never let them know how much they hurt you! The best revenge is to cut them out of your life, move on & enjoy yourself without them. Nothing annoys some people like knowing you are fine without them!

Answer 7

Okay first of all this is coming from a girl who had her heart badly broken about 6months ago.

I hate cheaters! My boyfriend of 9 months unexpectedly broke up with me the day after Valentines day. 5 days later he was going out with a much older, pretty, bigger breasted girl and was snogging her infront of me. Okay?

The guy hurt you real bad. So before you delete him from your life and memory....why not seek a little revenge?

Answer 8

Leave it all behind...foolish toy video games and all. Be done with him. Be the adult and walk away. Me personally, I would tell him to take the video games and stick them.

Do you really need them? Seriously. This is not about what the games cost -- this is about silly revenge. Be the adult in the situation and move forward.

No guy is worth it. Life is too short to waste on a foolish cheater.

Answer 9

sounds to me like he is a loser anyways, he couldnt even be a man and tell you face to face? he had to text you..... yea right... it will hurt for a while, but you are better off without him. yous both sound young so i think yous both have a lot of growing to do,but what he did was wrong and why do you want the xbox back? didnt you buy it for him? its his, let him have it,it will only bring you heartaches when you see it. kick his butt to the curb and move on! once a player, always a player!

Answer 10

Kristy, he's a slime for doing that.

But I would say forgive him, it would help sever your emotional attachment to him. If you remain angry with him, you will still care about him. Don't take any more revenge. Let him get the better of you and you will find that you won't care about him as much. Not all guys are like this.