my mom was vacuuming and she found a note i had wrote my friend in school . and it was about how my boyfriend sells weed. she confronted me with it and i told her it was my friend who wrote it and she got really upset and was pretty much crying and saying how i could be lying and stuff .i dont want to tell her, so whut do i do? just let it go?
2007-07-21 05:48:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I was 16, my mom found a letter I wrote to my 21yo boyfriend IN JAIL and talked about me smoking marijuanna. Luckily, the slang didn't translate, so she thought I was talking about being drunk!
It was a rough patch for us....for the drinking AND the overage felonious boyfriend.
Realistically, if you can cover it up, cover it up. I mean, that's what you want to do right? But you if you sound like a bold faced liar, don't bother. It seems like mom knows you are lying. And if you don't at least come out with some truth, she is not going to trust you.
I'm not sure how important this boyfriend is to you, but after mom knows he sells weed, she probably will NEVER warm up to him....and may even make you break up with him.
I'm in my 30's now. My mom and I get along great and laugh about stuff like this that happened to me. She is worried about you and just wants you to live a good and just life. You have some decisions to make to make this right.
2007-07-21 05:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your better question is why are you hanging out with a guy who deals. You can do better. MUCH better, sure he might have some money now but he's got NO future. Dealing doesn't usually lead to a highly successful business career or good life, it leads to petty cash, petty crime and being basically a dirt-bag, willing to do questionable stuff for a fast buck.
So while your boyfriend might seem like a cool guy right now, deep down, he's got issues, those are issues you don't need in your life.
Because if he's so willing to do low stuff for a fast buck you can be sure he'll do whatever he wants when it comes to feeling good as well, so if there's a whole set of temptations at his door when some cute girl can't pay cash but has other forms of payment in mind, you get to feel insecure about that too.
That's pretty much why your Mom is upset and why you should be making distance between yourself and your ethically challenged bf.
Do better for yourself, focus on your work in school and get a better BF.
2007-07-21 06:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mark T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you stick by someone and jeopardize the trusting relationship you have with your mom (who'll stick by you FOREVER) for some weed selling loser? Are you ok with him selling weed cause it isn't heroin? It is still illegal-is he worth it? Is he worth getting in trouble over? Probably not. Be the grownup that you want everyone to think that you are and tell your mom the truth, dump the loser, and make better choices in life. That is, of course, unless you want to live a Jerry Springer life as an adult and have the rest of America laughing at you.
2007-07-21 06:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to tell your mother the truth, that you think so little of yourself that you would have a b/f who is a drug dealer?
Don't you think she already knows you have no self respect?
2007-07-21 05:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt let it go because then if u let it go, your gonna have that bad feeling inside you for a long time that u lied to your mom, and if you tell her the truth you will get it off your chest, and not have to worry that u lied to your mother.
Good Luck! :-)
2007-07-21 06:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let her know the whole situation and see what she says. if she tells you to break up with him and you disagree with her, try to sort it out with your bf. i mean, if it isn't true, you could talk to your mom about what a lie the note is...
2007-07-21 05:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just let it go it'd be easier that way. unless your mom knows how to get stuff out of people.
2007-07-21 06:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋