Now mine is a peculiar situation,i live in a russian city which has studies mostly in russian v have only one Indian school(v r Indians)&the standard is not so high,and the other International schools are so costly that v cant afford .Me &my husband are like any other couple loving but at times v r very violent so now the catch is our son is going 2 b 5 he cries a lot at our fights which r every 3 mths (very violent ons)& v need to b really serious about his studies ,my husband suggests that i need 2 shift bak to India with my in Laws for his studies in Delhi.Inspite of all the fights i dont want 2leave my hubby alone (no case of extra maritals with him at least i trust him completely)just cos i feel like living alone may grow the distance btw us als I m not used 2 staying with in laws for past 7yrs.He says he will b visting us every 3 mths or earlier and v can always spend the 3mths summer break here .So do u think i shud acept his suggestion of movin bak.Thanx 4 readin my long tale
2007-07-21 05:56:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anoymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
DO I UNDERSTAND YOU CORRECTLY????? YOU WANT TO STAY IN THIS VERY VILOENT MARRIAGE, NOT TO MENTION THAT IT'S DESTROYING YOUR SON....YOUR NOT A PIECE OF CARPET FOR YOUR HUSBAND TO WIPE HIS FEET ON....WHY DON'T YOU TRY TO LIVE THE AMERICAN DREAM !!! GET HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE AND LEAVE THIS ABUSIVE HUSBAND........
2007-07-26 17:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by cherokee squaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your sons's sake, stop the violent fighting even if it is only every 3 months or so.
Don't leave your husband - he will be glad you are gone. No one enjoys a marriage with violent fights. He will realize immediately that he doesn't miss the fights. He will easily find that being with someone else, there would be NO fights and if there were any, they wouldn't be violent.
Your marriage needs to be fixed, not your son's schooling. There are other Indian families who have children attending the Indian school. If you consider that school inferior, consider ways that you can improve it.
Your marriage is in trouble - you are not like any other couple if you regularly fight enough to upset your son. And if you use the word 'violent' to describe your fights, I hope you don't mean physical violence. Even just screaming and yelling regularly about issues will rattle a calm person.
Put your marriage first.
2007-07-27 02:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right that it will bring more distance between you. Also, your son might be so depressed about you all being apart that he might do WORSE in school. I think I would stay at home and work on not getting into such violent fights at home with your man. Because kids know what's going on even if they're not in the same room. Work on a loving relationship with all three of you and maybe his studies will improve on their own.
2007-07-21 13:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bad fighting is hurting your child. i am not sure why you would not go with your parents? why is that? i don't know why he wants you to leave but there has to be more then just fighting for what reason. think gilr maybe real problems you dont' realize.
2007-07-28 12:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kid''s studies
2007-07-21 13:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't want your child exposed to all that fighting..........however you need to try to stay a family it will be very hard on you and your child to have to move
2007-07-21 13:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kid studies for most people.
2007-07-29 11:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an equal balance. (GO TO CHURCH)
2007-07-28 16:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋