im 13 and me & my boyfriend talk about havin sex alot.. were so in love, and trust me .. everyone says were meant to be , yeah i know im 'only 13' but anyone can find true love.. anyways , im just wondering if i should have sex with him.. like in the next year ? I know for fact he would never leave me.. so im just wondering ? We would use condoms , spermicide & BC.. so any suggestions , im still thinking about whether i should or not , please give me GOOD answers !!
2007-07-21 07:45:58 · 23 answers · asked by Just Me* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw , we do other 'things'
2007-07-21 07:57:43 · update #1
Way too young, and it's against the law. He can go to jail no matter what his age is. Wait!
2007-07-21 07:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when i was 13 i had a boyfriend that would never leave me and that was 500 boyfriends ago. come on... you are being silly. think about it? do you really want to jump into something like this. you are still in school.. have no job... have no way to take care of a baby.. condom or no condom. do you want to get the reputation that comes with this. if you were my child..male or female it would break my heart to know that you were giving yourself away so easily and so soon in life. do not do this. i am not old fashion.. just realistic,... can you not think of something more positive to do. hold off until next year and then come back on yahoo and tell me you still have the same guy. we will address the question again then. deal? deal
2007-07-29 14:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How these people would say that you were meant for each other? How did you know that he would never leave you? Don't do "things" because it is "in" or because everybody's doin' it....you should think of the consequences.. i am a mother, and i have 12 yr old daughter right now.. and surely will not be happy if my daughter at the age of 13 is already practicing sex.... and am sure your mom won't like it too.
2007-07-29 11:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by honey_babes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not going to leave you, why rush sex? I would take things slowly and do things that aren't intercourse. Talk to your school nurse or counselor about it and see what ideas they might have to do more than kissing and holding hands, but not yet going all the way. Intercourse is a very emotional experience, and I'd hate to see you do it. Once you've done it, you can't take it back!
If he's going to be with you a long time, then you'll have a long time to get used to the idea of having sex. If you do it too soon, then what's going to happen when you're 17? Normal sex might become too boring, and then he's going to ask you to do things like have threesomes.
2007-07-21 14:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you are much too young...I had an experience at that age...and really regretted it. It did me much harm emotionally. Loving someone should be a lifetime commitment. (though it rarely is nowadays), and that's why people get hurt.
This whether you realize it or not, is a 'good' answer. I am concerned for you. You may want to be grown up, but you need some time. I hope you take it...and don't rush things.
2007-07-29 13:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know for a fact that he'll never leave because you are both children. You should definitely not be having sex. By the way...are good answers the ones telling you what you want to hear?
2007-07-29 13:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Frances B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean or anything, but isnt 13 a little early to have sex? but yes, thats not my decision. If you feel dedicated and this is okay, go for it! but if u have any doubt, dont go through with it. I didnt until I was 16 id wait if i were u really. be together for atleast 3 months before even thinking about it
2007-07-22 23:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14 and have always been dealing with the same problem. Yet everyone tells me I'm too young and that I need to wait. First off, if you haven't been with your boyfriend for more than a year, then you definatley need to wait. But if YOU feel that you're ready and you don't have any doubts, then why wait until it's legal. Trust me sweetie, everyone has sex underage.
2007-07-21 14:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by juneBUG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can i just say im 13 and i know how it feels but im guessin tht u are a girl and so am i, you can do but its illegall, if u wana do it ,do it but if u do it but u r not obeying the law which means if you get caught your mums and dads would have to pay the price........ but think about it care fully ......there is plenty of time , cuter boyz , better sex in the future 4 you.
2007-07-21 14:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by jazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know at 13 u can find love i was married at 16. As for having sex at 13 i did it. does it feel like the right thing to do??? No one can tell u whether or not to do its upto you and how u feel if u feel its right go for it if not then tell u would prefer to wait.
2007-07-21 14:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Ginger H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd advise waiting. There are many non intercourse activities you can engage in.
Too many things can happen (go wrong) in the next several years of your life. So don't mess it up with a baby, an STD, etc.
2007-07-21 14:50:32 · answer #11 · answered by rjrmpk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋