My son is spoilt he has started to hit to get what he wants, what do i do to make him stop?

Question

hitting 2 get what he wants

I DO NOT HIT MY SON

Answer 1

oh hun, my son is 3 1/2 and sometimes strikes out if he doesnt get his way, i tend to take him from the situation and calmly but firmly tell him it is unacceptable and that he cannot behave that way, then he gets a 3 min time out to cool off, if he continues with this tantrum and will time out again and again until he understands. Always make your child say what they have done wrong and get them to apologise there and then, then forget about it and start again with what you were doing. hope this helps xxxxx

Answer 2

my dauhter has the on and off tantrums and she did it once but i stopped that there and then i told her that if she hit me again i would not speak to her this actually worked for me and she has not hit again.
i think that when he is having a tantrum just ignore him as the more u speak to him ie oh whats happened son or even follow him hes gonna get worse and scream more and then even hit but just make sure that he's out of any danger and place him on a sofa or carpet away from where he can harm himself. DO NOT GIVE IN to his demand and even when he has calmed down just ignore him for a little while to show him that you are angry for what he has done he will then realise that he made such a commotion for nothing.
when my daughter who's 2 1/2 used to do this i just ignored her and believe me she would come to me in tears and say sorry mama i want a hug n a kissy thats the time when i could reason with her and tell her WHY I SAID NO
don't buy anything unnecessarily for him tell him that he has to wait until his birthday or may be some other special occasion.
i know its really hard to do this honey as you love your son and thats obviously why he has taken you for granted but you really have to stop this now otherwise it will get worse.
and if you say no then dad or grandparents will have to say no too and not support him until he realises how much he is hurting you
hope my advice made sense to you and good luck i'm sure he will get better just needs to know how much you are upset about him hitting you. good you don't hit him otherwise things would get even more worse
take care

Answer 3

I feel your pain. I'm going through the same thing. She hits everyone if she is mad at you or wants something. It has gotten so much better though. This is what I did.

Every time she starts pulling a tantrum like she wants something and starts that hysterical crying we just let her throw herself on the floor. We stand in front of her and say sturnly,"when you are done, let me know" and walk away. In about 5 seconds she realizes that her tantrum is pointless and continues with the day.
When she hits, I do not hit back, it's pointless. I get down on her level and hold her hands firmly but not enough to hurt her. I say very sturnly again that "we do not hit people" and I take that same hand and bring her to a spot on the rug or in a chair away from things and tell her time out because she hit. The key I think is to remind them again why they are in time out cause they have a short attention span. (1 minute for every year they are).

Answer 4

what you need to do is stop spoiling your son and start diciplining him and the earlier the better. Try 1-2-3 magic what it is is a dicipline action where if your son is doing something you don't want him to do tell him no then tell him that is 1. If he does it again say 2 and 3 for the next time. By the 3rd time if he doesn't listen place him somewhere where he doesn't like it and only do timeout for his age group so if he was 3 it would be 3 minutes. Time outs are 1 minute per year of age. I started this with my son last week and already he is listening better and he still has to be put into his timeout corner from time to time.

Answer 5

if he's spoilt, it's because he's BEEN spoilt - look at how you have caused this and remedy it, quickly.

Yoiu cannot teach him to not to hit by hitting him - think of the ridiculousness of this - he will highly likely only do it more.

If he hits to get what he wants... is this because he actually GETS what he wants by doing it?

Don't LET him hit! Now you know he does it, predict his behaviour and catch his arms and ensure he doens't do it. Ensure he gets NOTHING, especially your positive attention when he does this.

Ensure you have LOADS of positive, quality time with hiim where you praise him for being the lovely boy you know he can be.

Answer 6

I don't know why everybody thinks it's ok to hit or spank your child. If you wrote that you don't want to hit him you obviously are looking for other suggestions. Put him in a time out. But I really don't have the answer my daughter has been started to bite and hit me. Not for getting what she wants. I don't know the reason but I still think it's not ok to hit. Sorry I didn't answer your question I just wanted to tell my opinion.

Answer 7

Use a technique known as - DISCIPLINE. You are the parent, he will have to learn he can't have his own way all the time, if he kicks off remove whatever it is he wants completely and tell him why you have done it. Very quickly he will learn that when you say no you mean no, the next time say "do you want me to put it away?" and if he continues put it away. It sounds harsh but far too many parents bow to demands, and we are bringing a generation of brats into society (not that I am saying your son is a brat or you bow to his demands). Kids have to learn early that they can't always have what they want, once they reach their teens they will not cope unless they have learned this lesson.

Answer 8

Don't hit him back. That will only train him to be a violent youth and adult. Just resist him and deprive him of things he wants. This is going to be a long and painful experience but you must be firm. If you want your son to have reasonable future you must win. Just don't be violent back, no matter how much you are provoked. He's testing you.

Answer 9

I agree with jakeja8m ignore the bad behaviour (as long as he is not hurting himself or others) and praise the good behaviour. It does work I have tried it with my youngest he is hyperactive plus other problems and wanted to sort him out without medication, that is what I was advised to do at a behaviour managment course. Your child will soon realise the benefits of good behaviour esp a less stressed mommy.

Answer 10

Dear Yahoo User,
You need to start refusing your son. He will realize that when you give him things for misbehaving he will keep doing it. You need to have a talk with your son, and tell him. "Everytime you misbehave you will get something taken from you". That is how you can get your child in shape. Do not hit your child unless it is necessary. Also, let the father hang out with your child, and anything over $250.00 you do not by him. That means there is no buying a Sony PlayStation 3. He does not deserve to be getting treated like a king when he is acting like a baby. Children get respect when they show it. If he wants to act like a baby treat him like one. Put him in a time out chair, cut his allowance, even punish him. Things are given to him like death is given to evil persons. So, you can take my foolish advice or you cannot. I suggest you do, or your child could become angry inside. You could also bring him to a counsler to see what he feels like when he acts up. Now I am telling you that you should make his bedtime 7:30pm. And also if he stays up later than his bedtime, take that time a subtract it from the next day's bedtime. I hope that you liked my advice. Thank You. Bye.