im getting married this yr wth 5 yrs relationship with him..i like him coz..he loves me & his closed to my family!!! & one guy enter into my life..& i love him a lot more than the 1st one coz he help me a lot and his showing me care, love & most important he respect me a lot too i know him for almost 2 yrs...that's the difference now i like him (1st guy) but i love him (2nd guy)..
2007-07-21 20:00:55 · 4 answers · asked by poohritchiemeh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
rude. marrying someone when you have feelings for another is rude.
2007-07-21 20:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this on Answers then I highly doubt that you are ready to be married! How can you get married to someone that you just like? You need to talk to your fiance and tell him that you need some space to sort out your priorties before you end up breaking his heart at the alter. How could you still be with the first guy and accept his proposal, (assuming he proposed while you knew the other guy) when you have feelings for the second one? I think that you need to find out who YOU really are and go from there. But you really need to call this wedding off if you aren't sure who you want to be with, there's no point in planning a wedding that you probably won't end up having anyways. And the longer you hold off on doing so, the harder it will be for the both of you, especially your fiance. Who's to say that if you do choose the 2nd, another man will come in your life and treat you the same way then you'll love him too. Marriage is a life long commitment to some people, who choose to be with one person for the rest of their lives despite whatever their faults may be, and to work together as one. Whatever people say marriage IS work, you have to make love work. That means good communication between the two of you, if you have no communication then you can't expect a marriage to last. I'm not even married yet, but I have been with the same and only man for over 8 years! and it's like we are already married, we have our up's and down's but what relationship doesn't. So you need to definatly talk with your now fiance and find out how you both really feel about eachother and maybe talk with guy #2 and find out how he feels, but either way YOU have to make the ultimate decision and don't procrastinate. Sorry if I sound like I'm lecturing but what did you expect with a question like that? Good Luck with whatever you decide!
2007-07-22 06:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by PennyLane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the most important thing in the world, and going with your heart is the best thing to do, as much it will hurt the other ....... you cant lead him on!!!~
So really just let him down gently, or try and sort out what you're really feeling and why ... but at the end of the day, go with the one you love~ and make sure he doesnt hurt you!!
Good luck, this much be a really hard situation..
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2007-07-21 20:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ уσυ вєℓσηg ωιтн мє ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be honest. Which do you love and wish to marry? Make a choice.
2007-07-21 20:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋