last night my bf asked me if i would ever cheat on him?

Question

of course i said no(and meant it)

i asked him back

....

there was a pause and he said "i dont know"

i said what do you i dont know?

and he was like im not sure if i would or not.

and i said have you thought about it

and he said yes

"when?"

........."i dont know"

*another long pause*

*the whole time i was thinking WHAT A ******* JERK!"

what should i do?

you think he already cheated?

read my next qustion. im not sure if i could go through with a break up cuz it could be a big mistake and a couple of you have looked at this situation in a more positive view. so know i rlly confused. why cant everyone just agree and make it easier for me to make my decision?

Answer 1

He was honest. Men are different from women. They don't know what they would do. If a man came on to you, physical attraction is not a high priority for most women. On the contrary, if a beautiful woman, or any woman, came on to your boyfriend, he doesn't know how he would respond. Men react to physical attraction in a much different way. He was honest with you. It doesn't mean you can't trust him. If things are going well, I would forget it. Unless you have reason to suspect something is going on. If he is acting differently towards you, it's time to decide if you are putting more feelings into your relationship than he is. If you suspect him of cheating, you might as well break up because you don't trust him and even if you find out that he isn't cheating, it won't matter because you are the one with doubts.

Answer 2

He's probably cheated on you and that is why he asked you that question. Either that or he's cheated in the past (with his ex-girlfriends) and wanted to know if you would ever do it to him. I believe cheaters can change if the right person comes along but don't hold out too much hope. It doesn't sound like he's ready for a serious relationship, however, don't dump him until you have concrete proof of him being unfaithful to you if this is the only aspect you have concerns of.

Answer 3

You could look at it one of three ways.
Firstly that he was honest, and truely doesn't know what the future holds, so can't make a promise that he's not sure he can keep.
The second way to look at it is that he hasn't the commitment to you and your relationship to promise that he won't cheat, at some time in the future. That's not to say that can't change.
The third is that he was trying to open a conversation where he could either tell you he's thought about it, or done it, and wants to know where you go from here.
What you have to decide is which it is, and whether its enough for you.To find out for sure, you really have to talk it out with him.
I know for myself, that I can and have made that promise to be faithful, and kept it over 25 years.

Answer 4

He is being a jerk. tell him that if he is going to flirt or be with some other girl, then you deserve better and you're not going to put up with it. so he has 2 choices-
Promise to be faithful to you, and apologize for saying "i dont know"... if he really loved/liked you, he would have said he wouldnt cheat on you...
Or break it off with him, coz he simply cant be trusted.. its not right.
Personally i think if he liked you that much , he shouldnt have even thought about it !! Give him a chance if you really want, but dont keep accepting his excuses after more than 2 times - he's a jerk!!!!

Answer 5

When someone asks a question like that outta the blue, they wanta but are not sure how you would take it. If you're looking for a commitment, stop. He WILL if he has the chance. No is a 2 letter word and not hard to say. Sounds like he ALREADY has. Prepare to move on before he breaks your heart.

Answer 6

omg if my bf said that me to me i would seriously re-consider the relationship.

Have a serious talk to him about it coz to me, i take relationships seriously and theres no way i would date someone who isn't prepared to be serious with it.

Like even if i was really attracted to someone else- i wouldn't cheat- ever- if i seriously wanted the other guy more though, i would break it off with the first guy coz i would rather do that than be a jerk and cheat.

It sounds like you could be in trouble- i would be calling him up right now and asking if he is going to be serious about it.

Good Luck :]

Answer 7

Yeah, I think he's already cheated or is thinking of cheating. I'd be out personally. If someone can even be so bold as to say they don't know if they are going to be faithful and when they say, yeah, they are thinking about it..Obviously they aren't as in to me as I am them, if I'm thinking of not cheating & they are thinking of cheating. I'd toss the peace sign with no hesitation.

Answer 8

He's a dumbass...

But you know, if you like dating dumbasses, thats fine wit me.

This relationship, seriously, will break up though, you must now accept that. You cannot possibly risk going into marriage with this guy, or even any long-term relationship, because he has contemplated being unfaithful.

The only thing you can do is leave him on your own terms, rather than his.

Answer 9

hunny,the man admitted to you that he has thought about it already. as hard as it sounds, i think you need to break it off with him. I have been there and it really hurts like hell when someone cheats on you! i wish you the best!

Answer 10

He already DID!! He has a Guilty Contusions that explains the pauses. He is digging in your guts and her guts and probrobly her moms guts and your moms guts LOL!