I am a 20 yr old girl and love a 41 yr old man. I have thought about this a lot and several times put this love feeling away. But, then I keep coming back. He is perfect in every way for me. I can't imagine him not being with me. Our personalities match so well. I really love him and want to marry him. I feel he is the only one who understands me. I worry too much about him and care about him and love him. Any advice or comments???
2007-07-21 10:43:50 · 7 answers · asked by BeautifulGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im in the same situation im 19 and my boyfriend is 34
2007-07-21 10:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cheeky Monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Beautiful Girl fact of live is that this man is old enough to be your father in reality. I am not judging or saying that this age difference is too large but just advising that there will be many differences between you both, even if they are not showing at present. Your company of friends will be different and differences may be as simple as likes and dislikes in music, culture and maturity. Think long and hard before becoming too committed to this male as if he have kids he will be in his sixties when the kid wants to play catch etc., and also the kids friends may look at this man as his grandfather instead of his father. So you have much to think about, not just the present but the future also. As well you will probably end up being a young widow, so you should think of this also.
2007-07-21 17:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has no age limit.
That's all you need to know and that's all you need to go by.
Please don't ever try to break it off because of age. If you love him, then that's more than most people within the same age can acheive. Congratulations on having a sucessful relationship, no matter how old the both of you are.
I wish you both the absolute best of luck in the future :)
2007-07-21 17:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if you can picture yourself at 40 in your prime and he is 61 it might be difficult and of course, you would be his nurse in the golden years. But otherwise if you have shared values and interests and you are certain you are not marrying a father figure, go for it
2007-07-21 17:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Love knows no ages. If you love him It wouldn't matter how much older than you he is. Love is blind. It doesn't matter what others say about you and your lover's age difference. You are a grown woman, and as a grown woman, you can make these decisions by your self.
2007-07-21 17:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful_kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it this way.when you were a new born he was already 21. i think that kinda creepy. but it's not up to me who you date. if you want to marry him do it. what ever floats your boat. it's your life do with it what you will.
2007-07-21 17:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... not to me..
2007-07-21 17:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by iloveyou<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋