I have a friend of mine that has been going out with the same guy for 51/2 yrs. She didn't know anything about him watching until he came to her one day and said that since they had been going out he had not been watching porn... as the years went by, she discovered on his computer a porn video and she asked him about it and he said that yeah he watches porn. Now, she asked him to stop but he says he will but he never does. She's told him she doesn't like him watching that...
She feel bad and she's told him that if she is there for him for sexual needs, why does he need porn....
She doesn't know what to do and I don't know what to tell her.. any advice??
2007-07-21 16:31:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's just a guy thing, and girls will never understand.
2007-07-21 16:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Jon 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If it's a problem for her, she should talk it out with him.
However, most guys--not just pervs, and even those in a relationship--do watch porn, and she might just need to relax about the whole thing. It's not really anything personal.
2007-07-21 16:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well..its clearly shown that he is addicted to it...What she can do is contact a therapist because most men that watch that have a problem inside that needs to be delt with if its not that serous she can try making him stop but if it is out of her control she should really talk to some one that could help him...Even if he stops or keeps watching...i think he is just using ur friend physically..so she desereves a guy that gives her more respect than he does..if he really loved her ....he would have stopped watching it as soon as she told him too.....
2007-07-21 16:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by ɱýšƗȉɋǔȇ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I thinkthat if he can't stop he's adicted to it(that is if he has tried to stop). The other thing is that he can be just stubborn and just doesn't want yo stop.If he is tryiing to stop, then i thinks you can't make him stop, he's just going to have to want to stop. Its hard for people with addictions to stop, even an addiction to porn. There was this minister who was addicted to porn for years and even while he was married, but it took him a long time to realize that he had an addiction and eventually he stopped. Your friend is just going to have to have faith and if he wants to stop, just try and help hiome and be there for him because it'll be really tough. Try things like taking away the computer and stuff like that. that way he won't have access to it. Good Luck!!
2007-07-21 16:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its really no big deal. It doesnt mean anything at all....They can do it all the time and he will still want to watch porn at times. Get over it because it means nothing and its really not hurting anything...
2007-07-21 16:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Win the West!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its normal for guys to watch porn even if they're in a relationship. Tell her to stop being a controling b itch cuz he should be able to watch w/e the f uck he wants
2007-07-21 16:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
porn is normal...i think everyone who doesnt have a stick up their butt watches it some may not want to admit it but they do...hell I've even watched porn with a couple of my bfs its just about sex its not like he'll ever meet those girls in real life or ever really get in their pants, so what is he not allowed to watch R rated movies with nudity either?
2007-07-21 16:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by dye_mel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he needs to watch porn that badly then he doesn't understand what the best/most important part of having a girlfriend is. you should tell your friend to break it off and see how he handles that. no one has to live with that, especially with how many other people there are out there for her. maybe it's time for her to move on but i don't know. if she tried talking about it and failed i don't know what else she could do because that shows lack of character on his part.
2007-07-21 16:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by mermaid 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Porn can help a relationship,maybe she needs to watch with him,what can it hurt,it just puts more lead in his pencil for her not someone else.
2007-07-21 16:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Almost all guys watch porn. Its natural.
2007-07-21 16:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
he is a really big liar. he is a human being why can,t he just say it before? and your frd can,t stop him it is his attitude that she never know and he is not in love with her but only someone for him to rely on when he need her for his own credit.
2007-07-21 16:42:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋