I have known this guy for about a year now, and we're not really good friends, but when we all hang out in a group, we laugh and talk and get along just fine. One night, we both got drunk and hooked up. After that, every time I saw him he was all smiles and cutesy around me. Then, a couple of nights ago, we both drank again and had sex again. Afterwards we sat up together and talked then fell asleep together. He's still very nice to me and things, but I'm afraid that he might get attached because he has been known to do that in the past. But I am not sure because he is 21 and I am 17 (almost 18) and I don't know if the age barrier is a factor. Also, I don't think I want to start anything with him but a good friendship. Any ideas?
2007-07-21 06:44:48 · 21 answers · asked by Holly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Notice that the only way you guys have sex is when your drunk. See if he does the same things when he sober. If you don't want him to get attached, then stop drinking and having sex with him, and be care full cause sex brings out more emotion for a woman.Good Luck
2007-07-21 06:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by imari104012000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say don't get drunk but that sounds like a problem for you. Just be honest with him. Tell him you are not looking for anything serious or you are not sure that you would want to go that way with your relationship. He may feel the same way and is just trying to be nice so its not weird. Talk to him that's all I can say! Oh and the age thing not a big deal. You are a little young but hell there are 14 years old that are pregnant. Just be careful ok. Its not a good idea to be getting drunk and having sex at your age but its already happened. So Just please be careful!
2007-07-21 06:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by ???? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I don't think four years is that big of a deal. Second, if you don't want to start anything with him, THEN DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM, because obviously that's sending out the wrong idea. Since you allowed yourself to be attached to him in that manner, you have to explain to him that all you want is a good friendship and just try to put it what happened behind you and start over. I guess that's the best thing you can do since something physical happened between the both of you already.
2007-07-21 06:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by Yuki 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can't keep getting drunk and making out with him, you need to send him a clear picture, either you are interested and don't mind giving him sex, or you don;t want too and need to put the brakes when he starts coming on to you. Age really is not the factor here!!
2007-07-21 06:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by c w 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girls who get drunk and drop their panties often catch a nine month virus! If you are going to continue being easy after a few drinks make sure you take your birth control while you are sober. As far as safe sex is concerned, I don't know if you are sober enough to know if it is safe or not.
2007-07-21 06:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to like you have a decision to make--do you want to increase the relationship and hook up more oftern or just let him go and move on.
Right now you are using him to get what you want and that is not being fair to him or yourself.
2007-07-21 06:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by scotishbob 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you to should hook up together.you never no,it might be a great relationship.just try.you are almost as old as him so i dont think the age matters.age is nothing but a number.so go out with him and have a great time,if ti doesnt worry it was a nice try to do so though.
2007-07-21 07:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Nairobi Y 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Damn, don't we all wish we could just have some good friends to occasionally get drunk and have sex with?
2007-07-21 07:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by gunplumber_462 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hes using you
2007-07-21 06:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
um ur too young to be getting drunk nd he's to old to be having sex with a 17 year old... so i suggest just to be friends and nothing more before consequences come along.
good luck ;]
2007-07-21 06:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by cutey pa-tudy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋