This senior girl I know is currently "seeing" a freshman in college. Since he's leaving soon, they're not dating and don't want to get anything started, but they still really like each other. I want to ask her out once he's gone, but a few things hold me back. First, I don't know whether she's still like him as much once he's gone, and if she does it's hopeless. Next, she's a friend of mine, and I don't want it to seem disrespectful, the "once he's out I move in" kinda deals. And lastly, I don't know how to phrase it so it seems more like hanging out then an actual date.
So here's my question:
A) Do most gilrs still go out with guys if the guy's in college and the girl's in high school?
B) will it seem rude and uncaring to ask her out once he leaves? Should I not ask, or how long should I wait?
C) How do I make it should as hanging out, not as a date, even thoguh it is... in that sense?
Thank you!
2007-07-21 12:15:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A. I can't speak for this girl's case, but I don't think college-high school relationships are too common, especially when they're not actually dating. Most college-high school relationships are when both knew each other in high school. The two worlds are vastly different. College students usually stick to their own. High school is simply a separate playground.
B. I would give it about a week and a half to two weeks before you approach her, and you must be subtle about it. She will need that time to get over him. You have the advantage because you're in her area. Don't drop the ball.
C. You could start out with a group date, something less threatening. But you have to first gauge her interest level. If you're feeling like you have to pull teeth to get her out, then it may not be worth it. But be upfront and say what you mean. It will always pay off in the end.
2007-07-29 09:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Andre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say they aren't actually dating, yet they really like each other. I think this girl might like to be with someone she could actually date. There is that old saying, "Out of sight, out of mind." Perhaps you could just "run into" her some place you know she will be. Ask her if she'd like to go hang out at the mall with you because you'd really like a girl's advice on your back-to-school clothes or whatever. That way it doesn't seem so much like you are interested in her, just her advice. Perhaps you could buy her something small as a thank you. Like earrings--let her pick them. If there is a photo booth, on the "spur of the moment," get your pictures taken together. That way, she'll have a picture of you to look at, and think how much fun you are to be with.
While you are in the mall, you could casually "notice" what is playing at the movies. Ask her if she'd like to see it.
When school starts, ask her if she wants to sit next to you at some event, or do some school project together. Or, maybe you "need" her advice about school. What colleges to attend, etc.? (Anything, to strike up a conversation.) You could work into dating after that.
2007-07-29 10:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right i know you might be in a hurry but all good things come to those who wait. Just be there for her and be nice give it some time (i mean several weeks of time) and one day talk to her and tell her you think she is wonderfull and that you have strong feelings for her and would like to be a lot more then just friends. But wait first. She might end up changeing her mind and go back out with the other guy.
2007-07-29 10:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by hmeetis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes
no, it will show that you respected her relationship enough to wait until the special person in her life was gone before you asked her out
make it seem like your hanging out at first, until she feels better about the boy leaving, but make sure she sees that you like her and she will like you even more for respecting her space
2007-07-29 09:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by hot stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what the relationship is when they ACTUALLY part. Wait and see. Then when he's gone, ask if they're still committed to one another. If so, back off...wait your turn.
2007-07-29 06:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really like each other and if you don't want to make things look "disrespectful" then you probably shouldn't do anything but move on and look elsewhere. Sorry.
2007-07-29 12:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, give it sometime, see what to do where the water settles. don't do anything now. it will never be in your benefit.
2007-07-29 03:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is off limits...Don't do anything stupid.
2007-07-21 12:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are breeding scabs on your @$$
2007-07-28 13:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by book writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋