no stupid answers please..and no i don't dress in a very revealing way, i'm not an idiot or slag!
2007-07-21 06:41:07 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have a boyfriend...
i went out last night to a pub with him and oen of his male friends (who happens to be a body builder, btw)
and still i felt awkward..i don't feel scared (whe i'm with guys like i was last night) just a bit embaressed, and i'm pretty sure my boyfriend doesn't like it either
2007-07-21 06:55:55 · update #1
Grow a beard......sorry, but i could'nt help it.
2007-07-21 06:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Papa Dom 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you are talking about straight women who have a few gay guy friends in their repetoire or straight women for whom all their friends are gay guys. The second group is what I think you are talking about. I have noticed that too. I think these women are avoiding sex. They need to look within themselves to figure out why that is. In the meantime they are the gay boys' servants. If you examine these relationships more closely, you will discover that the boys who hang out with girls like that usually have no other female friends. And she doesn't have any female friends either. This hag will literally serve her boys by being available, both physically and emotionally, 24/7. It's a support system for her boys. She goes where they want to go and is a shoulder for them to cry on when they need one. Sadly, too often, the support is a one way street. But the hag doesn't mind. At first. Eventually, she wakes up, grows up, and moves on. That's when she stops squealing, starts getting more friends of her own kind, and her rose is in bloom. She becomes a secure, mature, woman.
2016-05-19 03:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know you are not interested and walk away. There are always going to be perverts in bars and alcohol just makes these men worse. Try to always have a male with you that will protect you and make sure that these men do not bother you or go in a group of female friends. In a bar women do not have to dress revealing to get a man's attention, it is just the alcohol brings it out in them worse. Also I think you should be able to dress and go where ever you want to, with out having to be scared of what other people might think or do. For some one to tell you just to stay away from a bar because of a way a man may act is just wrong. I have had men come up to me at grocery stores and say pervert remarks. Men like that are not just in bars they are every where. If the men want back off go to the management and have their butts kicked out. The stay at home or go to church comment is wrong in my opinion also, like I said before perverts are every where even church. Just stand your ground and let them know yo demand respect.
2007-07-21 06:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cristy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do, just be around your friends and maybe have a guy friend around you.
Normally, bars are places that guys to go meet girls and hit on them and hope to get laid and just have one night stands and so on, or just go out with friends and have a good time while they drink a beer and talk about stuff and so on. Sports bars are a bit different though.
A sure thing thought that can work is if you get a fake engagement ring and when someone sends you a drink or anything, just show him the ring and say "Sorry."
I hope I helped!
Good luck!
2007-07-21 06:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by DeniDeni 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to be polite firstly excuse yourself and go to the toilet, then return to a different spot away from them when you come back. If that doesn't work tell them politely that you're flattered but not interested. If that doesn't work say "I don't want to talk to you - now take a hint and * off" and then turn your back on them.
If you're not bothered about polite then just turn your back towards them and talk to your friend when they first approach and then if they insist on trying to talk to you anyway go with the final one above.
I've been called an ice queen a few times on nights out - my friends think it's hilarious - but I just find it really rude when people keep interrupting a conversation despite many hints, especially given that my wedding and engagement rings are fairly good signs I'm not interested to start with!
2007-07-21 07:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, there's really not much you can do. You have the right to dress up like you want. It's the men, they cant seem to get enough of us. Its like they've never seen a woman before in there ignorant lives. Just try not to pay attention to them, and have a good time.
2007-07-21 06:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by imari104012000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you arent drunk..that is how men get girls, then next thing you know youre pregnant! Just be careful, and be with your friends, dont go off alone. Being in a group, it will be more intimidating for men to hit on you, or if you already have a guy with you that works too.
2007-07-21 06:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by marya 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're the naturall pretty type that respects herself...of course, that's gonna happen :) here's what you should do - when you go to the bars, make sure you have at least ONE good male friend (that your comfortable with and you trust) that can be like your personal bodyguard. Drink with your friends but when a guy comes around, get your buddy to be your "boyfriend" - the good, straight, guys will know, so it's not like you're scarring them off...just the creepy guys :)
2007-07-21 06:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Avoid bars, and then hang around leery men in bookstores!
Seriously, guys in bars drink, and think women who go to bars are looking to hookup. Mainly because, that's the two things bars are for! Drinking and hooking up!
It's like asking how you can keep the tigers from attacking you. Stop hanging a steak around your neck and stop going into tiger habitats.
2007-07-21 06:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin B 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The only sure way, and I'm sure your not going to like this answer, well here it is, You just stay out of bars, because they're gonna be there waiting for you everytime you go out. Hope this helps.
2007-07-21 06:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's difficult to answer without knowing more. Are you there hoping you'll meet someone? Are you alone?
If you just stopped in for a drink and want to be left alone by someone you don't care to talk to, justs try to say that. "Sorry, I just came in to be alone and have a quiet drink." Or, "Look, I'm not interested in talking to you." I think you can't be polite with men or they think there's still hope for them and it's a challenge. You have to be firm and look away. Or maybe the bartender can help you. Good luck!
2007-07-21 06:47:41 · answer #11 · answered by P S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋