and he kissed me alot. some were small and sweet like on the cheek or forehead or hand(my weak spot) and more on the lips and there was definite passion and a connection. ive known him for a long time, like 6 or 7 years. he is a really sweet guy, but somewhat of a trouble maker. but im having trouble letting go of all the hurt ppl have caused me and im finding it hard to trust him, even tho i have no reason not to. how do i get over it? im just scared.
2007-07-21 16:50:57 · 8 answers · asked by Raven S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes a trouble maker like a lil trouble here and there with the law. likes to fight...typical bad boy i guess
2007-07-21 16:58:24 · update #1
hes nineteen and im a few weeks shy of 17
2007-07-21 17:03:52 · update #2
It is sad that people have hurt you so bad that you are having trouble trusting people. It is natural to us to be kind of wary of people when the trusting some one has often lead to bad outcomes.
Accept that your mind and body are telling you to beware. You should be careful about who you let in your heart... and your bedroom.
Try to start with a clean slate with EVERYONE you meet. They deserve to make their own impression of themselves. They deserve the chance to prove themselves to you. It is not their fault that you have been hurt, they shouldn't pay for it.
Since this guy has been so sweet to you, have an open heart conversation with him and let him know what you have been through. Tell him you are ready for an honest, good relationship and that if he isn't ready for that you should part ways. This way he knows that you aren't fair game for love games. He can either choose to accept that and prove to you that you can trust him or not, simply put.
Actions speak louder than words. If he is worthy, you will slowly begin to start trusting him. If he is really good to you, you might end up trusting him wholeheartedly. In a perfect world, this is how it would go. But we don't live in a perfect world. Things might change, there might be setbacks. Expect them. But don't be discouraged. Sometimes it's the setbacks that make a relationship grow.
2007-07-21 17:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by MelT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea i know that feeling. To be honest the best thing is to slow things down before you get really scare! First, you need to recollect yourself. Its not right to compare him to these other guys because he is not those other guys in general. But before things get really heated up get to know this guy better than the make out scenes. You dicover people through communication not lust. Make sure you are ready for a relationship as well if you have been through other problems.
Personally, to be able to trust another love again because i did not want to get hurt- I had to believe in love. Just as we are unsure completlty on how the dinos were extinct we have a theory but we might never know. We are always unsure in life and the best thing to do is believe in something when u only have a theory. Thats just like love, u have to believe and take that risk or u will never learn to fully love as a person.
2007-07-21 23:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rae Rae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've known this guy for 6 -7 years, then I think you can probably trust him already. From the description of your situation, I can tell that he is a sweet guy. I think you should focus on him. Don't compare him to the past couple of guys that has hurt your feelings. Probably he is someone totally different (you know,, in a good way)
2007-07-21 23:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by chocolateluver60351~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him your fears. Communicate and be honest with him. I had trust issues for a long time for different reasons. Once you are able to discuss them with someone, you can slowly let go and be able to go on with your life. It doesn't have to be him, but if you want to get to know him, tell him. Tell him you want to take is slow and be honest with him about trusting people. He will respect you for it. Take it slow and get to know him. Enjoy the time you spend with him, but don't do anything you are not honestly ready for. Best wishes to you.
2007-07-21 23:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might have a reason not to trust him if hes somewhat of a trouble maker..
2007-07-21 23:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by tammy g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is he is he older then you?becouse what if you guys get in a bige fight you guys will not get to be freinds. so I would just be freinds.if you want to be my freind my email adress is miaTmazzca@yahoo.com I am only 10 years old so if you want to be my freind there is my email adress.
2007-07-22 00:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by mia m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not those guys and you know this kid, you KNOW him, after years...trust him. dont think so much you'll mess it up
2007-07-21 23:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you exactly mean by a "trouble maker"....give us some more info, please (:
2007-07-21 23:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by IceIt71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋