slept together on the first night?

Question

Do you think you have a chance to have a good lasting relationship with someone if you slept together on the first night..

Thanks for all your answers. I was just curious to see what people would have to say but just to let you know i have now been with this man for over 2 years and we are expecting a baby sept.10th.! Thanks again!

Answer 1

No but who wants anything else from a woman after you already slept with her?

Answer 2

Normally, I would say no to this.

But I'm now dating a guy that I've known for 20 years, haven't seen for 18 years. He was actually my best friends boyfriend in high school.

We recently ran across each other and started dating - and slept together the first night (that was a first for me).....the passion was just there. We've been dating for about a month now, and things are going really well. The relationship is not all about sex, we go out and do things together, talk in the evenings on the phone about other things.

So yes I think it's possible.

Answer 3

The answer here is usually no!!!!!!!!!!! You have already given him what he has wanted without getting to know you. Most guys don't settle for easy. They like a good challenge.

They will take easy as long as they can get it but a challenge is more rewarding in the end.

What happened to the element of surprise here? Making him want you so bad that he can taste it. Teasing him just enough to keep him hanging and wanting more!!!! So that when the moment is right it will be a moment that he will never forget. And he will feel well rewarded and respect you way more!!

I'm not saying that it isn't possible for this to work between you. But I doubt that it will last but I am not him. You have given into him to easily and guys like this usually play the field and get what they want from you then move on because you gave into easy.

I hope that you get what you want out of this relationship. Hopefully this guy isn't shallow and won't judge you for sleeping with him on the first date. But this is how alot of guys make there choices about future wife's or girlfriends.

Good luck

Answer 4

yes, anything is possible.
the person you slept with the first night could end up being the LAST person you sleep with for the rest of your life.

life deals you a different hand all the time. good or bad, you gotta make the most of it. live life with no regrets and never look back on the past and dwell.

the fact that you slept with a person the very first night may come off to yourself and the other person especailly as a bad thing because it could just be a one-night stand, who knows? but if you guys really look beyond the physically stuff, you two could have a potential relationship with each other.

it is up to you two to decide if you want to go for it or not.

good luck!

Answer 5

Sleeping together is a wonderful bonding experience. many children begin their first days of life sleeping with a parent or two and thereby become securely attached.

Screwing, humping, or becoming biblically involved in an erotic fashion is another story. Unless you are completely lacking of emotion in sex it is best to connect before you connect sexually.

You can have a lasting relationship following sex on the first night but the chances are reduced since so much gets caught up in the chemistry of sex and mating. The sooner one lays a foundation that is no purely driven by phermones, and hormones, and PEA the better the chances of a lasting relationship

Answer 6

No. I would always wonder that if you slept with me on the first night how many others were there? It is not a very smart practice, and says that you dont care enough about yourself to know who you are sleeping with. It makes both parties "cheap".

I realize that it is an acceptable lifestyle choice for some, but not everyone wants to be trailer trash...no offense to trailer dwellers! Just watch Jerry Springer for a day or two. That should answer your question better than we can. Nana

Answer 7

Hell no sex is so not for a first date, AIDS brother protect and cap up lol wats the point in having sex thinkg that your gonna b together 4 a life time,Damm eveyone taking the meke owttw Romance. Sex is built up with getting to no more about one another ya no get the fire burning,and as u get to no the person and ya heart jst races every time u see her well then start thinkig emm babies a future white picket fence because in the long run thats were u will end.

Answer 8

Well.....You can't help wondering how many times this may have happened before you met this person. I'm a guy and I will freely admit there is a double standard... Guys who score are hunks...Girls who score are ho's. I don't agree with this, but that's the way it is. Just by asking this question I know you have doubts. So... if you really like this person...and trust them...go for it! You got the sexual part done...now see what's up concerning being best friends if you want a relationship.

Answer 9

I really do think this is possible, but it does lesson the odds.

If you click that much, there is a good chance of things going on. I don't buy into all that jazz about loose morals if you are together right away. Silly if you ask me. It felt right and good and therefore there is nothing wrong with it!

I hope it all works out for the best!

Answer 10

I'm not going to say no, but I will ask you a few questions:

Was it the first date or the first night you two met?
That really matters. If you slept with someone you didn't know, then what caused this? If he came onto the first night you met then you don't want him anyway! Take all of this in!

Answer 11

NO. Your relationship will be built on lust.

And that is like building a house of cards in a windstorm.

Plus, if you are ever suspected of being with someone else for more than a few hours. Well, you have just slept with them (Whether you did, or didn't) because your "EASY".

The Rat