i really love my boyfriend... i have been w/ him for a year & 1/2...... i no u may say... oh ur only 16 u dont no bout love...
but i do... and dont care wat u think bout that...
i just want to know... my boyfriend likes to have sex... ALOT!...
and i dont want to do it all the time... he doesnt really listen... and wen he does he just makes me feel so bad bout saying no...
and i dont want to leave him... but how can i talk to him and stop having sex all the time?
2007-07-21 11:58:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him,if he cares about u he will change
2007-07-21 12:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by madame239 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can really change the way u feel about someone. And no matter what age u are u can feel love, if u are mature enough. But if your bf loves u as much as u love him, he would respect the fact that, u dont want to have sex All of the time, by the same way u allow him too have sex with u. U shuddnt have to feel bad about saying no, especially being with him for so long. It's hard to change ppl, but if he loves u enough he shud understand. U sound like a beautiful and loving young woman, if he can't understand and sympathize with your feelings, it may hurt but u wud have to leave him. U have a whole life ahead of u and alot of love to share, and there's always someone else that will enjoy u and respect your feelings like u do theirs. So good luck!
2007-07-21 19:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop saying yes when you want to say no.
You can find a boyfriend who cares about all of you and not just your female parts.
You can tell him that you want a whole relationship and not just someone to have sex with so for the next two weeks there will be no sex. If he leaves, you haven't lost anything. If he stays you'll have a chance to see what he is really all about. At the end of the two weeks, either you'll be done with him or your relationship will be in a better place.
2007-07-21 19:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by zartsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's manipulating you into having sex with him.... I know this because I too was manipulated for over a year with an ex. It wasn't about being manipulated about sex (I'm waiting till marriage), although he tried to several times, it was mostly about other things. So I know manipulation when I see it. And this is it.
You shouldn't have sex till you're married... and another thing... YOU'RE SO YOUNG! He doesn't sound like a good guy the way he is treating you... you are definitely wasting your precious time on him.
2007-07-21 19:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you should do, you just don't want to do it. Be straight forward and if he does not like it, to bad. It was your choice to have sex and it is still your choice to say no when you do not want to. See how sex complicates things before you get married. I mean sex get complicated when you are married, but when you are a teen...it gets sticky.
2007-07-21 19:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he wants from you is sex, then you have to make sure where his loyalties lie. Is he as serious about your relationship as you are? Is he just using you as an object to get what he wants?
2007-07-21 19:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your body. You don't have to give it up for anyone. YOu can ask a guy to change but he probably won't, because we are who we are, but you should always remember that its your body and your life and you do not have to give it up for anyone. He will do it as often as you let him. If he dumps you because you want him to respect you then you haven't really lost anything.
2007-07-21 19:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by No one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you see that he's using using you sexually? Wake up. And where are your parents?
2007-07-21 19:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're pregnant that'll get him off you
2007-07-21 19:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋