i'm a 5'10 , 245 lbs women.. i'm ot huge but i'm thick.. i find alot of men judge me on my looks.. but why? i mean i dont wanna change myslef for no man but it justed bothers me about it.. besides would it make a difference how big or small i was as long as i'm a good woman an love my man..
2007-07-21 15:36:54 · 27 answers · asked by Shelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh hell no, most of my hubbys employees are skinny and married to big girls, they luv them! my hubby and i are thin but if either of us got big we would still be together :)
Good Luck Girl and stay as you are :) a good heart is all that counts!
2007-07-21 15:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask why a lot of men judge you on your looks. That is because first impressions are almost always based on looks. You do it as well as everyone else. If most men do not want to date 245 pound women then that is what you are working with. You probably will not be able to change that fact so you may want to consider compromising. For example; loosing 50 pounds might open the door to another 50 men in your life. One of them might be the love of your life. Never let people make you believe that you can be complacent about yourself and everything will just work out OK.
You need to take control of your life and learn that you can make some adjustments and still be the same great person inside. Your health is one of your greatest assets. Guard it closely.
2007-07-21 16:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Trailhand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the man. It is about personal preferences and not all men are looking for the same type of woman (ie. blonde, skinny, nice rack, etc.). One man may want that type of woman where another man may not. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may be a dog to one man where the next one may find you to be a babe.
On the same token, women judge men by their looks too. Based on my experiences many women won't accept a man who is shorter than 5'9" or overweight themselves. If a 5'5" 140lbs guy came up to you and asked you out, would you be game or would you reject him for being smaller than you?
2007-07-21 15:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you're feeling confident, looking sexy to YOU then don't ever change for a man. There are plenty of fine men out there that want a woman with some meat on their bones. Girl, ain't nothing like a woman with confidence! And believe me when I say, men are checking you out. When the right comes along he will love you for you. Girl, strut your stuff and do YOU!
2007-07-21 15:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Sugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's likes and dislikes are different. Most people can't help the way they feel when it comes to what attracts them in the opposite sex. Some don't like red hair, some don't like bald. And some just see someone's personality. I'm sure you have your own likes and dislikes when it comes to the type of man you prefer. It's like that for everyone. Just keep being that good woman.
2007-07-21 15:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Gabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way that you do. I dont think that people should be judged by their outside appearance first, but the thing is they do. The fact remains that men are turned on more by thinner women. you need to find a man who is willing to accept you, and love you.
2007-07-21 15:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by kay j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does to me, I would never consider a relationship with a woman who weighs more then 135lbs. Go ahead, give me a thumbs down, but it all has to deal with preference. Some people look for significant others based on whats on the outside, some based on whats on the inside. It really shouldn't matter, but it does, we are a shallow society.
2007-07-21 15:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
UR RIGHT U DNT NEED TO CHANGE URSELF FOR NO MAN......a lot of guys make da mistake to look for a girl on her aperance and dat shouldnt be....so dnt change when u find someone they should love u 4 who u r....dat way ull know they realy love u 4 u....n not 4 ur aperance...anywayz theres alot of men who like big women.... :)
2007-07-21 15:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm 5'5 200lbs and i love my man2 . its not you problem b-cuz dumbass men think that big women cant do want them skinny women do which maybe true but the problem comes when the thick women don't believe it either. lets just say those men who judge us are broke dumb men then we should feel alittle better
2007-07-21 15:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by spectator tea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men r different, my girl is 95 pounds and shorter than u, love her till death, there r many men who love big women, keep looking
2007-07-21 15:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋