okay so hear how it went down
there's this girl i loved with all of my heart and i finally got the courage to ask her out only because i knew she like this other guy who i couldn't possibly compete with. and she said how she didn't like him any more so i ask her out and she said the way i put it make her cry because it was the nicest thing any one had said to her. so thought i won her heart and i finally felt happy for the 1st time in a very very long time. but then right before we parted she said how she loved me but she thought it would ruin our friendship if we went to the next level in our relationship. i was crushed i felt tears building up in my eyes. and she kept saying she was telling the truth and i said i understand and she asked if i was mad a t her and i kept said no i understand.
i was crushed and my already broken heart was shattered.
2007-07-21 17:24:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
then the next day she im'd me and asked me if i was doing okay and i said no and she said how horrible she felt and she kept saying that she really wasn't that great.
so then i told her that i was fine because i didn't wanna bring her down too.
after that i was really sad and i felt misberible
but it gets worse
like 3 days later i found out that she was going out with this other guy that was her friend too. and i guess a little piece of my heart died at that very moment and i felt a million times worse than i did before i had never felt that much pain before.
and even though it's been over a month ago i still can't seam to let her go and i still feel horrible.
i just don't know what do do it's ripping my soul apart
i wish i was like those guys who don't care about love and they can take rejection
i need to get her out of my head it's just not heathly
2007-07-21 17:25:12 · update #1
I'm just recently getting over the same thing, except mine is just a bit more confusing, but regardless I can empathize with you.
You're having hard time getting her out of your head because you have strong feelings for her and she's your friend, meaning you just can't stop seeing or talking to her.
All I can suggest to you is that time will make you understand that she only likes you as a friend. You also can't blame her for dating another guy, regardless whether they're friends or not, the fact is she made it clear to you she's doesn't anything more than a friendship. Although, I think she should have said it differently rather than giving you a small glimpse of hope by saying she's afraid to go to the next level.
You're emotionally on a rollercoaster right now so accepting things will be a slow process but you'll be okay. I wouldn't suggest dating either, because you're so hooked on your friend that it will be unfair to you and the other person you're with. I think hanging out with other friends is the best solution and if you need to keep venting about how you feel you can drop me a line.
good luck.
2007-07-29 13:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to face it that she's just not that into you. She has been trying to let you down gently, but face it the relationship is strictly one-sided. If she wanted to go out with you, she would. No excuses about how it would ruin your friendship. Time to move on. Plenty of other girls out there. Ask some of your guy friends if they know of someone that might like to meet you. Their girlfriends might have sisters or cousins. You could all go out together, skating or something. Or, attend church fellowship groups.
2007-07-29 18:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it hurts reading your question. The problem is competition. You simply have to be better than them. That doesn't mean getting harder abs or a bigged pay check, it simply means doing what they aren't willing to do. Be more courageous than the competition.
If you think she would like it, serenade her from the street, but make sure it's something you know she would like.
There is not "ANY" competition that can't be BEAT. If you really care for her, you'll be willing to do what the competition won't.
2007-07-22 00:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry she did this to you in time you will go on with youre life and you have to be friends before you become boyfriend and girlfriend thats what makes a relationship work and you have something in common or to talk about she just let you down easy thats all she probably always liked this guy she is so wrong for doing this too you sorry just try youre hardest to forget about her by staying busy and avoiding her if you can
2007-07-22 00:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why I'm saying this, but I have a feeling that she will come around to you in time. In the meantime, try to live your life and be happy. All the best to you. You're GREAT boyfriend material. I hope she finds that out real soon, for both your sakes.
2007-07-28 21:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry. the reason you cant get her out of your head is that she is such a good friend and you like her so much. i think that she only went out with that guy because she could see herself going out with him but with you maybe it just didnt seem that way even if she did like you. i would talk to her about how you feel and that you cant stand it. tell her that you always want to be there for her and how that she might go out with you when she is ready.
2007-07-22 00:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by giarc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaaawww...that's ssoooo sweet and sad at the same time...I don't know what to say...I feel really sorry 4 U. Try 2 move on...maybe when shez single again...email her how U feel and write her what U wrote on this site.~Good luck~
2007-07-29 17:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son... get in shape and get some confidence.
Problem solved.
2007-07-22 00:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, she lied to you. sucks dude, but you gotta learn that women cant tell the truth
2007-07-22 00:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋