Don't get me wrong, I love men, with their amazing bodies and such......?

Question

but why do true christian believers treat women so badly, I know, not all of them, but some extremists out there make their women walk three feet behind them.

Answer 1

that is a native American tradition, not a Christian one.

Answer 2

I've never met a Christian man who made his wife walk three feet behind them, and I've grown up in the church, and in several states.

That's a cultural issue in the Middle East, but rarely something Middle Eastern Christians do.

Three points that you bring up don't flow at all.

1. What do the "amazing bodies" of men, and your suggestion that even though you love men, men do this, have to do with anything? If the group you're suggesting does this is Christians, your (unfounded) argument would be that this behavior is typical of Christians, not typical of men.

2. The over-generalized suggestion that Christian men (maybe not all, but implied "most") treat women horribly is just untrue. The vast majority do not.

3. Have you ever actually seen Christian men make their wives/girlfriends/mothers/sisters walk three feet behind them? If you have, I KNOW it was a one-time occurrance.

Please don't think I'm being hostile or insulting, but if you're going to make a statement like that, at least back it with relevant logic.

I really do wish people would realize that no one is perfect, and unfortunately, that does not change in the religious world. It's acceptable for a person to make a human mistake in almost any other aspect, but when a person has a warped view of what Christianity is all about, that's completely unacceptable, and it's considered good enough reason to assume the whole lot of us feel the same way.

The cornerstone of Christianity is to accept your own flaws and sins, and receive the forgiveness offered because of (or in spite of) your imperfections. Therefore, anyone who honestly feels they have not sinned, or do not continue to sin, and for some reason feels it's okay to pass judgement on others simply has failed to grasp the whole meaning of Christianity. They aren't an example of what Christianity is (bad), they are an example of someone who completely missed the point.

It's not fair to judge those of us who actually practice (or try to practice) kindness and love and forgiveness and sympathy by the clueless ones.

It's not acceptable to believe all Muslims are violent terrorists, that all Jews are cheap, that all black people are drug dealers or prostitutes, or that all Hispanics are illegal immigrants. Why do people feel like it's okay to believe all Christians are cruel or hypocrites?


ps. While this is a custom often practiced in the Middle East, largely by Muslims, ask 100 Muslims you see if this is a tenet of their religion. At least 99% will tell you no, terrorism or treating women badly is not something condoned by the Muslim or Islamic faiths.

Answer 3

I know. I've seen that from a lot of Televangelists and men of just about every other major religion as well. Religion is fine, but when it starts taking away rights just because we don't have something dangling between our legs, that is wrong.

I've been told I'm going to hell because I'm old (21!) and not married, don't want kids, wear my hair short and hate wearing dresses (ever try to ride a horse in a dress?).

These men are shameful to think taht women are any lower than the rest of you. Thankfully I have a good nonreligious man who loves me for who I am and treats me like I'm an equal, not a lesser or a slave.

Answer 4

Thank you for loving my body. I do hear that I am a piece of sweet, sweet mancandy, so you aren't to be blamed.

The reason that fundamentalist Christians/Muslims/Jews treat their women so poorly has to do with the wedge driven between the spiritual and the physical by Jehovah/Allah. In the chance that such a believer is, in fact, heterosexual, woman represents a constant temptation. If such a believer is a latent homosexual, then the woman reminds him of his own perceived inadequacies and moral failings in the eyes of God. In both cases, the woman represents something to be controlled and put away - and honestly, degraded.

Hail Satan,

Lazarus

Answer 5

That's just silly. I know there are cultures and subcultures where that attitude prevails, but there is no Christian basis for it.

Maybe you are referring to Bible quotations that declare the husband is the leader of the family. That can at least seem hard to take for most of us women, but if the men were to live up to what is biblically enjoined of them, few problems of this sort would arise.

Answer 6

Because they don't understand the atonement of Jesus Christ or the purpose of the crucifiction and resurrection.

Basically, they really dont know Christ. If they did charity would be their goal.

Answer 7

I don't know anyone who makes their woman walk three feet behind him. Not even Christians. If anyone does this my first guess would be that they are Muslim.

Answer 8

Men in general treat women so badly coz they think they are superior.

Answer 9

True Muslim believers treat women a lot worse then Christians do.

Answer 10

you just like asking off the wall questions.
Please state for all of us what American Christian Organizition requires their women to walk three feet behind them.

Answer 11

if they do as you say, they're not ''true christian believers.''

''husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.''

''so husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. for no one ever hated his won flesh, but nourishes it and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.''

''nevertheless let each one of you love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.''

ephesians 5:25, 5:28-29, 5:33