what are your responsiblities as a maid of honor?

Question

and how do i plan a shower and bachelarette party

Answer 1

Besides the shower and the bachelorette parties, you have to help the bride dress on the day. You may be asked to carry the ring, if she is giving one to her groom. You will also hold her bouquet during the ceremony and return it to her at the end. You may also need to be her witness on the marriage license or kitubah.

If anything is being done for the wedding, such as decorating and flower arranging, you should help with that.

You might offer to go dress shopping with her, especially if her mother is not available. (If you want to have any prayer of looking decent in the bridesmaid dress, go.)

Generally, you want to help her be relaxed.

As for the shower, ask her for a list of friends she wants at the shower. Remember to invite close female relatives, including sisters, mother, grandmother, cousins, and aunts if they are available.

For the bachelorette party, invite the other bridesmaids and maybe another close female friend or two, pick out a few clubs, and make sure you arrange transportation. Maybe that's a bus or taxi fare or a limo or a designated driver. Make sure that you have plans to eat something between 10 and midnight so that people don't get sick.

Answer 2

Tycha and mm covered it well. Really, you are supposed to smile and help out with whatever the bride asks you to do. Helping with invitations, and later with thank yous, help her with her train at the church, hold her flowers during the ceremony, perhaps stuff goodie bags for the guests, keeping track at the shower of all the gifts, writing what they are and who they are from. going with her to buy whatever she needs, from toasting glasses to her dress.
A shower is fairly easy, ask her who she wants to invite, but set the limit of how many you can afford and tell her what it is. Make sure all the close relatives, the female wedding party get invited. Pick a color. Bride's wedding color is blue? Her favorite color is pink? Go with those ideas. Go to your local party planning store, they have everything from silly games, to decorations, to paper plates. Decide what you want to serve, coffee, punch and cake would be fine, add food as you can afford it. Don't forget to decorate an umbrella for the shower! Don't make any of the decorations permanent, and the bride can actually use the umbrella. Go to the dollar store for cheap favors and/or game prizes. Have someone there to write down who gave what gift, and you have it. {I just went to Michael's Crafts, they had lot's of items for a buck, calenders, note pads, purse sized event planners]. Buy some invites, and put down at the bottom what you intend to serve for food, like this: cake and punch and coffee will be served. Save all the ribbons and bows from the shower, and make a bouquet of them for the wedding rehearsal, it's a tradition.
Sorry, I've never been to a bachelorette party, but I know that the bridal party, maybe the sisters of the bride if she has any go together and pay for the brides drinks, cover charges, transportation, etc.. There is a limo, or a designated driver. They usually go to a bar where music and dancing is available, or at a private home and the stripper comes there, but you can do whatever you want, or think the bride might enjoy. Not everyone cares to drink them self stupid at the bachelorette party. A Christian teetotaler can have a bachelorette party, too.
Hope this helps!

Answer 3

3 weeks? and he or she basically asked you? ok, forget and forgo all "universal" MoH lists. Ask her. Is she having a marriage, or is it going to be small, basically you (and doubtless another guy or woman) as witnesses? as quickly as you have the fundamentals (the different bridesmaids, how a lot of human beings) i could plan a small blended (you have not got lots time) bathe/bachelorette some days previously the marriage. maximum individuals ELOPE in Vegas, possibly this is greater what they're finding to do. basically ask the bride.

Answer 4

.... and most importantly ... don't look prettier than the bride, or draw any attention away from her.

She'll never forgive you.