What do you do when you and your bf argue alot?

Answer 1

Well, i would try to work it out, but if it keeps happening, thats not a healthy relationship. So i think id break it off if it didnt get any better. Find a new guy ;)

Answer 2

Think about why you want to have a boyfriend. Do you enjoy arguing? What do you argue about? Do you argue with everyone else too, or is this just how you get along with him? I would seriously question whether this is a relationship that you want to be in. There are many reasons people argue frequently, some of them are: both parties want to make decisions or take control of the relationship, one person wants to control the other and the second one won't allow it (and shouldn't in my opinion), they want different things, they like different things, they have different values, they don't respect each others wishes or feelings, they don't care about each other, they want to break up but haven't figured out how to go about it. If this is a long-standing relationship that recently changed you might want to give a lot of thought to the reasons for the arguments and talk with your boyfriend about his views on the reasons. If this is a relatively new relationship and has been like this pretty much all along, you might just want to let him know you don't enjoy arguing all the time, discuss the reasons for it, and if you cannot change the pattern of interaction you have with him, perhaps it would be the wisest course of action to terminate the relationship.

Answer 3

Wow! I think we may have dated the same guy! So what do you do? OK, remember that this is just my opinion. I don't know how old you are, but it will probably get worse. I'm telling you, I went through the same thing, and probably worse, because there was physical abuse, emotional abuse, and verbal abuse coming from both of us. The crazy thing is when I say physical abuse, a lot of my friends' reactions was, "Oh, no well that's not happening in my relationship!" But disrespect can be fouind on many levels. People feel that one form of abuse is worse than another form. It is all unhealthy. Just because you love someone does not mean that you have to date them. I stayed in my raltionship for 5 long unescessary years. I should have broke up with the guy year 2. We did not cheat on each other either, but I was still miserable. I would walk, unless... unless, you see a change. But people only change if they want to. No one's opinion mattered but my ex's as well. It was really bad, I mean he would argue with me over the way I phrased sentences. Example, "You said you could, not you would." I mean, give me a break. Life is too short for the bullshit! He would bring up old stuff as well, going back like 2 and 3 years, and when I would do the same, he never wanted to hear it. But I had to listen to him. It seemed like there was never an equal playing field. If I would treat him exactly how he treated me, he would be livid. When I would say, but you did the same to me, then all of a sudden "Two wrongs don't make a right." The behavior will probably not change, and it is hard to walk away, but it will be the best thing you can do. Or you will be going with the back and forth for a long time. After I broke up with my boyfriend, I cried for like a 6 months, but I am soooooo much happier now. It is 4 years later. I date, and now that I look back on that relationship, I realize that he was brought into my life to show me what I will, and will not except in my next relationship. If you have really said, I have done all I can can do in this realtionship, and it is still not working, then leave. You know what you contribute to the realtionship, but if you can honestly, and I mean honestly say, you do not see where you are the problem here, then go with your gut. He may be a good guy, just not good for you. Like I said, you can stay, but if the behavior does not change, and it just seems like the two of you are going in circles, reliving the same day.... Run, don't walk. IT WILL NOT GET BETTER. TRUST ME.

Answer 4

Hello 'boogirl' (that's cute !) :
" Alot" of arguing is a real indicator.
Your relationship is headed the wrong way.
I've always felt it's the guy's job to make the woman/girl HAPPY.
In your case, it's NOT happening.
Break off this affair and wait patiently for a guy that makes you laugh.

Answer 5

Resolve it, or realise that if you argue now, you will argue when married and it is not going to be a happy life.
Split kindly.

My opinion from what was provided
Reft

Answer 6

you try to find out the source of the arguments..and if your just fussing to be fussing..stop it..but if its a reason behind it then examine the problem and fix it... if the arguments dont stop it will lead to a dysfunctional relationship causing other problems to arise and the end result will cause your relationship to be over..so stop that arguing now...get some space something before you two drive each other insane.

Answer 7

what to do what to do what you should do is tell him you dont like arguing and you want to try and make it work between you and after you say that just kiss him and let things lead on from there if you no what i mean ;)

Answer 8

question the relationship then talk to him and find out why we do not see things the same way most of the time..is there a communication break down

Answer 9

i say shut the F up and stop argueing

Answer 10

Have more sex to balance with the arguing.