this guy i like dosent have any kids and is really an asshole about my daughter being around,without being a bad mom how can i help the situation?
2007-07-21 18:39:48 · 23 answers · asked by blazenredhotmommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be a good mom, you should not allow your daughter to develop any relationship with this man. (He doesn't want one with her anyway.) You should not ever take her to his home. You should NEVER leave her alone with him, ever.
Your very best bet would be to not spend your time hanging around a guy who doesn't like young children, as long as you have one. You should put your main focus on being a good mom, by spending your time with your daughter. If you have someone trustworthy and comfortable for her to stay with, such as a loving grandparent, then you should have her stay with that person when you are dating. You should not have overnight dates. Your daughter is too young for you to leave her for more than a few hours at a time.
If you want a serious relationship, you need to look for a guy who is open to the idea of becoming an instant father when you marry. But don't let your daughter develop a relationship with any guy until you are certain he won't be walking out of her life. These kinds of break-ups hurt kids unnecessarily. If at any point you realize that the guy cannot be a good father to her, you need to terminate the relationship.
If you want to have a relationship with a guy who doesn't want to be a dad, you can wait about 16 years and go for it. Your daughter will only need part-time mothering by then.
2007-07-21 18:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by treebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, If this guy dont like your child, then it seem like this guy is not the right one for you.Any man that comes in your life, should except you and your child. Why would you say your a bad mom? If you want to help the situation, how about your guy and your daughter spend the day with each other. Maybe that will get him to change his mind about her. The more he can possibly spend with her, the more he could gain feelings. Have you tried that?
2007-07-21 19:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by I Love Lucy Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously asking this question?
You just said he's "really an asshole about my daughter being around".
And, you still want to date him?
You sound a bit desperate to me.
You ALWAYS choose your children over a man.
If he can't accept your daughter, why the f*ck would you want to be with him?
I'm sorry, but, if you have to try and figure out a way to make him LESS of a prick about your daughter, or remove your daughter from the situation just because he doesn't like her....then yeah, kinda sounds like "bad mom" material to me.
Think about it.
It's kinda like..."duh?"
2007-07-21 18:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 08:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by lindenberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help this situation. If he doesn't like kids or want them around there is little you can do to change this. You need to choose between your child and this guy because staying around him is not going to be good for your little girl. Time to face facts... it is no longer about what you want it is about what is good for you daughter. IF a man cannot accept her, you do not need to be around him. You are now a package deal and if he can't take the package you need to move on.
2007-07-21 18:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? You can help the situation by dropping this guy. If you like him that much, keep him on the side as a sex toy and keep him the heck away from your daughter. I hate women who choose a piece of meat over their kids.
2007-07-21 18:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dorthy_Gail 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you sell yourself short? He is so not worth your time. Why do you like him if he doesn't like the most important and the biggest part of your life? If he doesn't show your daughter as much affection as he shows you then he really doesn't care about you. He is only using you are tolerating your presence. Baby comes first, not you, and not him. If he doesn't care for her, eventually he will resent her and may later on abuse her. Find someone who loves you. If you find someone who loves you they will also love her very much and want you to bring her over every chance you get.
Him not liking her is a red flag for me and it should be for you too.
2007-07-21 18:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by kwazeeme 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the guy's good for you. If a guy likes you then he must like your daughter as well else there's no meaning of the relationship when he can't love your daughter and tells you that he likes you. That's bullshit.
2007-07-21 18:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can help the situation by dumping this looser.
Your child is your number one priority and you should never forget that when making any decision in life.
Why do women even consider putting their boyfriends before their kids...it's pathetic.
2007-07-21 18:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if you really likes you that he is going tohave to like your daughter and spend time with her too. Because if he dont want your daughter around that only means that he really only wnats one thing froom you. And you should not give him the time of day if he cant respect you and your daughter
2007-07-21 18:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by souljaboy4id 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋