Help!! I'm moving into my first apartment tomorrow!?

Question

I'm 19 years old and I am moving away from my home and my mom (whom I'm very close to!). It's about an hour away. I've never lived on my own before and I have to admit I'm more than a little nervous. Once I sign my lease tomorrow, I'm stuck there for 6 months. What if I get homesick? What if I'm not ready? Ahhhhh!!! What can I do if I get homesick? What if I miss my mom? I'm really nervous!

Answer 1

You know, the more you tell yourself that, the more you are setting yourself up to feel those emotions overwhelmingly.

Arrange to talk to your Mom for an hour or so each night...just to touch bases. Tell her you're worried about not being able to do it, and you want to use her to calm you down every night.

Then when you get into your new place, start exploring the neighbourhood. Get to know people there, and make friends where you can. Make a list of sites close by to your new home that you want to explore.

If you go into the move with a positive attitude...that is that you are determined to make friends and have a good time on your own, then you will be more inclined to enjoy your time.

Attitude is EVERYTHING!!

Answer 2

I've been in the EXACT same situation as you are. Trust me, it won't be that bad especially because it's only an hour away (think about the people who live hours and hours away, or states away, or even countries). If you do get homesick, you'll easily be able to visit on weekends (as I did). I lived with a friend, and she did get homesick for the first night or two but she got used to it quickly. I thought I would be a lot more homesick than I thought because it was my first time being away from home for so long but the only time I was sad and about to cry was the moment my mom had to leave after helping me move my stuff in. After that, everything felt really normal and I felt more than okay. Don't worry about it. :)

Answer 3

My young friend..there are many things you can do these days so you don't feel so homesick. I recommend having some pictures of family and friends around your new home for you to see... and you are only an hour away, so you can always go visit on some weekends. These days, phone plans are cheap and I'm sure your mom will call you often.
Now.. instead of missing everyone.. try to view it as an adventure. Your family and friends are close enough to rescue you so to speak at any time...but life is an adventure if you make it out to be one for yourself. Start every day fresh and new and look for the good things about being on your own. We've all been homesick before... first time at summer camp, first day at school when we were little... it is a fear, and you can conquer it. I have faith in you.

Answer 4

You'll be able to handle it . It just takes some getting used to. I got married when I was 18 and moved from NY to CA. It was very very hard. But, at least your only an hour away. You can go home on weekends and stuff. I'm in California, so I'm stuck here by myself. It'll probably be really different and hard when you get there at first. Just hang in there and talk to your mom on the phone. It'll get better and you might even like the new independence you get. You can do whatever you want all day long!! Thats the best part.

Answer 5

An hour is not too great a distance. if you get homesick, the best thing to do would be to call your mom. Try to resist traveling to your mom's house, because you will have a harder time adjusting to life out on your own. It's ok to be nervous about your first move out of the house, but it's ok to enjoy it and look forward to it as well. You will adjust quickly to your new freedom and then you'll be happy with it.

Answer 6

6 months will go by fast, and by the end of 1st month you will be alot better. I moved "back home" after my parents moved away. I was 18, and scared to death. Are you moving for a job? If so, your job will keep you busy. Do yourself a favor....don't go out and get credit cards. They can ruin a young life. Take your time. Yardsales can also be alot of fun alone or with a new friend. You can get stuff for your new apt ! Take a deep breath and jump in! You'll find you don't know as much as you thought you did!!! Good Luck!! PS: If you are that close to your mom, how do you think SHE is gonna feel? As scared about your well-being as you are!!!!

Answer 7

Pack your teddy bear and the blanket you're used to sleeping with right next to you in the car along with your familiar pillow.
(I'm not joking, this can really help you)
For the first few nights, put on some music, run a fan, or turn the TV on low to provide a constant familiar background sound you can get to sleep to -- this will block out unfamiliar night noises.

With your Mom, decide on a specific time period when you're both available to speak on the phone. The first week you may want to start with once a day. The second week, everyother day, eventually working your way down to once or twice a week as you wean your dependence and spread your wings.

In your new place, invite other girls your age in for a movie or pizza night, or for a game night. Be active out of doors, and show your willingness to speak woth others. (Cautious on the boy side - and first off seeking the girls)

Answer 8

Every person has to experience this sometime in their life and this is your time my friend!!

You should be excited! Be happy that you get those late nights, the ability to eat that Espresso Chip ice cream late at night. The bulk packaging of Top Ramen is awaiting to sit beside your kitchenette sink!

I am totally serious:

Have a slumber party with your mom. Tonight, sleep at her house one last night. Watch your favorite movies, fall asleep on her couch. Next time, it is your time to host the party at your OWN place!

Yeeeeeeeeeeee! Get pumped. You are not apart from your family. This is your adventure, but your mother is only a call away. Those popcorn nights can be a handful. Also, having your mom get a chance to live as you do and see what you see can get her approval and ease your spirits!

YAY! You are growing up! ;)

Answer 9

You're 19. Part of growing up is leaving home and doing this life thing on your own. You're going to miss your mom, it'd be wrong if you didn't. You're going to miss your home, your bed, your bedroom. It is comfortable. Living on your own can be exciting too. You'll be able to spread your wings, have independence and make your own choices. It is a freedom that is worth the pain. You'll be okay... call your mom, meet some new friends, and join a club or group or team that keeps you busy. You have to grow up, and this is part of it...

Answer 10

It depends on HOW you eat. In our home, we make almost every meal from scratch. We buy beans, lentils, rice, pasta noodles, and plenty of canned things to go with them. We buy canned foods carefully because we don't like all the sodium, but we do buy pasta sauce, canned corn, olives, good soups and tuna. We have taco shells, almonds and raisins and dates. Peanut butter, honey, and jam. Bread, of course, is better fresh, but you can freeze this. We buy chicken, ground turkey, hot dogs (only the good kind like Hebrew National), sausages such as Little Smokies and we freeze a lot of it. Of course, buy the meat you prefer. Buy eggs and butter, oil, and do you have your condiments? Always in our house: COFFEE! :) If you like prepared meals, stock up on good frozen stuff. We don't do much of this, but we do buy Stouffer's Lasagna and frozen pizza. Frozen vegetables are good to have on hand. Of course, there are some items that out of necessity must be bought fresh such as fruits and vegetables. Apples and oranges store well in plastic bags in the refrigerator along with carrots. Buy some potatoes, too. Do you bake? Buy sugar, flour, baking soda and salt. These are used for cooking, too, sometimes. Does this help get you started? Edit: Wow, lots of good answers, ladies!