I'm a 33 year old single mother of 2 boys ages 17 and 10. I had recently been seeing (well not seeing, but sleeping with) a 22 year old, who was an assistant coach on the baseball team for my 10 year old and also works at his afterschool program. He was (is) fricking awesome, and I miss him, I stepped back from it because I felt weird when he stayed over and my 17 year old greeted him in the morning. I'm in a funky transitional relationship right now with a loser...what do i do here?
2007-07-21 09:57:23 · 19 answers · asked by MissayQ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First talk to your 17 year old and see if he is cool with it. If not then explain that mommy really like this guy and he makes her feel good. Don't you want mom to feel good. This should take care of that.
Next talk to the coach. Tell him you really enjoyed the time that you two spent together and just because you weren't sure of how the kids would take it sorta slowed up or backed off. It was wasn't anything that he did or didn't do. Tell him you want him again. Speaking for guys everywhere He should be over that night or sooner.
As for the looser dump his assss. Do what makes you happy.
Christine W. lets meet for drinks or lunch ;)
2007-07-21 10:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by terminator 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi Haulie, The important question here is, what do you think? I think YOU are this friend you speak of. That's ok. It's a common reflex to ask about a friend, rather than yourself, however, if it's not then that's fine too... 11 years is not a big enough gap to worry about if they love each other. If someone is 18 and 29... then maybe. 22 years can give you enough worldly experience to know what you need to do in life. It depends on their goals in life, and since they share the same profession, he'll have a built in study buddy. All in all, what matters is how they FEEL about each other, and not what others THINK.
2016-05-19 06:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say "not seeing, but sleeping with" you tell us that it is just for sex. If you are both happy with things the way they are, then don't worry about it. The only issue would be if you two started to get emotionally serious, and I would think he is a bit immature for you. There's not much difference in the maturity level of a 22 year old and your 17 year old son. Ask your kids how they feel about things, (don't go into the sex part!) and if they are uncomfortable about it, you might want to ask him not to stay over, go to his place if possible, if your 17 year old can watch the younger one, but not overnight.
2007-07-21 10:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie Missay. Well to me it is not good of you having sleeping with a guy who is 22 years old because if you are a traditional kind of person then this will never should be in your life although he is ten years younger to you, because if you are married and he could be consider as your son level on whereby as a eldest son in the family, when you had have a lot of night stand then this is something very bad and when your son has seen this for sure he will start to have doubt in himself about you and this can also lead to a bad relationship on your son and a fight too will occur and when this have happen then for sure your son will have a very bad impression on you and he won't believe you too. So it is also good if you stepped back for good and never try to have sleeps with him. Then for sure you won't have a bad relationship with your son and also the relation in you with your sons will last long too. Try this and hope it might help you.....................
ALL THE BEST......................
2007-07-21 10:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep seeing the 22 year old there is nothing wrong with it I was seeing a 44 year old and am 35,I don't think age should matter when it comes to dating.
2007-07-21 10:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the difference if your son and him saw each other in the morning,does he see the loser in the morning.I myself see nothing wrong with the age difference as my husband is 23 years my senoir and we have been happily married 26 yrs.Before he came along I too was in traditional relationships with losers also,and my family almost disowned me when I met my husband,but hey I went for it any way as I new he was the man of my dreams.So stick with your dreams Live,Love and Laugh!!!
2007-07-21 10:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by JackieG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok Girl i feel u on dis one!!!! I was n this same situation except mines was 19, and my kids are 12 and 10 and he worked at the boysclub were my oldest son goes everyday. and we also had a major problem i'am black and he is white!!! now sum in my family thought no. not because ov color but because ov age. but anyway he was very nervous because he had never been with the other color in life. . but he was very excepting ov dis we went out to the movies never had a problem with it. i think he was more nervous because he thought that i couldnt be serious with him and really hav intrest in him because ov the age difference. but he has slowly came around and yes un like ur mines is a lot younger but he has stayed the nite at our house and my youngest son woke up and saw him by accident. and was still ok with dat Its not like i wanted to marry him and move him in and do the hole family thing. and i think once i cleared the air and told him ok im just really attracted to him and just wanted to hang out and hav a good time were that good time lead us too it was up to him. and that i wasn't looking for a boyfriend he was was a slow starter but he came around. and my kids ask me about it and i told them that him and i were friends and that i 'am grown and i work everyday so even if they did hav a problem with it they never said it. I also kept it very very undercovers when it came to seeing him on the job. Because kids do tease kids and make sumthin out ov nuthing. But if ur 17 has a problem talk to him about it.if there is a problem do ur business out side ov the house ur grown!! And as for the loser u are with now y are u wasting ur time???? just weigh ur options FRICKING AWESOME or LOSER??? girl u only live once
2007-07-21 10:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by sean a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and my ol man is 31 age is nothing but a number and how you feel Hun its not weird
2007-07-21 10:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by My Hubby Rob&Son Dakota Robert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the LOSER!! Keep the 22 year old around just for fun :)
2007-07-21 10:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say its okay i guess but ur oldist is 17? and he would have a father in law whos 5 yrs older than him ?
2007-07-21 10:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋