I am considering moving myself and my two children ages 4 and 6 from Omaha, Nebraska "midwest" all the way to Crescent, California "west coast" The lady I intend to marry when I move their is going to college and working with one child I have enough money but am worried am I not considering anything when I am moving away from my job and Insha Allah will their be work in this city and be able to support my new wife when we get married maybe on an entry level job of some sort.
2007-07-21 09:58:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Asalam alaikum wr....first br, you didnt mention it, but do you have court ordered permission to move your children away from their mother? It is necessary of course to have this. Most divorcecustody decrees state that the children cannot be moved out of the area/state without the other parent's permission.....Here are a few other things u should consider.
1. Is her child a boy or girl? If it is a girl they girl will have to cover/hijab in her own home when she reaches puberty.
2. Same for your children, boys? girls? Intermarriage like this can be difficult.
3. Is the father of the woman's child muslim, is the woman? If she is and she remarries the child Islamically would go to the Father. This could be a strain on her, and therefore you.
4. Are u truly making this hijri for the sake of the religion? Remember, we get what we strive for in this area. He who emigrates for a wife, gets only that...astigfirAllah i forgot if its Qu'ran or hadith, insha'Allah another can remind us.
5. Have u made istigkhara prayer?
6. Have you researched jobs/housing etc there?
there is alot to consider br,...may Allah(swt) guide u
2007-07-23 18:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by Adam 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Sounds like a good idea, if you are able to take the risk, much better than continuing to be alone. Will you finish your education before you move, or will you be able to continue your studies there? Low pay jobs are easy to find, as long as you aren't too proud to do unpleasant, low status work, but its not so easy to support a family of 5 on one of those jobs. However, it is amazing how little you can live off if it becomes necessary, and besides, Allah is the best of providers.
2007-07-22 13:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Smiley 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Assalamualaikum warahatullahi wabarokatuh,Brother I agee with you that you must try hard for finding a good new muslim
ah wife and a tenderly and lovely new mother for your children
You must have a good preparation if you want to move from Nebraska to California.Have you found a good one for your wife?I hope so.In California there are many Asian muslim women working or studying there.You can try to get one of them.You can also make a good acquintance with muslimah in other country through spouse bureau such as in middle east or in Indonesia or Malaysia..Besides trying hard to find your new wife you must remember to Allah by tahajud praying at midnight asking Allah to show you the right potential good wife.I will pray for you to get it in a near future.Good luck may Allah always bless you and your children.
Wassalualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Regards your brother Ruchjat Kosasih. in Jakarta.
2007-07-22 15:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If You Always Obey Allah.. & Get The Love From Allah.. Given To You By Allah Signe.. Then Don`t Worry.. Every Thing Will Be Smoth.. In Your Way..
2007-07-21 10:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
May Allah's Peave and Blessings Be Upon U brother and the rest of Muslim Ummah,
Please pray salaat istakhara. And look at the marriage objectively, also consult fellow Muslims. InshAllah it may prove good for u brother! God Bless!
2007-07-22 08:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Assalamu Alaiykum brother,
You are not the only Muslim man experiencing this. My fiance, Allah bless him and keep him safe, is Egyptian. We are in the process now of waiting for Immigration to approve his Visa so he may move here to marry me. It is a hard undertaking for him. He is leaving his family, his job, pretty much everything because he wants to marry me. If you are following your heart and soul to be with this woman (like my beloved), and you know without a doubt that you are meant to be together, then you must truly be in Allah's blessing. Allah will provide for you brother, keep your faith in Him above everything else and you will find what you seek when the time comes.
Your sister in Islam,
Fatimah
2007-07-21 10:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Fatimah 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with brother angelnjins, It's better you take Istikhara pray
And you can start to find a job or start built new business in that city from now
Surely, when you have good intention and you have faith that Allah will always help you, you'll find a way.
May Allah bless you!
2007-07-21 14:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by marhama 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck. May Allah swt fulfil your dream. Ameen.
2007-07-22 05:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by atbt 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
do istikhara ... if you move you are leaving the unknown and if youo know taht lady well enough it is up to you but think about the impact it will make on you and your kids ... and if you would be able to get a job their apply online and see your options ...
2007-07-22 15:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by 3 Boys & a fish called Fabio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-14 23:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋