I just bought my dress today =)
I don't want to show my fiance a pic of me in the dress, but wonder if I should show him a pic of it on the designer's website or leave it a suprise?
What did everyone else do?
2007-07-21 15:23:01 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh! Of course I meant "Did you show YOUR fiance the wedding dress?"
D'oh!
2007-07-21 15:40:10 · update #1
My husband went shopping with me. He saw me in the gown before anyone else. I couldn't shop with my mom anymore, she was making me nuts. She is sooo stuck in the 80s, I mean huge puffed sleeves. dangle pearls on the forehead, the whole nine yards. It was a nightmare. I seriously questioned whether she was actually my mother, I mean how could I have come from someone with such bad taste. Sorry for the whole long story. It's up to you whether you show him or not. It will still be special when you walk down the aisle because pictures aren't the same at all.
2007-07-21 15:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Does he know yet they you already have the dress? If he knows..don't discuss it or show him or it won't be a suprise.
If he doesn't know you have it...What I would do is say honey, what do you think of mermaid or whatever style of dress and he will say what is that? That is your cue to show him the one online you have but also get two or three other pics lined up that are a bit different to your one and say which one do you like best and why? Ask what he thinks of that style and then ask about the fabric and if your dress has a lot of detail...what does he think of the details?
Who does a bride want to look the most beautiful and stunning for? The relatives and friends or her groom? The groom right? So it doesn't make sense that women will say oh he doesn't care what you can wear..it can be a sack and he will still think you are beautiful. That is a load of pc crap.
It's his wedding as well and his family are friends are there, so he does care how you will look.
I have already told my bf he can help pick what style I will wear because I know he is fussy about fashion. lol I have showed him dresses and when he says 'it's ok' I know he doesn't like it! He loves satin, can't understand why women want a lot of detail on their dresses lol and doesn't like the big skirts, doesn't like veils, tells me certain dresses are old fashioned yet doesn't want me wearing a coloured dress. lol
Just goes to show you that your tastes and what your man likes can be different!
So believe me he will appreciate having some imput into your dress - my bf thinks women that don't care what the guy thinks about the dress are selfish.
Good luck on your day. :)
2007-07-21 16:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by xanadu88 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Congrats on buying your dress!! I know how great that feels...I remember how absolutely thrilled I was that I found the "perfect dress" at a price I could afford..and I wanted to show EVERYONE.
However, as for showing your fiance a picture of your new gown: Please don't.
In a drunken but really excited moment, on the night after buying my dress, I showed my fiance a picture of my dress on my Palm Pilot. Even though it was a really tiny picture, he was pretty upset...he didn't want to have any idea of what my dress would look like until that moment when I walked down the aisle. I still feel bad about it....
Leave it a surprise babe. It will be worth it. :)
Good luck!
~Kat
2007-07-21 15:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is too much of a hassle to try to hide it from him entirely. In my case, we will be having the service in a small church where it is impossible to hide anyway and I don't want to do the separate riding thing. I am going to be nervous enough to walk in front of people, I want him with me to calm me down. You can show it to him if you want, but be prepared for a positive negative response. I showed my fiance some of the dresses I was thinking of (just online sites) and he said the pretty one with the red on the back looked like she was "farting blood." Even though that was one of my favorites, I couldn't consider it after that. If I had waited until the wedding, he wouldn't have dared to say that.
2007-07-22 01:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by PixdeeArtist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I showed my fiance a picture of my dress because I didn't think it was a big deal. A month later, his cousin got married in the same dress (what are the chances?). I decided to beg the bridal salon to let me exchange mine because I hadn't ever taken it home. Surprisingly they let me and I found a second dress. This time I am not showing it to him or telling him anything about it and I'm glad I had a second chance to do so.
Congrats and best wishes!
2007-07-21 16:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband saw my dress. He saw a picture of it a couple months before the wedding, the actual dress in the bag the night before, & me in the dress right before the wedding because we took pictures then.
I personally didn't find the dress & suprise a big deal at all.
2007-07-22 13:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't show it, or a picture of it, ahead of the wedding day. However, he saw me in it before the ceremony. In our cultural and religious tradition, family members gather at the home of the bride's parents to give special blessings to the bride and groom on their wedding day, then we go to the church for the ceremony.
Leave it a surprise, because YOU will look better in the dress than any pic can show!
2007-07-22 02:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing he knows is where I bought it and that it is white. It's a darn good thing that I chose white. AFTER I already got the dress he said it didn't matter to him what the style was as long as it was white - not off-white, cream, ivory or any other color. I was glad to hear we were on the same page. I prefer the white too. He won't see it - or a picture until the moment I walk down the aisle. I want it to be a completely new vision.
2007-07-21 15:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will see it before the ceremony since we are taking pics early instead of making our guests wait after. Nothing can take away actually seeing you in the aisle walking towards him...and I want a chance for him to tell me I'm purty and calm me down since I'm sure I'll be nervous.
He has no idea what it looks like but I did feel him out with a few dresses just to see if he wanted me to have more of a ball gown or something super sexy. I also asked him if he liked a few super ugly ones and left pics of me in them on the desktop so if he does go snooping he'll get a big fat dose of "she's not really going to wear that......is she?!"
Of course he decided turn around was fair play so I have no idea what he's wearing other than it's a suit instead of renting a tux. I reccomended dark brown and I trust him not to pick out something stupid.
2007-07-21 15:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I first brought my dress home, my fiance said, "lets see it", and I made a big deal saying that he can't! Then I thought about it and decided that I don't care if he does see it or not, I just don't want him to see it on me, so I asked him if he wanted to see it, and then he said no. lol
He said he didn't want me to regret showing it to him. But I described the basics of it to him, I felt I should because it's a very simple dress and I felt he should know so he doesn't expect a typical fancy one. :)
It's up to you, I don't feel it's bad luck, I just feel it's more of a matter of surprise!
2007-07-21 16:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋