Where do i have my wedding?

Question

His family is in Los Angeles. My family is east coast (Virginia, Maryland, New York.) I grew up in Richmond, Va. In Richmond, my family has a lot of connections with restuarnts and vendors and such. My question, Do i have my wedding in Richmond where i can probably get a lot of great deals on vendors near my family, OR do i have it in Dc, where it would be more cost effective for his family to fly into? I live directly (almost to the mile) smack dab in the middle of the two. There is NO question we're having it in VA or Dc, because my family is much larger than his. How accomidating to i want to be? Date isnt set til '09.

Answer 1

Even though it might be more cost effective for his family to fly into DC, depending on the time of year and what's going on in the capital region, the hotel room prices might be sky high or unavailable.

Price out the average hotel room price and airfare in DC and compare it to Va. If they're coming from NY, if they live in the 5 boroughs, use Laguardia Airport (Long Island), JFK Airport(Queens) and Newark Airport (NJ - but 15 minutes from the Holland Tunnel, Staten Island and 20 minutes from Brooklyn) in your search.

Regardless, pick a hotel nearest where you will have your reception. If you can have a reception in a hotel, so much the better. If you have it in a hotel, they generally block a number of rooms for you and give a little cut on the rates for the reception guests staying in their facility.

Family members who love you and your groom to be will travel to the ends of the earth to see you get married - just try to be mindful that unless they're independently wealthy, the more they have to spend on airfare and hotels, the cheaper your wedding gift (it's true in NYC - lol).

Answer 2

It really depends on what your budget is going to be ... the DC area is very expensive when it comes to vendors - especially if you're going at it alone. With a wedding planner negotiating for you, things can come down quite a lot. Since you're not living in the area anymore, I would definitely recommend hiring a planner just to make things easier on yourself and your family. Once you come up with a working budget, it will be much easier to start doing some preliminary research and figuring out what works best for you. Let me know if you need any recommendations for the Richmond area as I do have planning friends there.

Answer 3

"How accomidating do I want to be?" This question is irrelevant. Your wedding day is YOUR day. There are plenty of options of adding a hop from DC to Virginia either by air or by car (about 100 miles).
There are, however a couple of considerations for you. Traditionally, a bride is married in her families hometown church. Nontraditionally, a couple chooses a place that just seems perfect to them. I am not familiar with the area of Richmond, but I do know a little about DC and there are many beautiful places to choose from there. There are a lot of things to consider; time of year, inside or outside, traditional or contemporary or a bit of both. Again - I emphasize - this is YOUR day, and the TWO of YOU come first. Many blessing!

Answer 4

Listen closely, and the foolishness will cease. The wedding is the bride's day, not the groom's. No one goes to a wedding to watch the male come down the isles when the music starts to play. He is already standing his little tired self by the priest or minister when you make your grand entry.

Don't make place a big deal! This is not negotiation time; it is YOUR wedding!

Wedding preparations are stressful enough because you want all the pieces to fall into place. What is best for you? Where do you want to get married? That is all that matters. You have to put your foot down and stop being pushed one way or the other.

Is he going to tell you what city to give birth and at what time? Most brides to be will tell him" This is not about you!" "This is my day!"

This is a non issue. I am a male, and I have enough sense to know that the pending bride tells everyone her arrangements. The groom may put in his two cents, but it does not or should not conflict with her plans. This is one of the biggest days of a woman's life, and she should be able to call the shots as she sees them.

Answer 5

if you live smack dab in the middle why not have it smack dab in the middle. to be honest you don't really sound like you are honestly being accomidating, but just my two cents. i think it would be only right to keep in mind cost of them flying in, it would kinda be a downer on his day to not have as many ppl as possible there to share his day. especially being that your family is much larger. and just cause u grew up in a place doesn't mean u have to have it there, you can look into somewhere in the middle, for west coast and east coast to meet. cause if you save on some things you all can pitch in with ppl flying in for your day

Answer 6

i want greater of a backyard form wedding ceremony... like at an fairly helpful southern plantation, have the marriage cerimony in the interior mid-day, with the reception outdoors in the evening while it cools down. i want chinese language (or is it eastern?) lantern-esque lights with yellow roses and accents of orange with the main suited color being white. in basic terms some human beings from the two ingredient of the family contributors (like 15-25 each and every). and the nutrition would be set up like an elegant buffet. thats all i've got been given so some distance, yet i think of it will be the suited wedding ceremony for me (if my destiny husband likes it too).

Answer 7

It sounds like DC would be best. If his family can travel from Los Angeles to DC, then your family can travel from VA to DC. It sounds fair for both families. Your family can rent a huge limo or limos and drive together from VA to DC. Good luck!

Answer 8

How about in DC? Your family was the first priority, being larger. So make it easier for his family to come... especially considering the state of air travel in the US these days!! ;)

Answer 9

Have them fly into Dulles using JetBlue because they have cheap non stop flights from California. Have your wedding in Richmond because its so beautiul there plus you'll save money. GOOD LUCK WITH THE WEDDING!!!!

Answer 10

go with richmond.
i would want the hook up rather than the full price cost of another location. maybe with such advance notice his family can book super cheap airline fares.