will suddenly start messenging me every night for the longest time.
*90% of the time he will ask me to put on the web cam
*100% of the time he will mention the girl he left me for and how much he loves her etc.
*and lately he's been telling me how he's been getting drunk and drinking for the past week or so(every day!)
*then with each time we chat again, he'll start being nicer and nicer and start sending me kisses and stuff.
he's been with the girl he left me for for 8 months or so and we haven't seen eachother for 8 months(in real life) and i tell him that i like someone else now.
what's up with him?
when i was dating him, he would take 5 minutes to respond "good and you" when HE would messenge me saying"hi" and now he responds extremely quickly and well.
is this normal?
is he being passive agressive or am i just looking to much into this?
thanks,
xao=]
2007-07-21 11:53:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See that first part? 90% of the time he asks you to turn the cam on? Sounds to me like he's in love, but he isn't getting any, so he's trying to use you as a source of porn.
Maybe he talks about this girl because he loves her, but I think he's doing it to get you jealuous so you'll try to "win him back."
Why do you even respond at all? What do you still have for this guy that hardly ever responded to you when you were together, that dropped you l;ike a bad habit for another woman, and has been in another country for almost a year? This is NOT normal. What he's doing is very creepy, and for lack of a better term, what you're doing is playing door mat.
Maybe you're not showing him anything, maybe I'm way off on that part, but I guarantee you that he IS using you for his own reasons, and he is not going to stop until you totally cut him out of your life. I recommend doing this as soon as possible, because if he still has these kind of feelings about you when he gets back, chances are you'll have a stalker. I also recommend getting aquainted with some very strong friends just in case he does come back.
2007-07-21 12:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend and you have a different type of sex interest, now you still in worry level, which is the sign of uncomfort feeling, further if you keep this relation could be worst and fall in depressed. Don't expecting to much to get him change and get same image with you because seems he already get used to that kind of sex intimate, don't keep unhealthy relation that forced you to be someone else. May be there's a will from him to do common sex, so that he choose you to help him change (if there's small chance love is involved). But i don't think he's serious because he still get pleasuring himself from his ex. People only change if will n serious try get together and it comes from himself. Communicate with him what the problem, you should tell him that you are not his ex. Be your self n you deserved to get respect.
2016-05-19 07:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by stephany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Celene,
Actually, gf, you already know the answer here. He is a jerk who is trying to see if he can fool you into becoming dependent on him again. Fortunately, you are too smart to fall for his game, but you are questioning yourself... hence, your question on Yahoo Answers.
Stick with your gut on this one, hon. You are right. He's playing games and you don't need to play them. Next time that he messages you, blow him off. Don't bother with being ugly, but tell him that you are just not into helping him out when he's bored. You are busy, and will be busy where he is concerned, for the rest of your life.
After that, don't respond to anything he might send. In fact, block his messages. Saves you a lot of time because guys like this are sick, selfish jerks. You don't need it. Hugs, hon. Good luck with your new interest. :)
2007-07-21 12:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well 1 of 2 things.. he either realizes what a catch you were and it trying to get back on your good side or he is tryin to have his cake and eat it to. Just tell him you have moved on(if you have) and that you are willing to talk to him but in a friendship way. At any rate be careful what you choose it may cause trouble with your new man or his new women.
2007-07-21 12:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying to either make you jealous or he misses you and is trying to play it off by telling you how great his life is. I think he may want you back. Does his girtlfriend know that you are getting so much attention?
2007-07-21 11:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by han p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you are concerned -- this behavior certainly does indicate that something is wrong. I think you should encourage him to get into a rehab program for his alcoholism and also get professional counseling or other kind of evaluation for his mental health.
2007-07-21 11:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying in Spanish nadie sabe lo que tiene asta que lo pierde, maybe he capering you with his girlfriend and for what your saying she is no mach for you, well don’t answer his call anymore distance and time health everything Good luck
2007-07-21 12:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by geovannicalderon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to your answer to my question.. im sorry i wasnt in the mood to hear evreyones sob story about how there bf left them or how much they liked someone but wouldnt tell them.. and so i was kinda just finding stupid things to tlk about instead of like.. that. and the way i was talking was fake.. i was making fun.. and im sorry. and i knew that was the easy way to shorten words.. :)
2007-07-22 03:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is anything like this guys I used to date, he is just trying to have you both, or he just wants what he can't have.
2007-07-21 12:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by uniquelyexquisite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems unhappy with his current girlfriend.
He's most likely trying to pick you up again.
2007-07-21 12:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋