How do I let go of my anger, and not remain traumatized from the past?

Question

I've had to let go of a couple of bad relations in which I've allowed myself to land in a position to reap horrible servings of disrespect to my character. I used to believe in love as a teen growing up, however that picture has long been gone.

I'm in my early twenties, and I'm just sooo f**ckin angry at myself for allowing myself to go into situations naive, and also at the a**holes who were still nasty in their own hearts/minds to treat a beautiful person (both inside and out) with such disregard. I've forgiven myself first, and I've also forgiven them, I've even told them off...but it still makes me upset. Mostly because I am having a hard time recovering 100%, excited to get back in the "game". I thought that maybe I was ready to return, but I found myself afraid and frozen.

I tried to learn from it all. How do I let go of my disappointments, and not be afraid anymore?

Answer 1

I understand just where you are coming from. I know it hurts a lot. Stop beating yourself up about it. You did what you knew to do and view this as a learning experience. Take whatever it is that you've learnt from the experience and do what it takes to protect yourself in the future. Don't be so eager to jump into relationships, take the time to make sure people are what they appear to be. Take some self esteem classes & know that people need to earn your trust.
Make yourself strong and believe in yourself again.
Take care & take control. Good luck.

Answer 2

Until you can tell if a male is a winner-player or a loner-outsider you will have troubles. My guess is you don't know the rules for greeting and social interface and the second vocabulary and need to stay with your type of people .

Answer 3

I suggest making an appointment with a therapist that specializes in trauma.

Answer 4

hullo
i hope you have learned your lesson well, try to stay away from them, no one is free from mistakes you know.
relaxation therapy will do you good.

Dr solo

Answer 5

talk to me if you need to vent [e-mail]. beliefnet.com is cool with this. try exercising eating well and sleeping to help you thru.

Answer 6

Profesional Counselors and Psychologists
-- that's what they do, what their specialty is.

Answer 7

if you're not true to your self, you'll feel fear.
if you're not true to others, you'll feel anger.
is this simple enough?