I am a 45 year old man and whenever I make advances to satisfy my natural sexual urge, my wife scolds me or shows an indifferent behaviour or even sometimes quarrels with me. She says I have become aged and I should abstain from sexual activities with her. This has caused quarrel between us several times but she is bent on continuing her rude, indifferent or rather cruel behaviour with me.
What should I do?
2007-07-21 05:03:12 · 11 answers · asked by Paresh P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know about divorce but it will spoil my children's life in addition to giving bad name to both of us.
2007-07-21 05:07:10 · update #1
Tell her flat out... that you will find it else where... if she does not help soon... you are a man with needs... i could not imagine my spouse doing that to me...
Is she getting it else where? as a woman i have those needs and wants...
2007-07-21 05:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by happygolcky75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex therapist. Maybe your wife loves you, but is unhappy with herself and no longer sees herself as sexy and sexual. Your wife has reached an older age and she maybe thought it was fine to have sex when her body was young and thin and for some reason now things that middle-aged people shouldn't have sex. Also, she's a mother and maybe has a distorted view of mothers having sex. Ask your wife if she wants you to find sex elsewhere. A man of any age needs sex and if you don't get sex from her you're going to go find it elsewhere. Simple. You need to get counseling. Do not give up on your marriage. Divorce is not an option especially when there is children involved. I understand. Your wife probably does a lot of things right but when it comes to sex, she is wrong and needs some help probably from a sex therapist or counselor. Good luck!
2007-07-21 05:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paresh P. in my opinion I would suggest that you and your wife seek out some professional help from either a relationship or sexual counsellor. You haven't really explained the reason why your wife denies your advances and/or has lost interest in making love with you other than she is starting to view you as aged. Fact of live is that we are sexual animals and as such will enjoy performing the act of sex until we are planted. If you and her cannot talk about what is happening in her life that has caused her to lose interest than as I suggested it may be necessary to seek advice from a non-partial professional. Best of luck to you both in getting things back on track.
2007-07-21 05:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try showing her some affection. Being just a receptacle for sexual urges can be a turn-off. You can also try marriage counseling; you two need to be able to communicate your different needs better. Also, has she had a check up lately? It may be hormonal as well. But try the affection first, eh?
2007-07-21 05:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else who says to try some counseling. It might be that she has other issues she doesn't want to talk about and it's coming out as "rejection". Who knows. I wouldn't really know but I would think that if you really loved somebody and that's what they wanted, even if you didn't, you would do it for them. Best of luck!
2007-07-21 05:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Katie T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you need the sex,and if she's not going to take care of you you'll find someone that will,even if you really don't,maybe it'll wake her up,also she could be going through that time in her life that women go through,so give her some time,that can be rough on women,and not her fault!!!
2007-07-21 06:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is your marriage other than that? Women need more stimulation than men. When i say stimulation i mean mentally, and emotionally as well as physically.
Women need to be shown romance, love, etc.
There is always relationship counseling.
2007-07-21 05:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that u have a sexual urge and if u cant obtain it, then 1 of u guys is going to have to leave
2007-07-21 05:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Tiff24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I CAN SEE ALL YOU CARE ABOUT IS YOURSELF..
AND WHAT YOU WANT..
SHE IS JUST PROTECTING HERSELF FROM A SELFISH MAN...
GET SOME HELP FOR YOURSELF, YOU ARE THE ONE THAT NEEDS AN ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT.
A WOMAN IS TO BE LOVED, NOT USED AS YOUR DUMPING GROUND....LIKE A TOILET. GET IT?
YOU ARE TURNING HER OFF WITH YOUR LACK OF SKILLS.
2007-07-21 06:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by mary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, sounds like sh cant stand you,, see a shrink, or leave.. its not worth it to live that way.... time to move ahead...
2007-07-21 07:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋