how can i stop worrying so much? please help? anyone?

Question

I'm one of those people who worry about too much things. Right now what frustrates me is that in School, my GPA is 1.65, and I'm so worried about if I'm not going to graduate,(I'm in high school btw) another thing beside that example is that, I take things way too serious and jumping to conclusions. People tell me not to think about those things, even if the events haven't even started yet, but I just can't help it! :( An example also is that My mom died from Cervical Cancer when I was 10, and I'm still a depress person too. Another is my other relatives in my family. I'm not close to my dad and apparently he doesnt even act one so I'm feeling alone. The only person I can talk more of my emotions is my (younger) sister.

I really don't like this habit I have, I have problems letting go, and I just don't know what to do, please help.

Answer 1

Talk to a school counselor or a minister/priest and tell them that you need HELP ... you need to have an 'evaluation' done by a mental health practitioner first ... after which you (and an adult who can 'sign' for you) will have to decide whether you want to be on medication or just be in therapy. You don't say how old you are, so I don't know if medication is 'appropriate' for you ... but once your 'emotional issues' are in order, your 'anxiety' will be much less, and your grades will go up. If necessary, ask to be 'kept back' in school a year to give you a chance to 'get better' and to 'make up' those bad grades. I don't think you are 'stupid' (your 'explanation' was actually quite good, considering your emotional state) therefore I think it's fairly obvious that your low GPA is the result of your long term depression and anxiety and once those are relieved, you will do far better than even YOU think. Good luck. I'll be praying for you, and I KNOW YOU WILL DO BETTER SOON.

Answer 2

* RELAXATION TECHNIQUES

o Recognize what activities you consider relaxing.
o Be specific when exploring your options:
–going for walks
–meeting with friends
–reading for pleasure
–listening to music
–taking a bath
o Be realistic about the amount of time that you can dedicate to "downtime".
o This time should be incorporated into your daily routine.
o Remember this is called BALANCE- not be used as a procrastination tactic.
o Begin practicing relaxation techniques
–meditation
–guided imagery
–deep breathing exercises
–progressive relaxation (muscle relaxation)
o Decide which relaxation technique works for you and practice daily.
o Find several techniques that work for you so you have an array of options.

* STRESS MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES

BODY:

o Along with improving your ability to relax, you must assess diet and other strains on your body.
o Aerobic exercise can reduce anxiety up to 50%.
o Good nutrition (a well balanced diet) will improve your ability to appropriately respond to stress.
o Get an adequate amount of rest each night.
o Reducing caffeine intake will help you manage your anxiety (2 ½ cups of coffee doubles the epinephrine level).
o Smoking cessation is important, as nicotine is also a stimulant.
o Biofeedback techniques can help up to 80% of migraine sufferers.
o Acupuncture has also shown promise.

MIND:

o If you have multiple stressors (deadlines, increased responsibilities), you must prioritize your time.
o Initiating a time management schedule remains a positive way to reduce stress and anxiety.
o Break large demands into small, manageable parts. Work through one task at a time.
o Do what needs to be done first, leaving other things for tomorrow.
o Identify your goals and work toward them.
o Take direct action when stress arises- identify your needs and articulate them; Be intentional about what you can do.
o Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings concerning the stressors in your life.
o Develop a support network to rely on in times of need.
o Remember to be kind to yourself and not dwell on the "shoulds".


RECOMMENDED READINGS:

o Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and It’s All Small Stuff New York, NY: Hyperion, 1997. Carlson, R.
o The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1988. Davis, M., Eshelman, E., & McCay, M.

Answer 3

My mom died when I was 17 and I know what you're going through. Take one day at a time. Don't be overwhelmed by life. Find a counselor at school and begin a dialog with him/her. It really helps to discuss your fears and issues with someone. Your GPA needs to improve, but don't freak out about it. Try different study techniques like studying in different places, different times, etc. When I was in high school, I used to use index cards alot to memorize information. Just write the answer on one side and the question or word on the other side. The just flip the cards and teach yourself the information. Once you find a way to relax and accept things in your life, it will get easier...Good luck to you and if you need more advice, feel free to contact me but I would really see a counselor...

Answer 4

You're RIGHT, you DO have a bad "habit". It's that it controls YOU- & YOU let it happen! You KNOW what the problem IS- so consider THIS: "So WHAT"! Worrying changes NOTHING. It's like DOING NOTHING- only with excuses. You can worry all you WANT about something- & ALL you'll achieve is dragging yourself DOWN to make yourself look bad. Is THAT what you really want? The ONLY person who can "help you " get rid of the "baggage" you're carrying- is YOU. & the SOONER you do it, the sooner you'll feel better, like yourself MORE, & "fly away..."-to wherever you want to go... Good luck! :)

Answer 5

Australian doctors have developed a vaccine against cervical cancer. See anxiety, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 6, and practise daily, and when needed, one of the relaxation techniques on page 2.

Answer 6

hullo
it might be a case of generalised anxiety disorder, if it is of short living history, otherwise it can be part of personality trait, we call it anxious type.but not to forget hidden depression due to a previous trauma or loss.all the same you should check it out with your school psychologist.

Dr solo

Answer 7

go to holisticonline.com to learn to meditate.

Answer 8

eat xanax