If you kiss someone and feel no connection does that mean you are not meant to be?

Question

I went out with this guy for the second time but this was our first kiss and it didn't feel like we connected. could it be wrong. or did we kiss to early.

Answer 1

It is not the kiss that determines if you are right for each other or not. There are a lot more factors which go into determining if you are right for each other. Bad kissers can be taught to kiss if you speak up caringly and take their feelings into account.

What is more important is if that person possesses most of the positive qualities you are looking for in a man.

Make a list of all the positive qualities you are looking for in a man. It is okay to use superficial qualities as well as important qualities. For example your list might look like this:
My ideal mate is a man who is tall.
My ideal mate is a man who is thin.
My ideal mate is a man who is strong.
My ideal mate is a man who is intelligent.
My ideal mate is a man who is caring.
My ideal mate is a man who is supportive.
My ideal mate is a man who is generous.
My ideal mate is a man who is affectionate.
My ideal mate is a man who is a good kisser.
My ideal mate is a man who compliments my life.
My ideal mate is a man who is a good communicator.
My ideal mate is a man who is a good provider.

If this was your list, you would be able to know which of those qualities are superficial to you and which of those qualities are important to you. If this guy falls short of the superficial qualities - that might not be so important. If he falls short of your important qualities - he is not a good match and one or both of you stand a high probability of getting hurt when the relationship fails.

You should also make another list of all of his negative qualities - both superficial and important. When you list these negative qualities, use them in the same phrase of:
My ideal mate is a man who...

My ideal mate is a man who is abusive (physically, emotionally or verbally).
My ideal mate is a man who is self-centered.
My ideal mate is a man who has poor hygiene.
My ideal mate is a man who frequently lies to me.
My ideal mate is a man who seeks revenge on those who wrong him.
My ideal mate is a man who lacks affection.
My ideal mate is a man who prefers to hang out with his friends.

When you look at the negative list, some of those qualities can be corrected the basic communication (Poor hygiene, lacking affection) Others are much more difficult to change and will probably lead to a very painful ending to your relationship.

You need to take an honest look at his overall person. Overall does he possess lots of positive qualities, negative qualities or both. How many of his positive qualities fit with what you are looking for and which positive qualities is he lacking. Which of his negative qualities can be corrected with open, caring communication and which of his negative qualities are probably deeply ingrained and likely not to change.

One kiss will not answer these questions - careful evaluation will.

All the best to you!

Answer 2

You can't depend on a kiss to tell you whether or not a relationship is meant to be. It can totally get better over time. And kissing on the second date isn't too early either.

Answer 3

If you are into him but the kiss wasnt fire works going off I would just say you to need a few more go's at it to mesh your kissing skills.

If you dont feel a spark prior to a kiss you prolly wont feel a spark in the kiss.......