I have some problems at the church?

Question

My mom and I attend this really old church. There are 10 members. It's really old church, and there is no kids around. We only go there because the main member really helped us a lot when we were in financial problems and so on. But I want to actually learn something at church, because our pastor sucks. So I attend other church where there is a youth group. But the main member is mad now and like yelling at me, asking if anyone at that church helped us when we were in trouble, sent me to the camp worth 300 dollars, and listing all the things he has done. What should I say to him. Something reasonable.

Answer 1

"As much as you've helped me through my families troubles, there's more I want to learn in religion. I appreciate all of your help, but I want to expand my knowledge of religion and learn with people my age, so I don't feel so alone."

Answer 2

i've got examine over all the previous solutions and the ingredient that lots of them make that I disagree with the main is they're telling you that church isn't significant and which you're able to do it on your guy or woman and you'd be greater suitable off. not something could be added the reality, i know this from my very own journey using fact previously i did not pass to church lots and reported you do not would desire to and all that. that's much less perplexing i've got discovered once you're surrounding your self with different believers. The Bible says the place 2 or greater are accrued in my call there i'm in the midst that tells us we want fellowship with different believers. As to your difficulty you're fairly blessed which you have friends that difficulty approximately you and want you to be at church, they at the instant are not doing that to be propose they needless to say do not know which you will desire to pass to the well being midsection that's advisable to talk that with them and that they're going to probably understand and pray for you. that's like me I used to need human beings to speak to me at church and have been given mad while they did not yet once you do not tell human beings issues how will they know you recognize what I propose? God bless you.

Answer 3

You should say nothing and start paying him back, humble yourself and let him know of your good intentions. If you can not afford the whole then give him small payments until its payed off, let him know how much you have appreciated his kindness .
For his gift was great and he put himself out for you, even though he now wants your loyalty to him.
Loyalty is something that should be honored, if you committed to stay there at the time of the gift? you do owe a debt.(Romans 13:8) . . .Do not YOU people be owing anybody a single thing, except to love one another; for he that loves his fellowman has fulfilled [the] law.
He is not seeing the truth because it is veiled to him. But if he has a good heart, he will not say anymore about his gift, and will not throw these things into your face.
Do you study the bible? If so then where ever you go you should be testing to see if you are understanding God's word?
If you think the pastor sucks, then why don't you talk to him and ask questions? Start with Mathew 5:5. Ask him why Jesus made that statement, then show him Psalms 37:9-11,29.
You might ask what Ecclesiastes 9;5,10 mean, or Ecclesiastes 3:19
The point I am making if you know the bible better then you can help him see the truth, and teach it in a way that's helps all. And your meetings will become more than interesting.
If you have questions, or need help in asking just write.
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You always know what is right and do what is in harmony with God's will.
How do you do this? by asking questions and allowing scripture to correct your thinking.


Once there was a good king. He was very kind. He would even lend money to his slaves when they needed help. But the day came when the king wanted his slaves who owed him money to pay him back. Well, one slave was brought in who owed the king 60 million pieces of money. That’s a lot of money!

But the slave had spent all the king’s money and could not pay the king back. So the king gave orders for him to be sold. The king also said to sell the slave’s wife and his children and everything that he owned. Then, with the money received from the sale, the king was to be paid. How do you suppose this made the slave feel?—

He knelt down before the king and begged: ‘Please, give me more time, and I will pay back everything that I owe you.’ If you had been the king, what would you have done with the slave?— The king felt sorry for his slave. So the king forgave him. He told the slave that he did not have to pay back any of the money, not even one of the 60 million pieces. How happy that must have made the slave!

But what did that slave do then? He went out and found another slave, one who owed him just one hundred pieces of money. He grabbed this fellow slave by the neck and began to choke him, saying: ‘Pay back the one hundred pieces you owe me!’ Can you imagine a person doing something like that, especially after having been forgiven so much by the king?—

Well, the slave who owed just one hundred pieces of money was poor. He could not pay the money back right away. So he fell down at the feet of his fellow slave and begged: ‘Please, give me more time, and I will pay back what I owe you.’ Should the man have given his fellow slave more time?— What would you have done?—

This man was not kind, as the king had been. He wanted his money right away. And because his fellow slave could not pay it, he had him thrown into prison. Other slaves saw all of this happen, and they did not like it. They felt sorry for the slave who was in prison. So they went and told the king about it.

The king did not like what had happened either. He became very angry at the unforgiving slave. So he called him and said: ‘You bad slave, didn’t I forgive what you owed me? So should you not have been forgiving to your fellow slave?’

The unforgiving slave should have learned a lesson from the good king. But he had not. So now the king had that slave thrown into prison until he could pay back the 60 million pieces of money. And, of course, in jail he could never earn the money to pay the king back. So he would stay there till he died.

As Jesus finished telling this story, he said to his followers: “In like manner my heavenly Father will also deal with you if you do not forgive each one his brother from your hearts.”—Matthew 18:21-35.
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Answer 4

Please read Matthew 6 :1 - 4 . Why go back ? Mail him a thank you note . If you do go back , thank him . Is your mom going to the other church with you ? If there is a woman pastor FIND !!! another church that follows the bible . Start reading the bible in the new testament .

Answer 5

Perhaps a letter, like this one, will help with your situation.

(2Peter 3:18) But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.

Dear Sir [ insert his name ]

I am but a child, spiritually and you are an elder. I desire to Grow in Grace..... and find that our church body.... has some issues, that I cannot deal with as a young Christian.

Your asking other members is not indicative of Helping One to Grow in Grace. Perhaps has I seen More Christ.... in you... and Less... YOU..... I may have been led to stay here.

I am sorry that Christ has not chosen for this church Body to grow anymore.... but Perhaps we should just put, ICHABOD over the door and close it?

IF you don't know what I mean, then perhaps IT IS REALLY TIME..... for that to happen?

I am sorry that you are angry with me for wanting to Grow, but Really.... do you want Me.... To Be Like YOU?

No, I am not being mean, but truth full. Can you handle the truth? This Church is Dying and in trouble. YOU getting angry with me...... is not.... and Never Been the Solution for the Problems... that the Church is Experiencing.

I am sorry, but I have to leave to some place, that I can Grow in Grace.

In the Love of Christ,

Signed..... [ put your name here ]

Thanks, RR

Answer 6

Say you really appreciate what he did. Tell him you need the spiritual food of the youth group, at least for now. Tell him you may be back. A true gift would be given without strings attached.
If he gets pushy, ask him if he would feel better if you paid him back.

Answer 7

if he was a real man of god he would be happy for your trying to learn more, sounds like he;s trying to buy you guys, u know make u stay cause of what he did 4 u. sounds bad, tell the truth, you need to learn more and be around kids your age. nothing wrong with going to different churches, if he still yells just pray for him he needs help.

Answer 8

tell them you are interested in knowing the truth about what the lord said. You appreciate all they have done for you. But you have a soul at stake. And you don't feel as though you are getting what you need there. Apologize and go on. You have a judgment one day and they can not answer for you.

Answer 9

No wonder there's only ten members. I'd say, get out of there and tell the main member it's because he's/she's a pompous door-knob.

Answer 10

first of all is this main person the pastor or leader of the youth group? I would tell this person or any one that tries to compare "God led us to that church,which in turn,lead us to you" and see what kind of response u get. if you don't get a good one find another church group. if this person is one of your peers then ask God for the grace of forgivness,and forgive them for they know not what they do.and above all....pray to God one on one for all your answers.and praise and thank him when you recieve them Amen! God bless you for trying!