she likes me but i dont like her, what do i do?
2007-07-21 13:34:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me on this it happened to me. The best thing to do is to tell her how you truly feel about her and that you don't like her that way and you wish to remain friends. Also do not try to play it like you are the one who needs space or anything like that be true to her and be true to yourself. don't lie. Hope i helped you with your problem good luck.
2007-07-22 09:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of guts for a man to ask a woman out and it takes a lot of guts for a woman to as a man out. Nobody likes rejection.
The first thing that you need to ask yourself is where are do you think you are in the dating game right now. Are you looking for a monogamous relationship? Are you looking to date a few different women? Are you looking to date several women? Are you looking to date at all?
If you are looking for a monogamous relationship, make a list of all of the qualities you are looking for in a relationship. Some of these qualities might be superficial (IE. She must be very thin, she must have blonde hair, she can’t wear glasses…) and some of your qualities are things that are very important to you (IE. She must be honest, caring and intelligent, she must be able to communicate openly to you…) Once you have your list, see where she meets your list and where she falls short.
If there are several areas on the list that she falls short of your needs, tell her that you know how hard it must have been for her to ask you out and let her know that you value her friendship but you do not believe that a committed relationship with her would work out and you do not want either of you to be hurt. Let her know that, although she is a great person, she does not offer you what you are looking for in your ideal relationship. Let her know that you do not mean to sound superficial and you really do not want to hurt her but it would not be fair to either of you if you were not honest to her about it. Praise her for her qualities and be reassuring to her but let her down gently. And finally - DO NOT tell anybody else about it. This is only between the two of you and she should not be hurt emotionally by anybody else.
If you are looking to date a few or several ladies, tell her that you are not ready to settle down with one girl at this time and you are looking to date a few (or several) girls so that you can really learn what qualities you are really looking for in a girl. If she is willing to accept that and she still wants to date you, go out with her once or twice and be respectful. Take silent notes on the qualities you like about her and all the qualities that you dislike. After 2 - 3 dates, you will know for sure if she is great for you or not. Do not settle for less than great or else you will have failed relationships and people will be hurt.
Good luck!
2007-07-21 20:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out with her and if she tries to get more serious while you both are on the date then break it up to her! just let her know that you don't like her more than just a friend!
2007-07-21 20:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Vicz101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, that's a tough one. Discretely and frankly tell her you're not comfortable with your relationship becoming romantic. Don't be harsh, but be honest. And if she asks why, then say you simply don't have those feelings toward her. It seems to me that both of you are young, so she may not understand. Good luck.
2007-07-21 20:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Glen W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out with her on a date as a friend.
Don't get too serious with the dating and stuff though. Just be friends.
2007-07-21 20:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rain. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you value your friendship too much to want to take it any further. Or simply tell the truth in a gentle way! Good luck.
2007-07-21 20:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Thank you Baltimore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im best friend was a guy and he asked me out and i said to him "no, because it will ruin our friendship. and i dont want that to happen between us." just tell her that
2007-07-21 20:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly the best thing is to tell her. dont go out with her cuase that will only feed into her .
2007-07-21 20:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by halo1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth don't let her sweat it out by not answering her... That is way too rude... I'm sure she'll understand...
2007-07-21 20:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by Life Happens.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that she's a really great friend, but thats all the feeling you have for her. tell her that your sorry that you don't feel the same way she feels about you. if she really likes you she'll understand.
2007-07-21 20:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by indigochic101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋