I am about to lose my mind, b/c of my in-laws. Everytime I try to tell them NO, they keep persisting.
Here is the list of questions they REPEATEDLY ASK ME!
1. can we, ( FIL & MIL) be in the delivery room and take pictures? And Just "BE THERE" to witness...I think they are sick to want to see my neither regions!
2. Will you, hubby & son go with us to the water park? ( Even though I am having complications, Back & heart problems) Even BIL from Texas asked me 3 times, and I told him NO!
3. can you take a week off while your BIL and family is in town, to spend the entire week with us and them?
( they are coming down next weekend! How can I get the ok by next week? DUH!)
I am NOT supposed to be under any stress...I just got out of the hospital with my heart, luckily the baby is ok.
What do I do?
Please help me!
2007-07-21 04:24:18 · 15 answers · asked by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You do what the dr told you to do.
You also say no to all their requests then get as much bed rest as you can. Dont sit there arguing with them or anyone, just go to bed. Whats the point of arguing with idiots?
OK? repeat this mantra: Say no then walk away and do not argue or say another word, go to bed if thats the only escape you have.
2007-07-21 04:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi....I have a question...Where is your hubby when all of this has taken place? Where is his support in this matter? Your husband needs to think about you instead of what the "in laws want"! It sounds to me as if the In laws are on the selfish side and not thinking whats in your best interest or the baby's'. Now I do not like to judge because I don't know your in laws but in my opinion your husband needs to take a firm stand and tell each side that your health is more important than the "water park" or other issues that they may have. I can see them wanting to help if your husband is going away for a certain period of time but having them underfoot isn't the answer either. They might feel that their way of thinking might be of good interest for you but they aren't seeing your side of things. You and your husband need to firmly but in a nice manner tell your in-laws about your issues you are having and why and then tell them you appreciate their advice and concern but right now isn't a good time. You need your rest and you can't be stressed out on trivial issues. Good luck with your situation and have a blessed day!
2007-07-21 04:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law is very similar. She is very pushy and doesn't like when I give her the answers that she doesn't want to hear. When I was pregnant, she told me the same thing. That she wanted to be in the delivery room. I told my husband absolutely not! I told her she could come for a visit, but I only wanted my husband there in the end (during the pushing stage). I too thought it would be gross to have my in-laws in the delivery. I ended up have a C-section, so the doctors wouldn't allow her to come in anyway.
With my situation, I found it very stressful during pregnancy to deal with my MIL. I ended up having to tell my hubby that he had to deal with her. Sometimes, I do not think that MIL really listen to the daughters-in-law. It takes the sons to speak on our behalf to get the point accross. Good Luck with that one! It only gets worse after the baby is born!
2007-07-21 04:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy in Cali 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to be to be silly, but this is serious, so you need to talk to your Dr, and if possible have him talk to them. When you go into labor, or even now, please notify in writing the hospital, the nurses, and your Dr exactly WHO you will permit in the delivery room. It's really important for you to put yourself and your baby first. I hope your husband is giving you some back up on this. These people sound like a bunch of ignorant clods; if I was there I'd turn a pack of wolves loose on them, ha ha!
2007-07-21 04:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell them just that : I am NOT supposed to be under any stress...I just got out of the hospital with my heart"
I get so angry with these people too. My mother in law doesn't understand no, she keeps going on so now I tell my husband to deal with this nonsense.
2007-07-21 04:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have caller ID? If you don't I recommend that you get it and stop taking their calls. I never answer the phone when my MIL is calling and I've been married for almost 14 years. Don't stress about this, stop answering the phone. Also, where is your husband in all this? It's his family that's stressing you and he needs to tell them that your baby is in jepordy and they need to stop bothering you. He really should be handling this problem.
2007-07-21 04:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your hubby to talk to them about the stress you're under and the need for them to back off a bit.
2007-07-21 04:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i suspect that u are married. If so have ur husband help. If u want 2 say no then get ur husband and tehn say that ur not supose to be under stress or over activity because of the baby.
2007-07-21 04:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHERE IS YOUR HUSBAND? If you are ill, he should be handling things with his parents , and leaving you to get well. I would ask him to get things under his controll and to take the role of the "bad guy". Thats his job. That way you can get well and have a less stressful pregnancy.
2007-07-21 04:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by donellew2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry that this is happening to you does your hubby set them staright at all I know mine sure did when the tough got going so did my husband. Stay strong and Healthy best wishes
2007-07-21 04:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by ImSpoilednLoveit 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋