We moved in our new home last November. When the weather broke a bit, my next door woman welcomed us. The rest has become a nightmare! Anything you've done, she's done better.
She gets incredibly drunk and comes to the door unannounced at all hours.
My husband and I are very non-confrontational ppl, so we've put up with her.
Last week, however she came storming to our door drunk, and demanded to speak to us. She went on and on. Ranting about me speaking to her husband at the fence, about me being a liar, about my husband being a coward, and that we were no kind of friends. This argument was precipitated by the fact that 4 months ago her husband had made a sexual suggestion to me, which I immediately discussed with my husband and it was decided that if it ever came up again it would be serious. But nothing further was said. However she found out somehow. And over she came.
Personally, I know she's going to want something from us before all this is through. What do I say to her ?
2007-07-21 14:29:48 · 14 answers · asked by DebbK 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I agree with calling the police if something like this ever happens again. I wouldn't wait on talking to an attorney though. You should go ahead and find out what options you have now and could possibly have in the future when (and I'm pretty sure it will) it happens again.
Since you'll run into her here and there I'd nod hello, offer a fake smile if necessary but don't get drawn into any kind of conversation because that just opens the door for dialouge.
Good luck. It's hard to live beside overbearing people.
2007-07-21 15:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of having 'chats' along with her will help. it particularly is going to easily placed her on the protecting. or perhaps she's purely a variety of mothers that would not care. i might recommend, in case you have any infants of roughly that age (3-6 yrs), pass over and invite the new child over for a playdate. teach her that there are adults that care approximately her wellbeing. a minimum of that way, you comprehend she's ok for some hours each and each week. If it keeps, or gets worse via entering into actual abuse, you are able to could desire to call Social centers, or if this new child is going to college, call and talk to a school counselor or instructor, so that they comprehend what's happening and to look for something indicating worse abuse. teenagers are somewhat resilient at that age, yet while it keeps, she'll attain a factor the place she will't take anymore and could snap. it must be on the age of 6 or sixteen, yet while it occurs, it particularly isn't any longer undemanding to get a new child back on the appropriate course.
2016-10-09 05:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a back bone and confront her. maybe she thinks that you will take the abuse from her because you have already so many times before, now get mad and tell her off, she's no better than you and if you would have put her in her place last november or whenever the first time she came over drunk, you wouldnt be there in the first place. now go confront her before she is too drunk! you will feel so much better after you do it. good luck.
2007-07-21 14:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Borrow the money if you have to and put up a fence. Stop talking to her period. If she comes to the door don't answer or if you do answer do not invite her in and do not converse with her. If she rants tell her to leave or you will call the cops. Stop talking to both of them.
2007-07-21 16:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Inform her that the next time she appears at your door, drunk, you will be calling the police. Also, keep a log of everything this woman does. I see a lawsuit in your future.
2007-07-21 14:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lived in my neighborhood for 20 years without ever speaking to the neighbors. We'd wave and smile but never speak. Just because you live next door doesn't mean they have to be your house guest.
2007-07-21 14:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like bad news & I would not be opening the door or encouraging any type of interaction.
If she becomes abusive & threatening, let her know that you will report her to the police.
2007-07-21 15:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by aki_kimono 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would speak with her when she is sober and tell her that that kind of behavior had to stop or you would have a restraining order put against her. You should not have to put up with such behavior.
2007-07-21 14:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her in. Tell her that you are busy and shut the door. Once or twice usually does it.
2007-07-21 15:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by ted j 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put her with her behavior any more, tell her when she is sober that you will no longer offer her your friendship that she has disrespected you and your house. You don't have to confront her but talk to her calmly.
2007-07-21 14:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by fun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋