if my girl friend has my kid?

Question

and doesnt answer her phone all day when she said to call her, and she is out of town. what should i do?

her friends and family dont like me so maybe they are telling her not to answer her phone. should i call the cops?

she is my babys mom. we live together with our kid.

Answer 1

is there a custody order in place?
yes? then you call the police (non emergency line) and report the custody violation. report the same to family court
you can also ask an officer to escort you to the residence to get the child back if it's past mom's time to be with the child.
no? go to court and file for emergency custody. then once that is attained you call the police to escort you to her residence to get the child back. if they aren't there you ask the officer to document that and take your report back to family court to report the violation.

Answer 2

We might need some more information. Is this the mother of your kid, or is she just watching your kid? If she is just babysitting - call the police.

If she is the mother, you have three options. One, go to a court and get a visitation order. Two, work it out between the two of you. Three, realize just because she had your child, you don't own her.

If it has only gone on for today, wait. If it has been days, weeks, months, and you don't have a visitation/custody order, sadly, there is nothing you can do (unless you get an order).

Assuming that you have already established paternity, and you are paying child support, then you have a good chance in court, assuming you don't have reasons for restrictive visits.

However, if you don't have any paperwork that states you are in fact the father, you have to petition the court for a DNA sample, (you pay the expense), once that is done, then you can move on. She can deny it if she is not getting any child support. By the way, once it is established, she can sue you for child support including back pay, before you are allowed any visits. Depends on the laws of your state.

Unless you want to go down that road, try to work things out with her. If that doesn't work, get a lawyer. Regardless, what ever she wants, she will eventually get.

Answer 3

Is your girlfriend the kids mother? Yes - don't bother to call the cops unless you think your child is in danger, they will tell you to call family court on Monday. No - Why is your girlfriend with your kid out of town and you don't know where? How long has she been gone and where here they going? Does her family know she has your kid with her and why? Do you think your girlfriend would hurt your kid, if so why is your kid with her to begin with? Get your facts in order before you call the cops! Call them if you think there is a problem.

Answer 4

Being pregnant is one of the most stressful things a Girl can do. This is a tough time for her, and she'll likely fall back on the advice of the people she's known the longest... meaning her friends and family.

This is also tough for you. Getting a girl pregnant leads a lot of people to automatically assume you are irresponsible and no good. You've got to prove them wrong.

Keep trying to stay in touch. If she has any friends and family that you can speak with, tell them you want to do the right thing, ask them to send her your love, and ask them for any advice they can give, since this is obviously a hard thing to do. If they advise you to give it up, tell them you want advice on how to make it work. Ask them if she still loves you, and do whatever you can to make sure the answer is yes.

Try to get in touch every way you can. Don't just call and text, use Email, snail mail, Snail Mail, SNAIL MAIL, and, if you're sure she still loves you, even visiting in person if the others don't work.

If she goes to church, talk to the pastor. If she goes to work, talk to the manager. If she goes to school, talk to the teacher. At first, come when she's not around. Don't get all stalkery, but ask them how she's handling it, tell them you really want to get ahold of her, but you think her parents are stopping her from seeing you, and ask if they'll pass on letters for you. Most of all, tell them you still love her, and want to do the right thing. Tell them you'd like to see her, but don't want to cause a scene. Ask them for advice too.

If you know much about her friends and family, try to make up with them too. Use all the same tricks.

If none of this works, you might call the police, but I would suggest toll free hotlines for emergency situations instead. Suicide hotlines that aren't too busy saving lives might be willing to give you some more free advice on things to try. The police are likely to say there isn't much they can do unless you suspect abuse... which would really not win you any points with the friends and family.

Answer 5

u cant call the cops cause she's not answering the phone,just wait for a while

Answer 6

I guess it would depend if you are on the birth certificate and if you are paying child support to her. If not, you should just keep your mouth shut. You have not rights to the kid if you aren't paying the child support. I think your girlfriend is trying to avoid you. Why is that? Are you still with her? Or were you just the sperm donor?

Answer 7

maybe she went out with the kid for the day

Answer 8

Why does she have your kid? Sounds irresponsible to me. Get your parenting skills in check .

Answer 9

What a sticky situation...

Answer 10

Hmm i guess so.